Recent content by Sammyjo

@Gracie My husband appears to have norovirus - and I guarandamntee not one of those little girls could stomach (much less attempt to) clean what I have cleaned up over the last 18 hours. And YES - DISRESPECTFUL! Not just to us as individuals but to the marriage. Sigh, and this is exactly why...

Love and support are great IF they are really trying to fix it. Some aren't.

YUP! @ImBroken Now you're hitting me in the heart. Mine says he's done with it. The only therapy has been our few couples counseling. He still sees it completely differently than I do. I am so tired of being sad and fearful that he will go back to it, I am also trying not to make hasty...

That's because men get distinguished as they age😉😁 And by all accounts you were drop dead gorgeous to start! Thank you for the virtual hug! A decent night sleep has left me feeling happier.

Wow! Lots of interesting convo going on here. I think it was @Jlied who said Mrs. Lied continued "putting out" perhaps as a means of preventing a relapse. For me, 3 nights after finding out, as hurt as I was, I needed him. He is my person, my best friend, and I needed to be loved to help the...

Are you able to estimate how many times per day?

Having a bad day. Birthday is coming soon, and it's hitting me hard (never had an issue with birthdays before). Started making the coffee and tears started streaming just thinking about "celebrating" my BD. Pretty sure I'm going to have a pity party with a good cry today. It's like turning a...

I think that is a big question, was it always this way, Is this a normal state?

First couples therapy today. 1 hour (actually 50 minutes) just isn't long enough. Feels like all we did was rip open stitches. Husband minimized a lot. I clarified some of the minimizations. Next therapy in a week, then miss a week due to travel.

Wow! That was...hard to watch, and amazing at the same time. Impactful.

I just posted this on another thread and thought it should be in my journal. The thread was about wondering if our past happy times were actually happy or a fake. This was my response: Been there done that. Changed my wallpaper on my phone from him to a flower in my back yard, took down...

Been there done that. Changed my wallpaper on my phone from him to a flower in my back yard, took down every picture in the house of us having a seemingly happy moment together. Each picture felt like a lie. It made me want to break things so I took them down. It's been 8 months, and when...

It is a mind fuck. I am trying (TRYING) to stay focused on changes I see in my husband. I think I posted about this in my vomiting thoughts thread - a few days ago I went up to his office to ask a question - normally I stand quietly and wait until he's done with whatever he's working on so as...

@Jlied - interesting...my therapy was about this yesterday, and I just posted about it. I guess that's the part we SO's need to accept - sometimes there isn't an answer - I guess the next question is why is it so hard for us to accept that? I guess I've found my thought for the day. This one...

Good Morning Mr. Geebs! Not at all! You're working hard and making great progress. I loved your post that compared February GBS to November GBS. Can you help me understand this? I brought this up to my husband a couple weeks ago - I had a realization one day that I was treating him as...