Good for you, man! I think it's great that you are trying to put your energy into hobbies you like. I also enjoy cooking, playing music or making something by hands brings joy. Good to know you back on track also
Sounds like your life can be much richer without your old habit.
Man, that makes so much sense. Thanks for sharing the thought that came to you after listening to that podcast. Resonates with me a lot. That's to me the nicest thing about a true rewiring process, it's really about finding myself, what works for me, what life should be for me... A conscious process of leaving something unpleasant behind to identify new, cool and fulfilling ways of being!
And... hope the cookies were good!!
Wish I could sample your output! Hope your day of rest pays off.Thanks guys.
β Today, 02/14
(Key: = no PMO; = no P; = substitutes; = relapse)
Between baking and cleaning, I spent about 8 hours working on cookies yesterday, haha -- like 6 pm to 2 am? I made 3 different kinds. At first I was tired and a little bit annoyed with the whole process. Each recipe, being a particular kind of traditional cookie, was somewhat involved and had a lot of steps. But as time went on, I really got into a groove. I entered into a kind of flow state (a cookie flow state ) of switching between each recipe, doing one task after another. And I felt more and more pleased doing it, especially as I got to start seeing my results.
It was interesting to me, to just get totally immersed in this task, a creative one, and for hours of time and work to slip by like nothing. I think it underlines for me that the act of creation is something important to my happiness. Iβve felt this kind of all-encompassing flow before when making paintings and working out, but this is probably the first time Iβve ever felt it preparing food β which I usually think of as a chore, even if I like the end-product.
Today I am feeling a little low, but mostly because of physiological triggers, I think (mainly exhaustion). I have not been overwhelmed by rumination, but I feel irritable and somewhat depressed. Which is kind of strange, because my thinking today isn't super negative. I just feel off.
Perhaps it's time to rest tomorrow. Including today, I've worked out 5 out of the past 7 days (4 days lifting, and a 6 mile run) and then I did that big marathon of work/leisure yesterday. I'll plan to go easy on myself, while maintaining the healthy little routine I've committed to (I slacked on it a bit yesterday).
Baking is great! Haha, I love to do it too. I'm glad to hear you are exploring your creativity in other ways and realizing gow it contributes to your wellbeing.Thanks guys.
β Today, 02/14
(Key: = no PMO; = no P; = substitutes; = relapse)
Between baking and cleaning, I spent about 8 hours working on cookies yesterday, haha -- like 6 pm to 2 am? I made 3 different kinds. At first I was tired and a little bit annoyed with the whole process. Each recipe, being a particular kind of traditional cookie, was somewhat involved and had a lot of steps. But as time went on, I really got into a groove. I entered into a kind of flow state (a cookie flow state ) of switching between each recipe, doing one task after another. And I felt more and more pleased doing it, especially as I got to start seeing my results.
It was interesting to me, to just get totally immersed in this task, a creative one, and for hours of time and work to slip by like nothing. I think it underlines for me that the act of creation is something important to my happiness. Iβve felt this kind of all-encompassing flow before when making paintings and working out, but this is probably the first time Iβve ever felt it preparing food β which I usually think of as a chore, even if I like the end-product.
Today I am feeling a little low, but mostly because of physiological triggers, I think (mainly exhaustion). I have not been overwhelmed by rumination, but I feel irritable and somewhat depressed. Which is kind of strange, because my thinking today isn't super negative. I just feel off.
Perhaps it's time to rest tomorrow. Including today, I've worked out 5 out of the past 7 days (4 days lifting, and a 6 mile run) and then I did that big marathon of work/leisure yesterday. I'll plan to go easy on myself, while maintaining the healthy little routine I've committed to (I slacked on it a bit yesterday).
That is awesome! Positive snowball effect right there!Thank you gents.
Had a great time with those friends tonight. Makes me feel like I should try to see them more often (and not just say so, haha). I probably wouldn't have bothered in the first place if I weren't sober, so -- another reason to be thankful for that.
Hey @TypeN nice work on not letting clicking on that link snowball into a relapse. Reddit has been my gateway to a bad day for awhile now. Is there a way you block it on your phone besides through screen time?β Today, 02/18
(Key: = no PMO; = no P; = substitutes; = relapse)
Time for my scheduled check in.
I should have checked in yesterday, honestly, because yesterday was the toughest day of this streak so far. What I didnβt mention Thursday is that I drank a good bit with those friends. I was also smoking and my friends were talking a lot about their sex lives. Which can be good fun, but probably not the best influence for me when Iβm just starting to practice true moderation.
Additionally, my doctor mentioned that youβre not supposed to have more than a drink or 2 on Accutane, and I guess I didnβt take it seriously. So yesterday I had a really bad hangover. I felt exhausted and very moody all day at work, and was thinking sexual thoughts for most of it. And then I was browsing reddit, and ran across a comment that I knew would link to sexual imagery (though not outright porn). I did click it, and look at it, and although I didnβt relapse to it, I was contemplating a full-on relapse all day long as a result. Ultimately, I didnβt MO.
But those triggered feelings and thoughts followed me to this morning, and so today I finally decided to MO (without P, or fantasies). I want to be clear about how I got here β addictive behavior was definitely the primary contributor to the escalation of excitement that led to the decision. But, I believe thereβs also a physiological component. Now that I have MOβd I feel like a physical pressure has been relieved. I would have preferred that happened in my sleep, but oh well.
That said I will now build this into my routine, once a week, on Saturdays. I think itβs important that I space this out by at least a week for a few reasons:
- Firstly, I can clearly go that long without it. I want to grow and recover as much as I can, and challenging myself with long periods of abstinence is important for that.
- Secondly, frequent MO is a slippery slope for me right now. If I let myself MO each day, I am too likely to use it in moments of frustration or moodiness in order to escape those emotions. I need to be working frequently on developing other responses to those emotions.
- And thirdly, about 7 days in is when I started to notice some level of physiological discomfort, so, I think this is a natural interval for relieving that.
The final step I'll take is to give up Reddit, except perhaps on my work PC during lunch (the work PC is monitored, so no risk of "peeking"). It is already blocked on my own PC, and I just blocked it on my phone, too. There are practical things I use it for sometimes, but β¦ Iβd be lying if I said they were important, and it keeps me in the unhealthy habit of doing mindless things on my devices when Iβm bored. So now it's gone.
Well that's all. I'm off to have a productive day (lifting + meal prep).
Hey @TypeN nice work on not letting clicking on that link snowball into a relapse. Reddit has been my gateway to a bad day for awhile now. Is there a way you block it on your phone besides through screen time?