irecovered
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Hi! I just wanted to post my success story to help out others suffering from PIED. To summarize, I had PIED once due to excessive masturbation and porn use (age 12 to 24). I recovered from this around age 25 with successful sex with gf. After we broke up I relapsed and had PIED again but recovered for a second time at age 28 (present).
Background:
Age: 28
History of masturbation/pornography:
> started masturbation and pornography age 12; started with pictures then videos at age 14 then tube sites age 15.
> Frequency of masturbation: averaging daily from age 12 to 24, average of once per day (15 minute session) and 90% of the time with porn. Most extreme porn watched is fantasy rape sex.
Sexual experience:
> Experienced raging libido from age 11 to 12 ? 10/10 erections from female touch but noticed less reaction/sexual arousal after this and gradually less over time due to porn. Noticed PIED at age 22 when I couldn?t get aroused with 1st girlfriend.
> Read YBOP and found out about PIED at age 25. Tried sex unsuccessfully with 2nd girlfriend at 25 yrs old (I was still a virgin) after 1 month of no porn. Consistent attempts over next 2 months resulted to successful rewiring ? was able to get a strong erection (Feb 2016). For the next 4 months, successful consistent sex (around 50 sexual encounters in total).
> I relapsed to porn and frequent masturbation from Oct 2016 to Dec 2017. During this period I probably had PIED again but couldn't tell because I was single.
> Started nofap again (Jan 2018 to August 2018 ? Age 27). Within this period I was single so no chance to test if I cured PIED again, I experienced initially weak then 10/10 erection with a date just by kissing.
> Then I moved on to my current girlfriend and relapsed to porn (Sept 2018, one month masturbation to pictures and porn casting vids) and when I tried to be active with my girlfriend, I get maximum of 7/10 erections but not consistent. We are in a long distance relationship so I focused on abstaining from porn, masturbation and fantasy.
Success story:
> Based on the narrative above, you can see that I already cured PIED once then I relapsed and had it again.
> Currently, Im proud to say that I cured PIED for a second time because every time my girlfriend and I would have sex now (whenever she's back from overseas), I would get erections (8 to 10/10) from kissing alone and focusing on her.
Tips for recovery:
> Focus on abstaining from porn, masturbation and fantasy. This will increase sensitivity but it might frustrate you at the start because once you're too sensitive, slightly arousing sexual acts might make you very aroused and ejaculate easily. No worries though, as you start to have sex, sensitivity will go down to normal levels.
> Whenever you get the urge to relapse, make it a habit to recall why you're doing this and the end goal and what will happen to you if you do relapse. This thought process will help you stay in line.
> When you're in a romantic relationship, the status of the relationship (going well or down hill, going through major fight) affects your erections. You're more likely to get and maintain erection when there is more love felt. On the flip side, it's still possible to get erections when things are not going well, when your erections are driven by lust alone. To maximize erections, its important to take care of your relationship so that erections are driven by lust and love as well.
> Anxiety is a major factor. I could have had sex already at an earlier time but my erections were stopped or limited by my thoughts of failure. Trick is to focus on the moment. Before having sex, it's important to set your mindset and mood straight. I go to the gym hours before to get the happy juices/vibes flowing, go on a romantic date prior to initiating sex to enhance the feeling of love for your partner. Most of all, insert laughter and fun, this takes away the negative vibes that increase anxiety and stop erections.
> It's okay to lose your erections at times. I experience this too when I get distracted or when I feel tired (usually when attempting 3rd round of sex within same day). When this happens, relax, cuddle and fool around with your partner then when ready, try sex again.
> Its better try try to rewire in a romantic relationship than through casual sex with multiples partners. Casual sex entails inconsistency (you dont know when you'll be able to have sex) while romantic relationships provide the opportunity to consistently rewire and at the same time build a family.
> When searching for a partner, find a kind one who you can talk to rationally if and when PIED occurs. My partner supported me when I failed at sex during the first tries. She became impatient after numerous tries but she held on to me and now we're here enjoying sex and loving each other.
> This is hard to do but as much as possible leave your ego behind and focus on recovering. This means don't let yourself feel too frustrated when failure happens and remind yourself that this is a process. If you're girl becomes impatient or feels as if it's her fault, be honest with her and just tell her the recovery process. She's more likely to stay if you're honest and patient. My current girlfriend and past girlfriend supported me when I explained the recovery process.
Background:
Age: 28
History of masturbation/pornography:
> started masturbation and pornography age 12; started with pictures then videos at age 14 then tube sites age 15.
> Frequency of masturbation: averaging daily from age 12 to 24, average of once per day (15 minute session) and 90% of the time with porn. Most extreme porn watched is fantasy rape sex.
Sexual experience:
> Experienced raging libido from age 11 to 12 ? 10/10 erections from female touch but noticed less reaction/sexual arousal after this and gradually less over time due to porn. Noticed PIED at age 22 when I couldn?t get aroused with 1st girlfriend.
> Read YBOP and found out about PIED at age 25. Tried sex unsuccessfully with 2nd girlfriend at 25 yrs old (I was still a virgin) after 1 month of no porn. Consistent attempts over next 2 months resulted to successful rewiring ? was able to get a strong erection (Feb 2016). For the next 4 months, successful consistent sex (around 50 sexual encounters in total).
> I relapsed to porn and frequent masturbation from Oct 2016 to Dec 2017. During this period I probably had PIED again but couldn't tell because I was single.
> Started nofap again (Jan 2018 to August 2018 ? Age 27). Within this period I was single so no chance to test if I cured PIED again, I experienced initially weak then 10/10 erection with a date just by kissing.
> Then I moved on to my current girlfriend and relapsed to porn (Sept 2018, one month masturbation to pictures and porn casting vids) and when I tried to be active with my girlfriend, I get maximum of 7/10 erections but not consistent. We are in a long distance relationship so I focused on abstaining from porn, masturbation and fantasy.
Success story:
> Based on the narrative above, you can see that I already cured PIED once then I relapsed and had it again.
> Currently, Im proud to say that I cured PIED for a second time because every time my girlfriend and I would have sex now (whenever she's back from overseas), I would get erections (8 to 10/10) from kissing alone and focusing on her.
Tips for recovery:
> Focus on abstaining from porn, masturbation and fantasy. This will increase sensitivity but it might frustrate you at the start because once you're too sensitive, slightly arousing sexual acts might make you very aroused and ejaculate easily. No worries though, as you start to have sex, sensitivity will go down to normal levels.
> Whenever you get the urge to relapse, make it a habit to recall why you're doing this and the end goal and what will happen to you if you do relapse. This thought process will help you stay in line.
> When you're in a romantic relationship, the status of the relationship (going well or down hill, going through major fight) affects your erections. You're more likely to get and maintain erection when there is more love felt. On the flip side, it's still possible to get erections when things are not going well, when your erections are driven by lust alone. To maximize erections, its important to take care of your relationship so that erections are driven by lust and love as well.
> Anxiety is a major factor. I could have had sex already at an earlier time but my erections were stopped or limited by my thoughts of failure. Trick is to focus on the moment. Before having sex, it's important to set your mindset and mood straight. I go to the gym hours before to get the happy juices/vibes flowing, go on a romantic date prior to initiating sex to enhance the feeling of love for your partner. Most of all, insert laughter and fun, this takes away the negative vibes that increase anxiety and stop erections.
> It's okay to lose your erections at times. I experience this too when I get distracted or when I feel tired (usually when attempting 3rd round of sex within same day). When this happens, relax, cuddle and fool around with your partner then when ready, try sex again.
> Its better try try to rewire in a romantic relationship than through casual sex with multiples partners. Casual sex entails inconsistency (you dont know when you'll be able to have sex) while romantic relationships provide the opportunity to consistently rewire and at the same time build a family.
> When searching for a partner, find a kind one who you can talk to rationally if and when PIED occurs. My partner supported me when I failed at sex during the first tries. She became impatient after numerous tries but she held on to me and now we're here enjoying sex and loving each other.
> This is hard to do but as much as possible leave your ego behind and focus on recovering. This means don't let yourself feel too frustrated when failure happens and remind yourself that this is a process. If you're girl becomes impatient or feels as if it's her fault, be honest with her and just tell her the recovery process. She's more likely to stay if you're honest and patient. My current girlfriend and past girlfriend supported me when I explained the recovery process.