nakedtao
Member
OK real quick, 48 year old guy and been struggling with this since my early 20s, maybe before that even. My longest stretch ever was 60 days but most of my attempts have been more like one or two days. I've started and quit these sorts of journals and blogs more times than I can count but maybe one day it will work.
Not even attempting a difficult thing is the surest way to fail. Attempting runs a close second.
"Putting in the Work" is a good name, when I was younger I thought I just had to gain some little kernel of knowledge or understanding and in doing so everything would just fall into place and it would be no big deal. That's right up there with the Powerball fantasy, I mean sure it's possible but the odds are highly unlikely.
So this is a marathon, maybe more like an ultra marathon. It's a long thankless difficult slog but future me will be so incredibly grateful that current me is willing to suffer through this part.
So I'll work at this, i'll put in the work. Some things I will try to avoid, all or nothing thinking, the belief that somehow my addiction is more powerful or harder to overcome than others, thinking that quitting porn will solve all of my problems, the belief that it is too big for me.
NT
Not even attempting a difficult thing is the surest way to fail. Attempting runs a close second.
"Putting in the Work" is a good name, when I was younger I thought I just had to gain some little kernel of knowledge or understanding and in doing so everything would just fall into place and it would be no big deal. That's right up there with the Powerball fantasy, I mean sure it's possible but the odds are highly unlikely.
So this is a marathon, maybe more like an ultra marathon. It's a long thankless difficult slog but future me will be so incredibly grateful that current me is willing to suffer through this part.
So I'll work at this, i'll put in the work. Some things I will try to avoid, all or nothing thinking, the belief that somehow my addiction is more powerful or harder to overcome than others, thinking that quitting porn will solve all of my problems, the belief that it is too big for me.
NT