A little problem with masturbation

Markos

Member
Hello, do you know that? Since circa year and a half I have some problem with erection even during masturbation.

I have pretty strong morning woods and can achieve an erection during masturbation (only with porn), but the erection stopped being spontaneous. Sometimes it's hard to turn on with pics and porn but it happens more often that I have some sex drive and can't get an erection until couple of minutes of handjob. It's neccessary to do a manual start to get an erection. Just watching porn is not enough.

Is it common experience according to PIED?

Warning: My question is only to understand the subject, of course I'm trying to quit porn anyway.
 
Hello, do you know that? Since circa year and a half I have some problem with erection even during masturbation.

I have pretty strong morning woods and can achieve an erection during masturbation (only with porn), but the erection stopped being spontaneous. Sometimes it's hard to turn on with pics and porn but it happens more often that I have some sex drive and can't get an erection until couple of minutes of handjob. It's neccessary to do a manual start to get an erection. Just watching porn is not enough.

HI:

It can be the following:

You are tired, you are masturbating so much watching porn that you have developed a low libido and little ability to get aroused, therefore you may have sexual dysfunction from using a lot of porn and masturbating a lot, often called Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction ( PIED).


Since circa year and a half I have some problem with erection even during masturbation.
One question only as an annex:

have you visited a doctor and have had good tests anyway so that we rule out organic, hormonal, psychological causes ? (remember that anxiety can occur even if we are alone, not necessarily when we are with a partner).

Is it common experience according to PIED?
It's possible because the way you describe it is the typical way people experience low libido and sexual dysfunction from using too much pornography (PIED). PIED is like being with indigestion. If you eat too much, you will get indigestion and your body will reject any food, no matter how tasty it is. The same thing happens if you masturbate a lot (watching porn or even not using porn) your body starts to lose desire even if you later have a chance with a partner as attractive as those in adult movies.


Warning: My question is only to understand the subject, of course I'm trying to quit porn anyway.
Okay.

The first thing is to stop porn. Totally.

The second thing is to let the body rest until the body itself feels like it (libido), but please, don't be foolish enough to watch porn again if your libido and your ability to get excited return. At that very moment you can do the following: find someone to have sex with, or masturbate just once (without porn, of course because porn is the problem, masturbation is not necessarily if there is a return of libido).


Now, if you can and it's easy for you, keep in that state of "rest" for at least three months (the famous 90 days), even if you have a libido, hold on. If your libido returns, of course. Remember that you should listen to your body, not your mind. Your mind will tell you to masturbate all the time, only your body will be the one that with natural wisdom will tell you when it is time. That is what we call libido.

Keep in mind that most people (virtually almost all of our species) masturbate and masturbation itself is healthy and part of human sexual nature, as long as it is like everything in life a moderate and healthy activity. High Speed Internet porn over years of use is the problem, but occasional masturbation without porn is not.

Porn with too much masturbation (using porn) is what may be causing your sexual health problems. If you masturbated occasionally, without porn, there would be no health problems. Keep this in mind.

During 90 days of abstinence, what you will notice is that your sexual desire (libido and arousal) will have ups and downs, some days it will be there and other days it will not be there. It's very normal, even in people who haven't been PMO crazy. So calm down.

I have been 70 days, 90 days, 140 days (in 2020) in total abstinence and I assure you: leaving PMO works to improve your sexual desire. So I encourage you to be abstinent for a few months and I encourage you to give up using porn for good.


Porn is loneliness, frustration and absurd fantasy. If it is not in your life, will life be wonderful? maybe not completely, but at least leaving porn is leaving one more of all the problems that one can solve.
 

Markos

Member
HI:

It can be the following:

You are tired, you are masturbating so much watching porn that you have developed a low libido and little ability to get aroused, therefore you may have sexual dysfunction from using a lot of porn and masturbating a lot, often called Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction ( PIED).



One question only as an annex:

have you visited a doctor and have had good tests anyway so that we rule out organic, hormonal, psychological causes ? (remember that anxiety can occur even if we are alone, not necessarily when we are with a partner).


It's possible because the way you describe it is the typical way people experience low libido and sexual dysfunction from using too much pornography (PIED). PIED is like being with indigestion. If you eat too much, you will get indigestion and your body will reject any food, no matter how tasty it is. The same thing happens if you masturbate a lot (watching porn or even not using porn) your body starts to lose desire even if you later have a chance with a partner as attractive as those in adult movies.



Okay.

The first thing is to stop porn. Totally.

The second thing is to let the body rest until the body itself feels like it (libido), but please, don't be foolish enough to watch porn again if your libido and your ability to get excited return. At that very moment you can do the following: find someone to have sex with, or masturbate just once (without porn, of course because porn is the problem, masturbation is not necessarily if there is a return of libido).


Now, if you can and it's easy for you, keep in that state of "rest" for at least three months (the famous 90 days), even if you have a libido, hold on. If your libido returns, of course. Remember that you should listen to your body, not your mind. Your mind will tell you to masturbate all the time, only your body will be the one that with natural wisdom will tell you when it is time. That is what we call libido.

Keep in mind that most people (virtually almost all of our species) masturbate and masturbation itself is healthy and part of human sexual nature, as long as it is like everything in life a moderate and healthy activity. High Speed Internet porn over years of use is the problem, but occasional masturbation without porn is not.

Porn with too much masturbation (using porn) is what may be causing your sexual health problems. If you masturbated occasionally, without porn, there would be no health problems. Keep this in mind.

During 90 days of abstinence, what you will notice is that your sexual desire (libido and arousal) will have ups and downs, some days it will be there and other days it will not be there. It's very normal, even in people who haven't been PMO crazy. So calm down.

I have been 70 days, 90 days, 140 days (in 2020) in total abstinence and I assure you: leaving PMO works to improve your sexual desire. So I encourage you to be abstinent for a few months and I encourage you to give up using porn for good.


Porn is loneliness, frustration and absurd fantasy. If it is not in your life, will life be wonderful? maybe not completely, but at least leaving porn is leaving one more of all the problems that one can solve.

Yes, my doctor said biologically I'm quite ok. Little issues but nothing that would quit my erections.

I have one psychological problem, I mean anxiety, not quite performance anxiety but the obssesive worries about what's wrong with my erection. I used to feel that anxiety because for a long time I had no idea what's going on. Psychotherapists said that it's performance anxiety but even when I felt calm I always had an intuition there's something more deep inside my head that makes me impotent. Something like not turning on in real intercourse while porn did turn me on.

By the way, I always thought I have no problem with porn. But now, when I try to quit that, it's a problem.
My masturbation isn't very often or long by a session, only soft porn or pics, but somehow I prefer that than real sex. And it's hard to quit it at all.
 
I have one psychological problem, I mean anxiety, not quite performance anxiety but the obssesive worries about what's wrong with my erection.

If possible. The truth is that anxiety occurs even if the man is completely alone. Anxiety not only usually occurs when the man is in front of the couple, it is also something that can occur even with your own hand alone in the bathroom.

I advise you not to get obsessed with this whole NOFAP thing because more than one person has filled their heads with nonsense with this, and instead of doing good, they end up worse than they started. This is not to be taken so seriously. While staying away from porn, I advise you to entertain yourself with many other things like sports, study, work, social relationships, and avoid thinking about it. I also advise you to stay away from these forums, if possible visit these forums once a month only and don't believe everything you read here. Nor are you going to compare yourself with others, each situation and each mind is different in this process of abstinence. Nor does abstinence serve everyone because each one has very different problems in my opinion.



Psychotherapists said that it's performance anxiety but even when I felt calm I always had an intuition there's something more deep inside my head that makes me impotent.
You shouldn't worry. If you think about it, today the issue of erections in men is irrelevant because fortunately today there are thousands of ways to enjoy sexuality with a woman without the need for an erect penis. We must learn from lesbians, they enjoy another woman without the need for a penis. Fortunately today there are many resources, toys, supplements, etc... But, however, keep in mind: for now the most important thing is to give your body a well-deserved break from everything, including masturbation, because complete abstinence will it's going to help. At least in my experience it has been that way.



By the way, I always thought I have no problem with porn. But now, when I try to quit that, it's a problem.
My masturbation isn't very often or long by a session, only soft porn or pics, but somehow I prefer that than real sex. And it's hard to quit it at all.

No. For now the most important thing is to give your mind and body a break.




but somehow I prefer that than real sex. And it's hard to quit it at all.
I understand. Regarding this that you share with me, I recommend this article called: "WHY I FIND PORN MORE EXCITING THAN A REAL COUPLE"




According to the information still here (although it is a bit old as the article is from 2011) it may give you an answer as to why you and many of us find porn so much more exciting than dating. The idea is to reverse the process and do the opposite in our minds: find a partner always more exciting than anything not real.


IF IT'S NOT FROM REAL LIFE, JUST SAY: NO
 
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