Recent content by workinprogressUK

I gain good stuff very time I read one of your posts, my friend. Congratulations on a life well-live. Keep up that great work!!

I feel your pain, having been in a similar place for much of the last nine years. Maybe one way to look at the challenge is to ensure that our actions create an environment for reconciliation and future connection, and don't cause any more problems. It doesn't guarantee a happy ending, but gives...

For a long while, I've felt like there's no risk whatsoever of me relapsing. I just don't feel like "that guy" any more. But I triggered a couple of days back and suddenly, going back to P seems like the most natural and desirable thing imaginable. I've lived this pattern so many times before...

It's a really helpful resource. Thanks for taking the time to create and share it. Appreciated.

Congrats on making it through the day, yesterday. I empathise with your feelings of desperation - knowing that you don't want to go back, but going all the same. Sincerely hope you have managed another clean day. As I understand it, keeping the consequences of using "front of mind" - the...

I appreciate the effort you've gone to in curating this list, Phineas. I know that a lot of thought has gone into it, and continues to go into it. Lots that I can learn from it and hope to hold onto. Thank you.

Nearly fell down the hole yesterday. Home alone. Period of intense work stress ended. I think making a conscious decision to shut down the rat runs reminded my chimp brain that I had easy routes to P. As soon as I think about them, I'm so week. Almost like an automatic no-brainer to go browse P...

Honest reflection today, on the "Matt Dobschuetz" concept of "being all in". I've been winning my battle, but I haven't yet gone "all in" on recovery. I've left rat-runs back to my dirty life that I could scurry back down if I wanted to. Why am I afraid of success? What's to fear from burning...

"what's next" is a great question. I'll try to store that for next time I'm triggered. And your story about the dark room is so true. I think you can go even further, though, in that for us, WE KNOW that the killer's hiding in the dark room, don't we? We might sometimes step through the door...

I'm fortunate to have a job that I enjoy and that rewards me well but I'm not good at acknowledging and celebrating success at work. Today I won big and the rewards will make a difference for me and my family. I couldn't have won if I had still been a porn user. My wife and kids wouldn't have...

Good of you to say hello, mate. Thanks for your kind words. Hoping that you continue to win your battle.

6 weeks since I was last here. No desire for P or to log-in here during that time. Why? Work so intense recently and family life fulfilling. Porn creeps into me through the vacuum of boredom and unresolved relationship needs. I left no vacuum. So what's changed today? Big night out on Saturday...

Nothing is more important to my recovery than living in the here and now. As soon as I allow my mind to wander into what-if, could have been, wish it were, wish I hadn't, if only...... then I diminish the good things I should appreciate, minimise them.... and open my brain up to fantasy and a...

Back from holiday and checking-in. Still feeling good. I haven't missed this forum as much as I thought I would. Connection ebbs and flows, and my tide has been on the way out for a while. I'm sure I'll still journal occasionally, but I'll be here less often.

Very much agree. Habits form powerfully for me, for good and for bad. I think of books like "Thinking Fast & Slow" and the power of the automatic mind and it's easy to see how becoming conscious of our habits can have profound impact on outcomes. Taking stock: 20 May 2020 was the last time I...