During reboot, is it okay to get off to my own imagination of my significant other?

[Mike12345]

Quick little backstory. I posted a separate thread in here with the details, but basically, I discovered after about 10 months of hitting my weed pen and getting off every night to porn (and morning and midday - 3x a day) that caused some issues in my interpersonal relationship. I have been single since December 2020. I just met a girl about 6 months ago and just a few days ago, we started getting into it for the first time but then it came to light that hey, I have a problem. Anyways, as a result, I got rid of my weed pen, deleted all my Pornhub bookmarks, and haven't looked at porn since I realized this was impacting my relationship. I have literally zero desire to go back to porn. None. On top of all that I drastically changed my diet for the better, too.

So, given that back story, also worth noting, when I even just think of my girl and that "failed" night (we did do stuff, we went down on each other, messed with each other, all that, but obviously I didn't finish), I get turned on.

Would you say it's okay and maybe even probably productive for me to get off just thinking about her? I've gone from 3x a day to just once a night, thinking about her. No other stimulation.

Thanks!

 

[Fappy]

I’ve been in this situation before. I started dating my wife and I decided to cut out porn. Nothing big happened I just decided it was the right thing to do. We dated and made out all the time and had oral sex but didn’t have intercourse for religious reasons although neither of us were virgins before we met. I continued to masturbate to fantasy and pictures of her. On the honeymoon we go to have sex and I have really bad ED issues. In retrospect I think I had just programmed myself to get off to my hand and not a real person and it caused some problems until I got reprogrammed. It’s extremely difficult to do but that’s the reason I wouldn’t recommend masturbating to pictures or mental images of her.

yes thats a good point. your brain might get wired to the stimulation you give yourself with your hand to the point of not being able to get off any other way. thats why along with a reboot its important to rewire to another person.
howeve, masturbation isnt all that bad if its done without artificial sexual stimuli such as porn or erotic images, but overdoing it could set you back.