Is worth quitting porn/masturbation if you gonna die a virgin?

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autist porn addict

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Hi,
like the title say is worth quitting porn/masturbation if you gonna die a virgin?
Before you say things like you can do it or some stuff like that let me give you some context.
I'm an autistic 18 (19 this year) years old.
I wasted my adolescence to porn and then has come the covid that killed all my chance to find sex.
The only reasons i have to quit porn are just these:
Is disgusting
Take a lot of energy
I don't care about ED or other stuff.
 
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ukquit11

Member
As someone who is also quitting porn without any realistic possibility of having sex in the future (due to being in a long term asexual relationship), here are my reasons for quitting:

  • Feeling morally better about myself. Before I began my reboot, I felt that I was always hiding myself from others and that I had deep dark secrets. My reboot has helped me to feel much 'cleaner' in my mind and I am now more open with other people.
  • Porn is completely unnatural and unrealistic, I want to experience natural pleasure (not just sexual) and return my mind and brain chemistry to how it was before I started viewing porn at 12 years old.
  • Porn gives you a loss of control over your own actions. I feel humiliated knowing that my actions and mind are being controlled by something else (porn addiction) and I aim to be strong enough to break free of this and take back control of my own body and mind.
  • Quitting porn will give you more time and energy to focus on other aspects of your life and improving yourself. My reboot has certainly helped me with this.
  • Financial reasons, I was spending a fair amount of money on monthly subscriptions which I have now invested into other things.
Another reason I have that I think will be really relevant for you is that you can 'never say never'. It may be the case that I am in a position to have regular sex in the future and I want to be prepared if this does happen. You are young and there is still a lot of life ahead of you. When I was 18-19, I felt exactly the same as you as I had not had any sexual experiences, but 2 years later I had lost my virginity and had several sexual encounters.
The mindset that 'I am not having sex, I might as well PMO' is in my opinion the porn talking to you. Until I broke out of this mindset, I was constantly relapsing, so I would be careful of it if I were you.
 
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autist porn addict

New Member
ukquit11 said:
As someone who is also quitting porn without any realistic possibility of having sex in the future (due to being in a long term asexual relationship), here are my reasons for quitting:

  • Feeling morally better about myself. Before I began my reboot, I felt that I was always hiding myself from others and that I had deep dark secrets. My reboot has helped me to feel much 'cleaner' in my mind and I am now more open with other people.
  • Porn is completely unnatural and unrealistic, I want to experience natural pleasure (not just sexual) and return my mind and brain chemistry to how it was before I started viewing porn at 12 years old.
  • Porn gives you a loss of control over your own actions. I feel humiliated knowing that my actions and mind are being controlled by something else (porn addiction) and I aim to be strong enough to break free of this and take back control of my own body and mind.
  • Quitting porn will give you more time and energy to focus on other aspects of your life and improving yourself. My reboot has certainly helped me with this.
  • Financial reasons, I was spending a fair amount of money on monthly subscriptions which I have now invested into other things.
Another reason I have that I think will be really relevant for you is that you can 'never say never'. It may be the case that I am in a position to have regular sex in the future and I want to be prepared if this does happen. You are young and there is still a lot of life ahead of you. When I was 18-19, I felt exactly the same as you as I had not had any sexual experiences, but 2 years later I had lost my virginity and had several sexual encounters.
The mindset that 'I am not having sex, I might as well PMO' is in my opinion the porn talking to you. Until I broke out of this mindset, I was constantly relapsing, so I would be careful of it if I were you.
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Hi and thanks for the reply, currently i'm trying to get 90 days free and eventually forever.
Since i never done that, i failed all the other times because of my mindset but now i hope things will be different.
In 90 days i will post here and see if something changed.
 
zaraki888

zaraki888

Active Member
Hello, yes is my answer. I believe porn is the cause of you missing out things. Because this was the reason for me being a virgin. It damage my self confidence, courage and belief in myself. All I had to do was having the courage to talk to girls I like and ask them out. 19 years is not old but young. Better have a meaningful, spiritual relationship than something you might regret. So be patient and get this addiction out of your life as soon as possible. Take care!
 
Fappy

Fappy

Respected Member
hello,
i think those two reasons that you gave yourself are good enough to be reasons for quitting. there isnt really any correlation between fapping to filthy pixels on a screen and having intercourse with someone. just because you may have already decided not to have sex with someone ( bullshit imo, since youre still very young!), dont use that as some fucked up justification to look at porn.
 
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matstu

Member
Of course it's worth it. Personally I think that sex is overrated anyway, so whether you get it or not doesn't matter all that much. It's a simple evolutionary urge that seems very strong, but when it actually happens it's like... meh. What really matters are strong and valuable interpersonal relationships, whether with sex or without it. Whatever your problems are, I hope that you can achieve such valuable connections. And it's worth noting that it's pornography that stands in the way of making them. It's one of the many reasons why stopping this destrucive habit is important.
 
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