downhillfromhere
Well-Known Member
Thanks @particularly_respecting, @Blondie, @Phineas 808
I have no doubt you guys are correct. I definitely fought a bit yesterday, but was able to focus on something else by noticing the thought and just holding it, waiting for a few seconds.
This reminds me of a thing I learned earlier called the five second rule, where you basically just wait for five seconds whenever you get the urge to do something.
This works both for moving on from negative habits, but also the other way around for anything constructive or positive you want to get done - do it within five seconds of having the thought, or you risk not doing it at all.
I don’t know about you guys, but I’ve certainly missed out on a lot by staying idle in those moments. Or of course, making the wrong decision.
This is something I want to pay a lot of attention to in the future. Noticing when I get that little “drip” of dopamine just when the thought arises, and watching how it goes from drip to full flow the closer I am to giving in.
It’s possible to turn this drive into something positive - whenever you feel an urge, a rush of dopamine, you act in that moment - but tell yourself that you’re not going to watch porn, but rather pick up the guitar and play. Or go for a run. Utilise the drive to act, but turn it around and use it for something that’s actually worth doing.
I have no doubt you guys are correct. I definitely fought a bit yesterday, but was able to focus on something else by noticing the thought and just holding it, waiting for a few seconds.
This reminds me of a thing I learned earlier called the five second rule, where you basically just wait for five seconds whenever you get the urge to do something.
This works both for moving on from negative habits, but also the other way around for anything constructive or positive you want to get done - do it within five seconds of having the thought, or you risk not doing it at all.
I don’t know about you guys, but I’ve certainly missed out on a lot by staying idle in those moments. Or of course, making the wrong decision.
This is something I want to pay a lot of attention to in the future. Noticing when I get that little “drip” of dopamine just when the thought arises, and watching how it goes from drip to full flow the closer I am to giving in.
It’s possible to turn this drive into something positive - whenever you feel an urge, a rush of dopamine, you act in that moment - but tell yourself that you’re not going to watch porn, but rather pick up the guitar and play. Or go for a run. Utilise the drive to act, but turn it around and use it for something that’s actually worth doing.