Recent content by TheFuture1

Some more notes on maintaining the correct attitude to recovery. I'm sure there will be a lot more to add to this as I go on but these are the things I need to remember based on what derailed my earlier attempts at recovery. Humility 1 - remember that I'm at the early stages of recovery...

So here are my red, yellow and green lines regarding sexual behaviours. Red lines: spending money on any sexual content or activity contacting anyone about any kink behaviour, paid or unpaid. looking at any pornographic material masturbation - ultimately I'd like to get to the point where I...

Hello, I started a Journal in the ages 30-39 forum last year. It was mostly my usual over-thinking stuff. Some of it helped but I never consistently put anything into practice and I got lost in thoughts and ideas that I didn't fully understand. I'm trying to not repeat that pattern again...

Thanks. I’ll give it a go. It will have to be a zoom meeting I think, given my location. I’ve not found 12-step that helpful in the past but I’ll give it another go now. I’ve started and given up on recovery so many times now that starting again feels like deja vu. I’m trying to go in with...

Hello, I'm just posting here because I'm feeling quite low today. Lots of regret, lots of loneliness, very little hope. I can't believe I'm still in this position at 40 years old. Never been in a relationship. I'd like to be in relationship but at the same time, the idea gets me down - I...

Great post @Blondie It got me thinking - why we are so prone to black and white thinking? I’m sure it’s not an easy question to answer and it’s probably a less important question than how we stop falling into the trap of black and white thinking. I still find it interesting though and I...

Hey @AlexthenotsoGreat, Thanks for sharing this. I know the pain of getting into your 30s without a relationship. Sorry to hear that the rejection led to you “acting out”. Was it just a minor slip? Have you been able to get your recovery back on track? I’m almost 40 and I’ve basically...

In the past, I’ve wondered whether I might be on the autism spectrum too. I’m not sure what to think at the moment though. I don’t think I can know whether my lifestyle has been so unhealthy for so long (irregular poor-quality sleep, bad diet, lack of exercise etc.) that I’m simply so tired...

This is a really interesting topic. I’m wondering whether anyone has used these ideas in their recovery. Can anyone share stories about that? I’ve made a few attempts at recovery over the years. One thing that went wrong first time round was that I wasn’t happy with some aspects of my...

Thanks everyone. I won’t give up. I was just saying how hard it is and reaching out. I’m taking it in small steps. I’m exercising regularly now and eating fairly well. The next step will be to start sleeping regular hours. I’ve got to make that my next priority. I also joined a Church a...

Not sure why but this is on my mind a lot today. I feel like the chance for a meaningful life has passed me by. I’m almost 40. Never been in a relationship, bored of my job, no real transferable skills. Future feels really bleak. Like I’m just going to wait out my life and cope as best I...

Thanks for this. It lifts my spirits when something I’ve learned from my long and difficult recovery journey helps someone else.

Well done for being so honest right at the start of your recovery journey. It takes a lot of courage to do that. I’m also in the UK so feel free to send me a direct message. I have to say that it seems like you have a great attitude. As well as realising that you need to change, it seems that...

It’s pretty quiet to be honest. Just an idea we were trying out because the other forum we were on didn’t have a chat function. There are two of us who use it more than the others. We just talk about when we’re struggling, things that help, what’s going on for us when things are going well...

I’ve asked the person who started the group chat if he’d be happy to add you to the group. At the moment the group only has men aged over 21 in it. Can I just check that you fit that description?