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Day 11

Hey all, thanks for all the comments. Im doing well, day 9, and deliberately not going on to much as a new approach. Sorry for not being here to support others at the moment. Wish you all well of course. Take care

Hey Orbiter! Thanks a lot for your post! It means a lot to me. Ive been struggling and I've had to come to terms with the fact that I've outsmarted myself with regards to the limitations on the router. Somehow that was a big emotional setback. I've been trying to recenter and come up with a...

Thanks @particularly_respecting . Today is day 9. So the stuff with the router, the training wheels so to say, again didnt work out. A little technical; i want to force a specific DNS on my router and block sites and any kind of porn. On my own router i could do that but somehow that doesn't...

Hey, Orbiter. I think it's great that you got control of the situation and stopped. This is a pretty significant action imo. Because it shows awareness of what is going on and how you really feel. It means that, although you went on autopilot to watch P, you've grown to see the impact it has...

Thank you all for the reactions, they really help! Day 8 today! It's amazing how time flies. And although the last two days were very difficult I managed to persevere. I am absolutely knackered so little imput from me at this point. I only want to report that today I finaly have time to fix...

Hey Orbiter, great going!

Thanks a lot Phineas! To restrict, or not restrict, I've been mulling this over in my head for the past days and for me i'm now positively sure the number 1 trigger is the ability to do it. It has been like that ever since my wife and I moved in together 12 years a go. Whenever she went out...

This is an excellent question! I think a lot of us sometimes forget that we're also just men. Physical beings with a natural attraction to attractive women.But it can sometimes be confusing to seperate that from addiction. Also I see a lot of reports, but if I may ask what plan/approach are...

Hey orbiter, you're doing great work with looking into AVRT and The rumination video. The post-lapse slump at days 2-6 are a mess (same boat here) but just a couple more days and you'll be better. It's like you said in your post. It's knowing that it's part of the plan (acceptance) and then...

It's amazing to see you grow as a person and as a future ex-addict. You're doing excellent. Thanks for the insightfullposts. Here and on other threads

Hey BridgeTri.. Please elaborate. What happened, when, where, how, how were you feeling, how were the days before, what were your thoughts, any specific triggers, mood.. etc. Those are a lot of questions, I know. However they all serve a purpose. Relapses are part of the journey, but only if...

Great going P_R. 14 days is a great achievement. I recognize the amazing feeling that you can get from sharing with the spouse. It's a very nice way to just let go of certain things. And it feels a lot nicer than PMO don't you think? I'm also glad to read that there are changes coming for you...

Keep going friend!

Hey Orbiter, Thanks for your insights and well wishes. They mean a lot! As per the focus on internal / external i'm heavily debating at the moment. I think they are both important. But ultimately it's about the internal dialogue as that is the one that decides whether or not on how to act on...