Recent content by jjacks

Glad you came back here. Just keep logging here instead of the chat site and you will be up to and past 200 days soon enough. Good luck!

No better time than now to delete it. What are you keeping it for, anyway? If you really want to quit, you don't need to keep porn. I took that same decision 6½ years ago and haven't looked back. The healing is real. Good luck!

Big hug, dude. Thanks for showing me the way. 6 years, 4 months. Going stronger than ever.

You are a true leader here. Félicitations, mon ami. -jj

I just celebrated 5 years no PMO! Everything I said a year ago applies. I will be 73 years old in a few months, and am still celebrating being all the man I want to be with a partner who rediscovered her libido at the same time. Guys: follow the program. Delete your porn accounts, log your...

Hi LettingGo and welcome to the group. Step 1 -- acknowledge your addiction. You did that. Step 2 -- destroy the videos. You say they are for your enjoyment but from what you write, there is no enjoyment coming your way from that. Destroy any accounts and passwords as well. Time to move...

There are three things happening here - let's keep them separate. First, the relapse. That one is easy. Just reset your counter. If you do not have one, start counting days of no PMO. It helps focus on the achievement, not the addiction.. We all fall off and reset our counters from time to...

Great to hear of your progress. Performance anxiety is a killer, but I found that once you start to perform once again, it dies its own slow death. You really just have to ignore it or laugh it off or whatever it takes to not let it get in the way. It took me several years to overcome it (I will...

Wonderful feel-good message! Thanks for sharing. Big hug. -jj

I remember when I was trying to quit smoking and I when had proudly gone a month someone told me that the third year was the hardest. Well, it wasn't entirely true. It took a few months to get over the intense cravings. It took closer to 6 months before I could comfortably say no thank you to an...

Not strange, same happened to me. For some reason, I can't get it up much masturbating any more. And if I do, the after effect is not good. But the minute I start with my wife, bingo! Yes! That is the key. Keep writing. keep putting those feelings in black and white.

I do not think this is the same. If you had been addicted to alcohol, you would have gone through an extremely difficult time to quit. And even more so because alcohol consumption is socially acceptable, so it is not like you would have to hide that once in a while drink. Porn really isn't the...

Congrats on the 82 days. Keeping porn out of your life is a huge step. It just keeps getting easier and the morning woods more frequent as the number goes up. As for the masturbation, I am not sure whether there is an easy answer. For me, the measure of success was getting it up and keeping it...

I made the same decision for the same reasons as you. She also had a lot of other stuff going on, like menopause and chemo, so there was really no need to add any more negative to her life. I also took some flak for it (here), you can read it in my journal. But, I believe that it was the right...

Welcome back ... be sure to post frequently in your journal. It really helps to see one's own feelings and thoughts in black and white. A big trigger is doing computer-related work in a private office, and this is especially hard to avoid these days of Covid. You might try to move your office...