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    Orbiters Journal of Recovery

    You can do it, Orbiter! I'm standing with you, walking this out. If we can do 1 day, we can do 1 week! Staying in the moment, nonjudgmental toward ourselves, dismissing urges (as one would an annoying fly), we will look back and realize that we have 1, 2, and 3 weeks behind us.
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    How Shall We Escape?

    This is true in the shadow of habitualized behaviors. But as a short time passes without us reacting to the urges, the brain will naturally calm down to a state of normalcy. Because we were so involved in our addiction, we may have lost what 'normal' feels like, but it's there the whole time...
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    My journey to be a better man.

    Someone I follow who beat an eating disorder (I'll often make comparisons between different addictions to learn about my own), that we can consider what you experienced as simply 'neurological junk'. It's the lower brain (limbic system) trying to get a hit. It feels despearate, because you're...
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    How Shall We Escape?

    Hi, Orbiter! Thank you for your comments. Definitely, counting days can be 'counter-productive'. My goal is to always come to a place where I no longer need to count days, once I accomplish an abstinence challenge. For me, hitting 0 doesn't mean starting over, but in the bigger picture, it may...
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    How Shall We Escape?

    Thank you, brother! I had literally said the same thing about reading your journal before I read your comment! I appreciate your support, and am standing with you in your victories as well!
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    A Porn Story

    Congrats on day 36, CoolBreeze! Keep up the good work!
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    My journey to be a better man.

    Congrats, guitar on 60+ days! You're now in the zone where the neural chemicals that lock in porn-memory are subsiding, and the 'brain-fog' phenomenon (low blood flow to the brain) is subsiding. I love your determination and tenacity! You certainly have what it takes to never return to this...
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    I need to up my game.

    Hi, Escape- welcome back! What you say is definitely the right key, complete porn-abandonment, I like the sound of that...! Right, you don't want to be 54 years old, and still fighting this thing after decades (like me :rolleyes: ). I can say that various sexually obsessive behaviors...
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    I am frustrated.. Trying for 3 and half years now...!

    Perfect opportunity for a clean slate to refocus, and go forward. Marshall all your might against this thing, and take away anything that gets in your way and trips you up.
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    How Shall We Escape?

    Day: 10 This is 1/9 toward my current abstinence challenge of 90 days. This is also 1 week, and 3 days into this recovery effort, building on previous streaks (139, 19, 53 [19, 35], 2, 14). Today I hit my mini-goal of 10 days without P, PMO, MO, and without p-subs or edging. I have only 8...
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    A Porn Story

    Thanks for sharing your story, CoolBreeze! It's always inspiring for me to read of those who had such impossible odds to beat, so to speak, and yet overcame anyway. Your success story will be our success story, as we'll inspire each other to finally overcome this thing out of our lives...
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    Orbiters Journal of Recovery

    I think the 5-day plan is a good one, and you're working up to it! Definitely, celebrate the 4 days and beyond, including the entire past efforts at this- because you know what? So many aren't even trying, they've given up, and let PMO take over worse and worse. Keep getting up, and keep...
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    How Shall We Escape?

    @guitar1968 Thank you, brother! It is encouraging to read of others doing it. It feels really good, too, having a lengthy streak between the last lapse and the unknown yet hopeful life ahead! @Orbiter Yes, the urges can arise from any source or cue, whether circumstantial or emotional...
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    One day at a time

    You can do it, Time! Good on 4 days... we can go beyond the 2 week mark!
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    My journey to be a better man.

    If not, then not. That's of course great news... It reminds me of those folks who have no particular predisposition, no traumatic background, a great family environment, a happy and joyous upbringing (with its normal problems), and yet they fall into some horrible addiction. This is not so...
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