Is the monk mode really possible these days?! I feel everything around us is sexualulized. Unless you lock yourself in a closet, you will encounter something during the day. Either on the internet, on street, on TV, etc. We can limit it though. But it won't take long until you see something. When I have urges, sometimes even some ads on the billboards are arousing. I have no idea how I can eliminate these. Any suggestions?
Hello Gigili, my apologize for my late respond. I suffer stress sometimes when being here on this forum. Therefore I avoid responding or writing as stress is for me the main cause of relapsing.
You are correct. It is everywhere. However there is a way that helps me. I figured out for myself there is a time period before I am getting aroused when seeing women walking on the street or as you mentioned ads on the billboard. I would call it for myself the 2 second rule or a user with the name bigbookofpenis calls it ''the no arousal method. I just added a time period.
Dopamine needs time to be released and thoughts and what we see happens much quicker I have realized. We can stop the arousal feelings when we respond quickly on time. No second longer, no stare. 2 second maximum or even 0.5 second. Unfortunate, once you already feel the withdrawal symptoms, urges and cravings, then this technique doesn't really work anymore. Too late, you are already triggered, dopamine has been released. Then you have the option to resist urges or relieve it with a session, which is much more difficult. Also when you got stuck in the chaser effect, this technique won't work either.
This is for instance what I do
Street: when I see women, I look away quick. I don't check her out.
Tv: I don't random watch tv programs. I am on guard all the time and will look away when I see something that might trigger me
I didn't watch movies I don't know. I keep my eyes on female faces, not her chest or body. If I find her attractive, I look away or stop watching further just in case.
Internet: I don't have facebook. I watch educational video's, listen music, products reviews, .....If I check the recommended video page and I see women, I look away quick.
Also please know that it isn't the killing that we want as addicts, it is the seek and search to novelty super stimulus according to the book easypease.
This means as I far as I understand, we don't even have to see a p video. The moment we decide we want to search something up like an old girlfriend from highschool if she has pictures on the interent, dopamine release could already start happening, which then followed by strong urges.