Recent content by SOPHAN

To be honest, even while researching in the field, I am not quite sure. I find your depiction very helpful though, canguro, thank you very much. I think a differentiation matters not necessarily for the affected person but it matters for medical guidelines and what treatment will be...

Hi all, I try to read and understand more and more about problematic pornography use and came across different frameworks. On the one hand, I catch myself getting annoyed by these academic discussions bc I feel like at this point ANY public recognition with whatever pathway is better than...

I think what you are experiencing is not necessarily rare. However, the words you are saying sound extremely painful... painful if your partner could read this... I am allowing myself to be a bit harsh here... I am not sure about your partner, but maybe she also doesn't think you're the...

Thank you, I really appreciate it! I guess you're right but in my situation it feels easily like I am living for the future as a lot of this process is not necessarily enjoyable... That being said, at the moment, I feel like I have been through the worst and things are getting better. However...

I sent you a PM.

My partner and I did 120 days without PMO, he didn't watch porn in almost a year, and we're still far from being a normal healthy couple... I know that's not really motivating but I guess particularly if you consumed porn for a long time, it takes ages to get "out of your system again". My...

Thank you so much for message! Yeah, I actually heard stuff like that as well. It's SO hard to get it out of your system, and so hard to avoid all triggers. And even though I've never been addicted to something, I see how porn is different... Obviously I am hoping though, that I won't be in...

Thank you SO MUCH for your reply and genuineness. It really helps me to read this from another man's perspective. And you are completely right about perception stuck in society. I have to admit for me it was a complete new experience that a guy would say no to sex with me... And I am saying...

Heya, I am talking out of the perspective of a partner now. Firstly, amazing that you identified that you have a problem in relation to porn and want to deal with it AND that you want to be honest with your partner about this. I will tell you none of this is going to be easy for you nor your...

You guys are amazing! I have so much respect for you. To what you are saying Caravan7, I can just agree with all the others, but to just give a female perspective. Obviously for women it might be the other way round sometimes, that some of us may feel more attracted to older men. However, that...

Good on you!!! Keep going, it will be worth it! I really appreciate your help. Are you doing this by yourself or are you in a relationship? Actually, I am really happy to get to hear the perspective of somebody else who is addicted to porn. I am in touch with another partner and that is...

I think one of my issues is that we once were at least active on forums and read a lot about it and tried to be pro-active. Now, I have the feeling that "it is just what it is". He says the only thing that can help is time. And I feel a bit helpless with that as this is obviously on the cost...

Thanks again for your reply! He actually did initiate sex a few times but told me a week later that he was just doing that "to do me a favour", not because he was feeling like it. Even though he said he would have enjoyed it as well once we were going. But that was like a hard slam in face...

Dear Austin, what makes you think he is? I am actually quite confident that he isn't. But obviously I can never know for sure.

Dear Canguro, thank you so much for your message! To answer your question: 1) We are both in our mid-/end-20s 2) We had a very fulfilling sex-life in the beginning of our relationship. He then stopped watching porn completely and struggled with erectile dysfunction. 3) He is very determined...