Recent content by Donewiththis

I'm proud of you brother! It was not that long ago where you were starving yourself and living in a world of self-deprecation. Now look at you! You're not only getting mentally and spiritually healthy through this journey, but now you've taken up a hobby to get physically healthy. I like to...

Day 43... I think? Broken record, I know but I've been having quite the battle lately, a lot more so than other times throughout the past month and a bit. Wife and I haven't been intimate again for about a month now. Probably a mix of my flatline and her thinking taking a break is best for my...

Long time no talk, brother! Glad to see you're still at it and fighting. Keep at it! You're right though, better days are yet to come and you will will be a much off because of it. No matter the outcome is with your wife after all this (though I definitely am rooting for you guys to finally...

Day 31! I haven't been on much as I've been trying to keep as busy as possible. I find that when things go quiet, the temptations and urges creep in and start making things difficult. Between work, kids' summer activities and in the middle of a move, I've been able to keep my mind busy. Not...

Day 19 I think I've been experiencing a flat line period for the past couple days. I've had zero interest for anything sexual related lately and it has kind of caused a little stir between my wife and I. Two weeks ago I couldn't keep my hands off her, we were probably the most intimate we've...

Day 14 🥳 It looked as though I wasn't going to make it to two weeks after the last couple days but here I am. Small victories, am I right? @garagon0225 sorry about you restarting. But this is a process, and we can't expect to beat this on the first go. There's a reason we're here at this...

We never really know what we are doing to people until we make the effort to recognize we are the problem. Sure we get told our behaviour is hurtful to others and they would like a change, but like a child, we usually say "sorry, it won't happen again" thinking that will suffice and then be on...

Day 12 Haven't posted a lot lately, not really much to say about the last week or so. I guess that's a good thing. Having a pretty hard time today though. It's the first time in a while I'm having pretty strong urges. No real reason for them, haven't seen anything really triggering but I'm...

Day 6 Being so busy the past week has really helped keep my mind off the porn lately. I had a couple instances of getting urges though. Of course it would happen when things quiet down for a few hours and the wife is away. Old habits I suppose but at least nothing came of it. Nothing else to...

The steps you are taking and the accountability you keep holding yourself to are huge. Those are signs that you have made a big change in your life and you're committed to see it through. It's still going to be a while before this gets any easier, but as long as you keep your emotions and urges...

Day 3 The weekend was pretty busy so I didn't have much time to check in. Thankfully that didn't leave much time to get any urges or temptations either. Friday was a big step for me and my wife. I took her out for a fancy dinner and we were able to just have a normal night out. We talked about...

I've been really busy the past couple days, so please don't think I ignored your request to be an accountability partner. I would be glad to keep helping you on your journey and be someone you know is listening. Your story feels so similar to mine, so when I comment, it's sort of a way to...

There is a book someone recommended to me here. It's called Love Her, Hate Porn. I just got it in the mail today so I haven't really dug into it yet but reading the introduction was encouraging. It's on Amazon if you are interested. As hard as it is, you need to get out of this funk of self...

Thanks for the kind words and encouragement. I definitely appreciate them and every ounce helps drive me to see this process through. My wife has brought up couples counselling many times before but I've always been very apprehensive about it (yes, even in this day and age of mental health...

Without sounding like you are making excuses for the behaviour? I tried explaining it to someone and I felt like I was just justifying why I do PMO. "I watched porn all my life and it has now fucked my brain up. So even if I try to quit, something will eventually trigger me to get that urge...