How serious is my case? Hoping to get some advice as I'm freaking out right about now

[37yohelp]

I'm not sure if other people share my fear but my main concerns are
1) I hope it's not a serious medical issue and
2) If it's not medical, I hope it's not permanent and irreversible

I'm going this weekend to the doctor for a health checkup just to rule out any medical issues.

I just spent all day reading about PIED and now realize this sounds like me. I knew things weren't going in the right direction but I didn't realize it was as bad as they are now.

Here's a quick summary:
- I've always had performance issues during sex (finishing too quickly) so I turned to porn to help me last longer but not being as horny when I finally do have sex
- Over the years I realize that turned into an addiction to the point where I now basically watch porn as a hobby.
- I can get an erection while watching porn but it takes longer and only after I start masturbating and forcing it (whereas before just opening up a porn site used to give me an erection)
- For a very long time now, I've had issues where I lose an erection during sex while wearing a condom
- Things have progressively gotten worse and now I'm having issues having sex most of the time. I still manage to get hard during a blow job (although not as easily as I should) but as soon as I try having sex, I go flacid. If I go a few days without porn/masturbating and have sex, I can usually get hard (I think) and have sex (because by then I'm very horny) although I will likely cum very quickly or possibly lose my erection quickly
- Overall I just have a hard time getting and maintaining an erection during sex now

So for obvious reasons I'm freaking out right now. If it's purely PEID and giving up porn and fapping is going to reverse my situation, then I can deal with that.


Just looking to get any advice

 

[forestwater]

Yeah, sounds like your problem is at least partially PIED. The earlier performance issues I'm not sure about, but trying to use porn to help them was like trying to put out a fire with gasoline. However, all is not lost! Now that you're aware of what's going on, you can get better. Good luck!

 

[Stiffy999]

I'm not sure if other people share my fear but my main concerns are
1) I hope it's not a serious medical issue and
2) If it's not medical, I hope it's not permanent and irreversible

I'm going this weekend to the doctor for a health checkup just to rule out any medical issues.

I just spent all day reading about PIED and now realize this sounds like me. I knew things weren't going in the right direction but I didn't realize it was as bad as they are now.

Here's a quick summary:
- I've always had performance issues during sex (finishing too quickly) so I turned to porn to help me last longer but not being as horny when I finally do have sex
- Over the years I realize that turned into an addiction to the point where I now basically watch porn as a hobby.
- I can get an erection while watching porn but it takes longer and only after I start masturbating and forcing it (whereas before just opening up a porn site used to give me an erection)
- For a very long time now, I've had issues where I lose an erection during sex while wearing a condom
- Things have progressively gotten worse and now I'm having issues having sex most of the time. I still manage to get hard during a blow job (although not as easily as I should) but as soon as I try having sex, I go flacid. If I go a few days without porn/masturbating and have sex, I can usually get hard (I think) and have sex (because by then I'm very horny) although I will likely cum very quickly or possibly lose my erection quickly
- Overall I just have a hard time getting and maintaining an erection during sex now

So for obvious reasons I'm freaking out right now. If it's purely PEID and giving up porn and fapping is going to reverse my situation, then I can deal with that.


Just looking to get any advice

Dude you have combination of Performance anxiety and mild PIED.You need to understand that sex isn't a thing you force, it's actually very enjoyable thing.How do you expect to enjoy it,if you constantly freak out about your erection whether it will stay up or not?Such things kill your arousal,you need to relax.So to answer your question-NO you don't have any medical issues,the real issue is your worrying head.It takes time to relax and be spontaneous I know that for a fact,but tell me,how are you supposed to get aroused with that anxious mindset ?
P.S.
Of course go NoFap and never go back to porn it will boost your horniness,as you yourself mentioned

 

[37yohelp]

I think it started as performance anxiety and I used porn to try to help which as forestwater pointed out, was a terrible idea, because now what was just performance anxiety has turned into PIED. So it seems like first I have to solve the PIED issue, and only then can I focus on the performance anxiety problem after that.

 

[Stiffy999]

I think it started as performance anxiety and I used porn to try to help which as forestwater pointed out, was a terrible idea, because now what was just performance anxiety has turned into PIED. So it seems like first I have to solve the PIED issue, and only then can I focus on the performance anxiety problem after that.

You should focus on both.While being clean from porn try sex with your partner.If your anxiety kills your erection don't worry,you don't need penis to give a woman the best sex she has ever had.So instead of focusing on yourself and your problems,focus on her pleasure and it will be fulfilling experience

 

[Tryinghere]

I'm not sure if other people share my fear but my main concerns are
1) I hope it's not a serious medical issue and
2) If it's not medical, I hope it's not permanent and irreversible

I'm going this weekend to the doctor for a health checkup just to rule out any medical issues.

I just spent all day reading about PIED and now realize this sounds like me. I knew things weren't going in the right direction but I didn't realize it was as bad as they are now.

Here's a quick summary:
- I've always had performance issues during sex (finishing too quickly) so I turned to porn to help me last longer but not being as horny when I finally do have sex
- Over the years I realize that turned into an addiction to the point where I now basically watch porn as a hobby.
- I can get an erection while watching porn but it takes longer and only after I start masturbating and forcing it (whereas before just opening up a porn site used to give me an erection)
- For a very long time now, I've had issues where I lose an erection during sex while wearing a condom
- Things have progressively gotten worse and now I'm having issues having sex most of the time. I still manage to get hard during a blow job (although not as easily as I should) but as soon as I try having sex, I go flacid. If I go a few days without porn/masturbating and have sex, I can usually get hard (I think) and have sex (because by then I'm very horny) although I will likely cum very quickly or possibly lose my erection quickly
- Overall I just have a hard time getting and maintaining an erection during sex now

So for obvious reasons I'm freaking out right now. If it's purely PEID and giving up porn and fapping is going to reverse my situation, then I can deal with that.


Just looking to get any advice

Sounds a lot like me. Sounds a lot like a lot of guys here. Yes, I’d say you’ve got PIED. luckily you can get better.
First off, stop watching porn immediately
Next, don’t start watching it again.

Obviously it goes deeper than just that but that really the only hard rule.

for what it’s worth, 6 months ago I couldn’t have sex. Now, I can. Feel free to message me if you need any tips help.

you made the right move by coming here. You’ll find lots of information from guys that have been through and are going through it. Good luck sir!

 

[TakeActionNow]

its not good when things get psychological and one has doubts before things even got started.
your fears are self perpetuating and will create limp outcomes !!!

ED is a result of over stimulation
ED is a result of low confidence

@Tryinghere is correct

My personal experience:
1. stop PMO. Store up your sperm and tension ( MO relaxes )
2. get viagra
3. have sex using viagra to build confidence
4. have sex repeatedly to build tolerance
3. have pre and post colitus talk with your partner to build trust and understanding. A good partner will reassure and work with you.

 

[Fappy]

Sounds like PIED. Good news is that by stopping porn you will recover from it. It might seem daunting or impossible now, possibly due to withdrawal symptoms, but you’ll feel better over time. Just let the process take it’s course