Starting to lose hope - PIED still on after 1+ year

plinio

New Member
I'm a 28 YO that has been addicted to porn since teenage years.

I have never had a serious relationship, just short term relationships, one night stands (a lot of dating apps) and experiences with prostitutes.

I progressively developed PIED which i thought was do to performance anxiety (in fact i didn't have that issue with prostitutes) and i tried to fix by using ED pills.

Since 3 years I have started a relationship with my current GF. I kept using porn and managed to have sex with her sometimes with ED pills and sometimes without (sometimes i failed to have sex). As COVID started I began working from home and porn addition become worse which led to more frequent episodes of failed sexual performance.

In January 2021 i realized that i needed to stop with porn for good and i also told my GF about my porn addition.
I told her that i needed some time without sex to reboot and she agreed to stop having sex for a month.

For the first couple of months I wan't completely compliant (sometimes I edged sometimes I didn't look at porn but some IG models or old sexy chat). I was so stupid. After some months the urges become less strong and i was much more compliant. I started having wet dreams and morning moods and by June/July i was able to have successful sex with my GF without using ED pills (strong erections way better that in the past) and i thought i was cured.

Then in august we went in vacation together, i brought 1 pill (0.25 viagra) just in case but i wasn't as hard as in the previous months and i failed to have sex with her without ED drugs.

In general since then my sexual life has become much worse. Able to have sex with ED pills (only sometimes without), no more morning wood, just kept having wet dreams.

I become even more strict and i canceled FB and IG in the attempt to reduce the dopamine spikes but nothing changed. I still don't have morning wood (it's often hard during the night but not in the morning) and i have wet dreams on a weekly basis but after more than a year apart from the 2 months period in which I thought i was cured i can't say that i saw major improvements.

I am healthy, don't smoke or drink and i eat well and exercise on a regular basis. On the negative side i am working a lot from home so i don't have many interactions with my colleague and I'm alone the majority of the day and i'm often alone.

RIght now and for the past months i had absolutely 0 urges, and i am super strict in avoiding sexual contents (if there is a sex scene in a movie i look somewhere else). However when i am exposed to some content by mistake (whatsapp chat with friends or movies) i feel something in my brain that tells me i'm not cured because I'm super excited but also I'm capable to resist that inpulse.

Why is it taking so long? Do you hav suggestions? Should i ask my GF to stop having sex with me for sometimes so that i can turbocharge and avoid using ED pills?
 

plinio

New Member
have you ever told an urologist ?
Yes. Recently on top of PIED i also got some penile curvature/scar tissue which i'm currently treating (i fear they are somehow connected to the usage of ED pills). Apart from that the urologist said my penis is fine
 

Wonder

Member
I'm a 28 YO that has been addicted to porn since teenage years.

I have never had a serious relationship, just short term relationships, one night stands (a lot of dating apps) and experiences with prostitutes.

I progressively developed PIED which i thought was do to performance anxiety (in fact i didn't have that issue with prostitutes) and i tried to fix by using ED pills.

Since 3 years I have started a relationship with my current GF. I kept using porn and managed to have sex with her sometimes with ED pills and sometimes without (sometimes i failed to have sex). As COVID started I began working from home and porn addition become worse which led to more frequent episodes of failed sexual performance.

In January 2021 i realized that i needed to stop with porn for good and i also told my GF about my porn addition.
I told her that i needed some time without sex to reboot and she agreed to stop having sex for a month.

For the first couple of months I wan't completely compliant (sometimes I edged sometimes I didn't look at porn but some IG models or old sexy chat). I was so stupid. After some months the urges become less strong and i was much more compliant. I started having wet dreams and morning moods and by June/July i was able to have successful sex with my GF without using ED pills (strong erections way better that in the past) and i thought i was cured.

Then in august we went in vacation together, i brought 1 pill (0.25 viagra) just in case but i wasn't as hard as in the previous months and i failed to have sex with her without ED drugs.

In general since then my sexual life has become much worse. Able to have sex with ED pills (only sometimes without), no more morning wood, just kept having wet dreams.

I become even more strict and i canceled FB and IG in the attempt to reduce the dopamine spikes but nothing changed. I still don't have morning wood (it's often hard during the night but not in the morning) and i have wet dreams on a weekly basis but after more than a year apart from the 2 months period in which I thought i was cured i can't say that i saw major improvements.

I am healthy, don't smoke or drink and i eat well and exercise on a regular basis. On the negative side i am working a lot from home so i don't have many interactions with my colleague and I'm alone the majority of the day and i'm often alone.

RIght now and for the past months i had absolutely 0 urges, and i am super strict in avoiding sexual contents (if there is a sex scene in a movie i look somewhere else). However when i am exposed to some content by mistake (whatsapp chat with friends or movies) i feel something in my brain that tells me i'm not cured because I'm super excited but also I'm capable to resist that inpulse.

Why is it taking so long? Do you hav suggestions? Should i ask my GF to stop having sex with me for sometimes so that i can turbocharge and avoid using ED pills?
I had a question. During the period when you say that you felt good and had regular sex with your girlfriend, how many orgasms did you have per week?
 

plinio

New Member
I had a question. During the period when you say that you felt good and had regular sex with your girlfriend, how many orgasms did you have per week?
I would say a couple of times per week in general during the weekend
 

Wonder

Member
I would say a couple of times per week in general during the weekend
In my opinion, I have said a few times on the site that any orgasm reduces erection capacity . Any orgasm brings you to the maximum level of arousal you can get at that moment no matter how you get it !!!.Of course, a sex with your partener doesn't last as long as a pmo session. That's why it's less destructive.
But you have to understand that you will never be the same as before!!, you have to reduce the number of orgasms. This is personal experience and this experience has been lived by many on this site. After months of abstinence when they thought they were either cured or thrown madly into sex, after a very short time they generally reappeared the symptoms of ed.In my opinion, at the beginning, after you feel good, try 1 orgasm per week. Follow the reaction of your nervous system and depending on that you can decide how many orgasms are accepted without reaching ed again.
 

Gavalar09

Member
In my opinion, I have said a few times on the site that any orgasm reduces erection capacity . Any orgasm brings you to the maximum level of arousal you can get at that moment no matter how you get it !!!.Of course, a sex with your partener doesn't last as long as a pmo session. That's why it's less destructive.
But you have to understand that you will never be the same as before!!, you have to reduce the number of orgasms. This is personal experience and this experience has been lived by many on this site. After months of abstinence when they thought they were either cured or thrown madly into sex, after a very short time they generally reappeared the symptoms of ed.In my opinion, at the beginning, after you feel good, try 1 orgasm per week. Follow the reaction of your nervous system and depending on that you can decide how many orgasms are accepted without reaching ed again.

This shouldnt be the case after a year long reboot though. That's the whole point in not watching porn. Is to rewire with real women. But if we're flatlining to sex with real women that were doomed.
 
I also have same problem. Even rewiring with real women is helping once in a while only. Not sure how long will have to wait. Anyone with success story may be able to help pl.
 
Top