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    Crawling from the wreckage

    Day 226. Things are okay. No urges to MO. Flatline actually feels comfortable instead of distressing. I actually had a sexy dream last night, which was kind of fun. Morning wood lets me know everything is still working properly. Still trying to limit my time online and stay busy with things...
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    Hard Mode or Nahhhh

    If you and your wife are enjoying sex, then maybe hard mode isn't 100% necessary, BUT I would recommend it just to make sure your reboot is effective. 30 days without sex or masturbation and of course no artificial stimulation of any kind seems to be the best way to do this. Have an honest...
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    A Long time battle that I need to stop ignoring

    Great work, Trisquel. I'll give the same advice I give everyone on this forum: it's very important that you crush the addiction now while you're young. Otherwise, it's going to be a negative and destructive thing in your life for decades. And as you have already figured out, limiting your time...
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    Samurai journey: I WILL tame my 'sword'

    Great work, Samurai. I'll give the same advice I give everyone on this forum: it's very important that you crush the addiction now while you're young. Otherwise, it's going to be a negative and destructive thing in your life for decades.
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    Thirty years of self-medicating with PMO and MO - it stops now

    Yes, this is an excellent video. I'm in therapy at the moment (and have been before), and have learned that childhood trauma - or unpleasant experiences as a child and teenager - does a lot of damage and can essentially lay a subconscious foundation for an addiction.
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    Betrayed by porn......the demise of intimacy, a partners tale!

    I think you need to cut off all contact with your man, Beautiful. Seems that every time you two connect, it's a disaster. Like the reggae song says, "you gotta walk and don't look back".
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    Crawling from the wreckage

    Day 221. I've spent the last few days regrouping and clearing my head. Seems that I have forgotten this wisdom: I'm now officially in flatline. Earlier in the reboot, I was doing well - my libido was doing pretty well without porn, and I thought I had somehow avoided flatline. But after a...
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    Betrayed by porn......the demise of intimacy, a partners tale!

    Sorry to hear this, Beautiful. My advice: let your man know that when he's got his shit together (and keeps it together for 6 months or more), then you will talk. Instead it seems like you keep on walking into the same bear trap over and over. Like GBS says, this emotional blackmail and Jekyll &...
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    My journey to be a better man.

    Sorry to hear of your relapse, Guitar. All I can say is: try again, and try harder. Think about what led you to relapse, and recognize the triggers that lead you back to porn. That was one of the things I told myself in April when I turned 53. I'm running out of time to crush this addiction...
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    Crawling from the wreckage

    Not saying you're wrong, but don't know if you are right, either. Earlier in the reboot, MO was fun and not a problem. Used my imagination, and at that time there was no X-rated image searches. But I agree that my brain (or, really, the addiction) needs to be starved. Time to get back to zero...
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    Crawling from the wreckage

    Day 214. A couple of stupid Google searches since the weekend. No relapses. Want to MO, but not in a good mood and know that it would be a mistake. Argh.
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    The Shame

    OMG, that was my wife! :rolleyes: After a few years together, I realized she was really married to her work and I was just a roommate. A quick and relatively painless divorce.
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    Porn use wreaking havoc

    Don't get mad - get even! Get back to your reboot and don't look back.
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    From Rock Bottom

    Sorry to hear this, DiceMan. Beating a porn addiction isn't easy, that's for sure. When you relapse, ask yourself - what's happening? What was the trigger? Why do you feel like you need to give in? Stress? Try to figure out how you can avoid or overcome the triggers and the circumstances that...
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    Lower back pain caused by pmo?

    Years of slouching in a chair and fapping will probably do that to you. 🙃 Lower back pain could be a number of things. Personally, I have a couple of buggered facet joints in my spine which can cause a lot of pain if I don't keep in shape. Most likely caused (or at least made worse by) sitting...
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