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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 9 - Therapy Day Still no porn, no fetish sites, dodging p-subs with my two remaining social media platforms (unfollowing/blocking). Today I see my therapist where I’m hoping to discuss PIED and porn addiction for the first time. I started seeing her a few months ago after my last breakup...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Oh man, that sounds horrible. Happy you found a better place! While those dudes can be nice to look at they're not who I want to be with. I live in a medium sized city in America that is extremely gay friendly but not full of gym rats or wannabe models so it’s not very challenging. When I...
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    Mission: to recover my libido and maybe form a new sexual identity

    Just wanted to give a shout out to another gay dude in this forum who‘s had similar experiences as mine. Stay strong my friend!
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 8 Made it past a week. I’m no longer feeling like I’m constantly hungover, going from that constant dopamine hit all day from porn/fetish sites to none cold-turkey was tough on my body. Still no porn, still no fetish sites, some random p-subs and dudes sending things I shouldn’t see but...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 7.5 A cute dude I know sent me some revealing photos completely unprovoked on Instagram, it was tough to not follow the 2 second rule but I did. I also have been shopping for new cycling kit as it’s the time of year when prices drop and I've been leering at some of the male models more...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 7 - Week 1 No Porn, occasional P-Subs creeping in but I dodge them. I recently went through a breakup where one of the issues we were facing was our tough sex life partially due to my ED and porn addiction. For example, he worked very hard to make me cum while I was visualizing the last...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    That’s awesome! Dick size is blown way out of proportion, its no different in the gay world only that there are twice as many dicks around to compare to. I did have a fair amount of shame years ago since I‘m a shower (instead of a grower) with ED therefore all anyone saw was a smaller flaccid...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Thanks Blondie for the words of encouragement! From another angle maybe, I workout a lot too but never felt that attractive. Maybe it was due to subconsciously comparing myself to guys I was bombarded with every day? Perhaps this might be a healthy side effect of cutting out porn; more...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 6 Still no porn or porn-subs. If I come across a rare porn-sub I quickly look away or scroll away. Yesterday I found an article on mindful masturbation and decided to give that a shot, so I ran a bath (haven’t taken a bath in 30 years) and tried it. Much to my surprise I was able to get...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Day 5 Removed all social media except for instagram and Facebook, both of which I heavily pared down to prevent viewing of any P-Subs. Seem to have been pretty successful much to my surprise! Not going on any of the fetish sites I used to all day, not searching for porn. Haven’t jerked off...
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    Who knew they were addicted?

    Awesome, the gym is a great place to get lhysically healthier and practice some mindfulness while working out. Great job and keep up the good work! Yeah, there’s not enough control over content on tiktok so I just removed it altogether too due to PMO. Same thing with Snapchat and Twitter...
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    Thanks Simon, and thank you for the advice! I agree that it’s about optimizing what’s healthy, at this point losing my social group in the process isn’t healthy. I like the 2 second rule, I’ll give that a shot! I can’t buffer myself all the time everywhere, it's simply impossible. I can...
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    Who knew they were addicted?

    This is pretty much the same story as mine, even down to seeing that tiktok and coming here. I never associated my porn habits with my ED, but I get it now. So happy to know I can focus and get a healthy sex life thanks to this site.
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    39, PIED, Gay. Finding it tough to be in gay social settings when porn is everywhere.

    I’ve had to completely remove connections on social media or remove myself from some social media platforms altogether. No dating apps as it’s all mostly half-naked dudes. I‘m an avid road cyclist and had to unfollow many of my favorite cycling brands since the dudes are all in revealing...
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