TakeActionNow
Respected Member
WHAT IS MY CAR
WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?
PART 1 OF 2
Imagine we have a car that wont start on Sunday
We need the car to get to work on Monday
What would we do?
1. Meddle around and try to find the problem, but ended thinking its a battery or spark plug fault and not realizing that its out of gas
2. Go chill and watch TV and not give a bother.
3. Go polish the car thinking it'll make us feel better
4. Go walk 2 miles to the nearest station and get a can of gas
5. get a friend to give us a lift to the nearest station
6. get a friend to bring us some gas
Now think that the car is a problem / challenge / stress we are facing in life.
What should we do ?
#1 is helpful but we're not successful in solving the problem
#2 and #3 feels good but doesnt help with the problem at all
#4 is the most independent solution. Make the effort and solve it ourselves. Learn from it.
#5 is also good. getting help from someone who works through the problem together with us. Learning with support
#6 is dependent. passing the problem to someone else to solve. did we really learn the lesson and improve?
Thinking deeper,
#1 is ignorance. we tried but are wasting precious time and effort
#2 and #3 is avoidance. PMO lives here, blocking our path to improving our lives
#4 is about courage and self reliance
#5 is about therapist. getting help when needed
#6 is also avoidance. we really should own our issues.
WHAT IS MY PROBLEM?
PART 1 OF 2
Imagine we have a car that wont start on Sunday
We need the car to get to work on Monday
What would we do?
1. Meddle around and try to find the problem, but ended thinking its a battery or spark plug fault and not realizing that its out of gas
2. Go chill and watch TV and not give a bother.
3. Go polish the car thinking it'll make us feel better
4. Go walk 2 miles to the nearest station and get a can of gas
5. get a friend to give us a lift to the nearest station
6. get a friend to bring us some gas
Now think that the car is a problem / challenge / stress we are facing in life.
What should we do ?
#1 is helpful but we're not successful in solving the problem
#2 and #3 feels good but doesnt help with the problem at all
#4 is the most independent solution. Make the effort and solve it ourselves. Learn from it.
#5 is also good. getting help from someone who works through the problem together with us. Learning with support
#6 is dependent. passing the problem to someone else to solve. did we really learn the lesson and improve?
Thinking deeper,
#1 is ignorance. we tried but are wasting precious time and effort
#2 and #3 is avoidance. PMO lives here, blocking our path to improving our lives
#4 is about courage and self reliance
#5 is about therapist. getting help when needed
#6 is also avoidance. we really should own our issues.
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