I need to up my game.

Orbiter

Well-Known Member
Just an urge Escape, it can't make you do anything you don't want to.

Breathe through it, take a break from the devices and do something else til you're feeling better.

You got this.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Day 9

It's been a while since I've made it to day 9. I feel more active but the craving + urges are massive, man. I'm on the verge of relapsing in any moment. I feel that I can't resist the temptation.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Come on man!!!It's all in your head think about the energy you have now and that will grow and think about how you will feel if you relapse and what for ?? stupid masturbation? Choose to live life not go through it i'm 24 days and i feel like god
Damn, man! 24 days! You're doing great! Thanks for encouragement.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Day 10

I feel better mentally but I crave porn and drinking. If I drink, I will fuck up this streak too, that's what always happens. I start convincing myself that I could handle a little bit of drinking without looking at porn and then game over.
 

Robby82

Member
Try drinking but outside the home so that even if you are tempted you cannot watch porn drinking helps to socialize in the right way use it for that we must not deprive ourselves of the pleasures of life but learn to enjoy it to the best of our ability if you are already feeling better after 10 days it means that it works be strong and think about the energy you have you don't want to lose it and you can increase it !!!!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Try drinking but outside the home so that even if you are tempted you cannot watch porn drinking helps to socialize in the right way use it for that we must not deprive ourselves of the pleasures of life but learn to enjoy it to the best of our ability if you are already feeling better after 10 days it means that it works be strong and think about the energy you have you don't want to lose it and you can increase it !!!!
Thanks for advice.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
I've been craving porn all day. Not big urges but intense craving for pleasure. I am not as motivated this time as I was in June this year, I wish I had that determination from back then. I don't know, I'm trying to make it to the end of the day without mistakes.
 

Phineas 808

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If I drink, I will fuck up this streak too, that's what always happens. I start convincing myself that I could handle a little bit of drinking without looking at porn and then game over.

It may be that drinking is part of your ritual. But always remember that, even if you drank, you can still interupt your ritual and not take it all the way to P, or PMO.

Bottom line, brother, you're in control! Prove it to yourself, pour a little drink (ginger ale or just ale), deep breathe, look at it in the glass, deep breathe, and then pour it down the drain...! Some people go through their ritual without actually responding to the urges!

What worked for me, even back in 2016, was learning how to 'work with' my urges. You have to know that no matter how strong the urges are, they always pass, always... it's like a law of nature. When I learned this (and yes, I had failures trying to learn it!), something fundamental 'clicked' in my head:

Outside stimuli, such as cues (triggers) and their uges, can't make me do anything. It's only as I resist them, fight them, or feed them, that I strengthen the habituated neural pathways.

The less I respond, the weaker these 'well-worn' grooves become, and I take back my freedom.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
It may be that drinking is part of your ritual. But always remember that, even if you drank, you can still interupt your ritual and not take it all the way to P, or PMO.

Bottom line, brother, you're in control! Prove it to yourself, pour a little drink (ginger ale or just ale), deep breathe, look at it in the glass, deep breathe, and then pour it down the drain...! Some people go through their ritual without anctually responding to the urges!

What worked for me, even back in 2016, was learning how to 'work with' my urges. You have to know that no matter how strong the urges are, they always pass, always... it's like a law of nature. When I learned this (and yes, I had failures trying to learn it!), something fundamental 'clicked' in my head:

Outside stimuli, such as cues (triggers) and their uges, can't make me do anything. It's only as I resist them, fight them, or feed them, that I strengthen the habituated neural pathways.

The less I respond, the weaker these 'well-worn' grooves become, and I take back my freedom.
Thanks for advice.
 

Robby82

Member
Yesterday I almost ejaculated I watched some porn scenes of an actress I like for a few hours but I managed to control myself I just got aroused and touched I had been drinking and this affected me a little I did not want to throw all my sacrifices away only a day 26 i'm sorry i watched those scenes but i still resisted i want to go on with my path but hoping to be able to have real sex as soon as possible
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Day 11

I craved porn all evening, yesterday. It was a mental agony. I was crazy about watching porn and at the same time, stopping myself. This created a big mental misery. I was making plans to watch "a little bit". The craving is unbearable. I don't know how much I can continue.
 

Robby82

Member
Day 11

I craved porn all evening, yesterday. It was a mental agony. I was crazy about watching porn and at the same time, stopping myself. This created a big mental misery. I was making plans to watch "a little bit". The craving is unbearable. I don't know how much I
Make no mistake I almost gave in yesterday but in the end I won I watched some videos and that's it without ejaculation just a little crush is the willpower that makes the difference go out and keep your mind busy it is when you are alone and sad that takes you wants
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Day 0

I edged to fantasies then PMOed once after about 5 minutes of looking at some pictures.

I don't know how people deal with the unbearable craving. I really don't know. I'm not talking about urges here, I'm talking about the craving. I have no idea how some of you get astronomical (for me) numbers like 60 days. I can't deal with the craving for porn. I'm too sexually frustrated, I can't resist the pleasure. I am not sure I can escape this anymore. I should change my fuckin nickname.
 

Phineas 808

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Staff member
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You had a good run, your progress is not lost!

The craving is due to either feeding or fighting the urges... The cravings, the urges will always go down on their own. In the moment take a few deep breaths without criticising yourself for having the urges/cravings, and let them diminish on their own without responding to them, they will pass.

Don't feel sorry for yourself, this thing is what it is, and you can and will escape from it! Change your nickname? Yeah, find one that's even more hopeful, one that's even more determined to change yourself! Find a nickname that will either inspire you, or challenge you to live up to it.

You did hit something with the self-identification idea, just don't go negative with it! I believe in you, brother!
 

Robby82

Member
Day 0

I edged to fantasies then PMOed once after about 5 minutes of looking at some pictures.

I don't know how people deal with the unbearable craving. I really don't know. I'm not talking about urges here, I'm talking about the craving. I have no idea how some of you get astronomical (for me) numbers like 60 days. I can't deal with the craving for porn. I'm too sexually frustrated, I can't resist the pleasure. I am not sure I can escape this anymore. I should change my fuckin nickname.
Never give up you have made progress we are made of flesh and we are weak sometimes even yesterday I was about to give in but with the will we can do it it is not easy not to give up bro you can do more just want it
 
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