Encouragement from my SO

[WizardOfKozz]

Hey Y'all

So it has been a few weeks since my partner found out about the extent of my porn addiction. Obviously, she was furious. As a result, she wanted me to move out of our apartment. Since this process I have tried to make some major strides in my recovery. I have started therapy (only 2 sessions in), gone to some SAA meetings and making some acountability partners, and started journaling. Looking back at my journal entries, I have not watched porn since 5/26. (Today is 6/6 for a frame of reference). My period of time since I last masturbated was sooner (last masturbated 5/31), but I have not since then,. Through the beginning of this process, my partner vwas nothing but angry with me. And i understand that. But something change this past week. She told me that "I know this will be hard, but I know you can do it, and I l love you". You have no idea how much hearing those words meant to me. I know the road ahead is not easy, and there is still damaged trust between me and my partner, but knowing that she believes in me is going to make this process so much easier. Just wanted to share. Thanks for reading!!!

 

[WoundedSparrow]

My addiction is hurting my relationship too. She's quite upset with me, and rightfully so. We have to get better for their sake and ours. Every time we relapse, we step out on them. It's not the same as outright cheating, but it's damn close. We as men shouldn't be satisfying ourselves sexually to anyone who isn't our significant other. It's not just a matter of brain chemistry or willpower, it's a matter of morals and we need to act like it.

 

[Fappy]

We as men shouldn't be satisfying ourselves sexually to anyone who isn't our significant other.

Here here! As your significant other, it is their duty to make sure youre satifsfied sexually. In this way it can greatly help the progress of your reboot, knowing that there is someone available to take out your sexual urges on helps. Of course, the goal is to eliminate the triggers that lead to PMO in the first place.

 

[Gracie]

Just a thought here: It is NOT your partners DUTY to satisfy you sexually! It is up to you and your partner to work toward a relationship that is mutually consensual and provides mutual enjoyment. That is when your relationship is fun and mutually fulfilling.