Porn is not an option

Blondie

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Day 330, 11 months porn free!

@Ezel:
Just to start this journey of abstaining from porn is a life changer, be it 7 days or just 2 days is a great progress and a wonderful start compared to the sus we were all are in a period of our lives.
Yes, this is totally true. Whatever we do, even if just it seems like baby steps at first, will make a gigantic difference in our life - especially on a long term scale.
But the challenge it's not only to get to the top but it's also to stay at the top and leave the filth once and for all, even though getting to the top with all the withdrawal symptoms and the crazy urges that you have to ignore is a challenge we all face day in and day out. You know what i mean...
I feel this is where I'm at now, where I need to learn how to permanently stay off this nasty trail that I've blazed in my head over these years. It's one day at time for sure.
But one day we all gonna make it bruh... Just like you said it's a slow process but it works and we just have to trust it and believe in ourselves...
Keep rocking it Blondie ☺️😉 bless you man...
We will brother! We just have to put in the work and we'll get to those heavenly porn free gates.

Thanks for all of your encouragement Ezel.
 

SmokenMirrors

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For the last week, I've been trying to find a passage in a book that was a favorite of mine when I first started this journey over four years ago - today I finally found it! It's a passage from Gates of Fire by Steven Pressfield - a hell of a book if you've never read it. It's a fictional take on the 300 story and the battle of Thermopylae, which in my opinion is a story that is hard to beat. What's so amazing about the book is not the epic battles (which are great!) but the mindsets and discipline of a warrior and a warrior society; which I find not only inspirational, but very beneficial to every part of my life, and yes, my battle with porn.

But the reason I mention this book today is because of a particular passage that struck me emotionally when I first read it. The passage describes how Spartan men saw their women and how Spartan society in particular viewed the fairer sex.

This shouldn't be triggering for anyone, but a heads up just in case.

The wives and maidens of my native Astakos, and those of every other city of Hellas, routinely employ cosmetics and facial paint to enhance their comeliness. These ladies are keenly aware of the effect the artificial sheen of their curls or the pink of their lips produces upon any male within range of their charms.
None of this entered into the scheme of the lady Paraleia, nor Arete either. Her peplos robe was split up the side in the Spartan style, revealing her bare leg to the thigh. This in any other city would have been lewd to the point of scandalous. Yet here in Lakedaemon it was unremarkable in the extreme. This is a leg. We women posses them just like you men. For Spartan males to leer or ogle a lady in this dress would have been unthinkable. They had beheld their mothers and sisters and daughters naked since they were old enough to open their eyes, both in the girls' and women athletic training and in the festivals and the other women's processions.
Still these ladies, both of them, were not unaware of their personal magnetism and the effect it produced
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Is this description of Sparta factual? I have no idea, I'm no historian, but it resonated with me when I first read it. I think it's a beautiful thing and I long to have that essence of female appreciation in my life. Of course, the passage goes on to say that the man did feel attraction as did any men in the presence of these Spartan ladies, but it wasn't "body parts" per se (not that they didn't notice) , but it was the essence of the whole that was beautiful.

Yes these women were athletic and in shape, but they were more than just their "hot" bodies. They were mothers, sisters and daughters, not to be lusted over but to be honored and cherished. I sometimes wonder what it would be like to live in a society that doesn't make such a big deal about "nudity" and where both sexes, more or less, live almost completely nude. Would porn even exist in such a society, when almost everyone is naked? Would we even care so much about all of this if we had see it all from childhood? Yes we would be attracted, but wouldn't it be different? Who knows! Maybe I'm fantasizing here, but hell it's better than my old fantasies! :cool:

Lesson learned: we can't help that we were born in a shit culture that seems to sexualize everything while ironically most go without sex! (look at the statistics). But we can have control over what we do with ourselves, not just with our eyes, but more importantly, with our thoughts and how we think about women.

Besides, don't we men have more important things to do than ogle Spartan women? And if you don't know the answer to that most important question, then you just found your problem.

Find your battle, find your passion, and be willing to die for it, and when you do, porn will be just a memory.

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I've ordered that book, sounds like there is a lot of masculine wisdom in there!
 

SmokenMirrors

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Day 330, 11 months porn free!

@Ezel:

Yes, this is totally true. Whatever we do, even if just it seems like baby steps at first, will make a gigantic difference in our life - especially on a long term scale.

I feel this is where I'm at now, where I need to learn how to permanently stay off this nasty trail that I've blazed in my head over these years. It's one day at time for sure.

We will brother! We just have to put in the work and we'll get to those heavenly porn free gates.

Thanks for all of your encouragement Ezel.
11 months! Legendary! I hope you are proud of yourself, king
 

forceisstrong2

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Hey Blondie,

Congrats on eleven months. You are a hero to us all.

I see you are a fan of Steven Pressfield. He's great! I read Pressfield's The War of Art recently. Really interesting book too. It's about creativity and fighting one's inner demons and eventually living a fulfilling life. It's well worth reading.

It's like he learnt from the Spartans and used their knowledge/skill in his own life to become a better artist/man.

Recommended!
 

Blondie

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@SmokenMirrors: Thanks man, I can't wait to hear what you think about it - I'm guessing you'll love it. Just flipping through the pages to find that passage made me want to read it over again! It's definitely a treasure trove of masculine wisdom. Reading it makes you want to run out and kick some ass and live life to the extreme! I can't wait to have a discussion about it. (y) (y)
11 months! Legendary! I hope you are proud of yourself, king
Thanks man, I'll try to work on that. Not always my strongest point!

@astralon: Thanks man! It's definitely worth a checkout from the library. But a fair warning to you dear possible reader, reading it might just make you want to touch yourself, not to masturbate of course (we don't do that shit anymore!), but to check to see if you even have balls. :cool: I know after I read it, I doubted if I was even a quarter of the weakest man in the book! Modern life has made us men so domesticated, that even checking our vitals doesn't ensure we're actually alive! But the great thing is, we CAN always choose to get off our asses and run off into the darkest chambers of our hearts.

Best

@downhillfromhere: Thanks man. What I can do, we all can do. I mean that with all my heart.

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@forceisstrong2: Thanks for the great tip off! I've never read that book but it sounds like it should be on my to read list. However, I have read The Art of War, which is a masterpiece of ancient wisdom. I picked up Gates of Fire because I've been a hugh fan of 300 since it came out years ago. After watching that, I read The Histories, by Herodotus, which is the classic account it was based on, then I moved on to Pressfield's amazing fictional book. Anything about Sparta is always fascinating to me - I love warrior cultures and the values they uphold.

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Blondie

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Day 331

Day 3 of no O


I've decided to refrain from orgasming this next month until I get to my 12 months. I really liked the results last time I did this at the beginning of summer and I want to have that focus for this next month for my studies. Things will be getting quite busy for me as I took on a couple of challenges with school that scare the shit out of me - so much so that yesterday I kept thinking to myself "Did I really sign up for that?" I like this new person but sometimes he scares the shit out of me! :cool: I keep reminding myself that even if I "fail" it won't be a real failure because if didn't try to do this, I would have been disappointed with myself.

Let's commit this week to getting out of our comfort zones.

Best everyone, and stay the fuck away from you know what!

"First you've gotta know - not fear, know - that someday you're gonna die." - Tyler Durden
 
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First_step_thousand_miles

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Hell yeah man, 11 months is incredible! I'm so excited for you to get to 1yr, you'll really be cruising from there! Truly the resident Gabe Deem. Remember seeing a video of Gabe playing frisbee mentioning he was like 1k days p-free, psyched for you to do the same

Much love my man, super happy for you and where this journey will take you
 
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sho0fl

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Hey Blondie,

Been reading through the first 10 pages of your journal and would like to thank you for sharing this.

I hope that it has helped you, I can say that it definitely gives inspiration. Much <3 for this!

Would like to have your resolve during this fight. Also, congratulations on your progress, you're killing this.
 
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Blondie

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Thanks Sho0fl, I'm glad it could be of some help!

I know for myself reading everyone's journal here has helped me tremendously, there are so many inspiring stories.

Best
 

forceisstrong2

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Hey @Blondie Yeah, the Spartans are kickass. Do you know that 300 is based on a graphic novel. It's brilliant. I'm sure you've read it, but in case not you should check it out... This is one of my favor Spartan stories: Philip (Alexander's father) sent a message to the Spartans saying “If I invade Lakonia you will be destroyed, never to rise again.” The Spartans replied with one word, “If.”

Steven Pressfield's The War of Art is kinda about defeating one's inner demons - he calls it Resistance. It's interesting as I think porn addiction is like the ultimate inner demon. Anyway, defo do check out the book, it's short but full of wisdom. You'll learn more here at Pressfield's site: https://stevenpressfield.com/books/the-war-of-art/

All the best and congrats again on the 11 months!
 

Blondie

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Hey @forceisstrong! I have read that graphic novel and it's definitely brilliant - I really loved the artwork!

Thank you for that fantastic story. I believe that's where we get the word "laconic" from. Someone who speaks with few words is laconic i.e. from Lakonia! Pretty cool stuff.

Steven Pressfield's The War of Art is kinda about defeating one's inner demons - he calls it Resistance. It's interesting as I think porn addiction is like the ultimate inner demon.
I whole heartedly agree. I think it's safe to say that porn is the epitome of one's inner demons. I will have to check that out!

Thank you.

Until meantime, let's slay us some porn demons!

Best
 
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