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Emptyroom, Great to have you back! You contribute a lot to this space whenever you are here. The fact that you say, "I'm not the old me" means that you have progressed, and that the work you have done while you are here is not negated by a binge. Two steps forward and one step back is still...

This is sound advice. There is something different about an in-person 12-step meeting that engenders a deeper commitment. Find one in your town and get yourself there.

4th Reboot, 1 Year and 7 Days Today I got the news that I didn't get the promotion that I had been hoping for--and was actually expecting to get! I worked very hard preparing for the interview and in the process I had convinced myself that, of the 8 other candidates, I was the best person for...

Thanks, @Blondie and @GBS !

@jonazo91, I just read the latest in this thread now, and I want to tell you how deeply moved I am by your honesty, your striving after truth, and your steadfast commitment to escape from the prison of self and become truly free. And because this, I feel good saying that I am proud of you and of...

@jonazo91, The message you just typed was, for me, the most difficult one to get out. I don't know whether it was shame, or remorse, or just plain anger that always prevented me from jumping right back in. So congratulations on getting right back on the wagon without delay.

Thanks @GBS!

4th Reboot, Day 350 During the pandemic I was able to work from home (WFH) two days per week. Those two days were spent either binging on P or obsessing about how I was not going to binge on P (and then usually end up binging anyway). A year ago the WFH ended. Then yesterday, I had an...

Thanks for writing so honestly, @jonazo91 ! This type of honesty means that you're on the path to recovery. Hundreds (maybe thousands!) of times in the past I tried declaring that I'm done with porn forever, but it never stuck. I would end up telling myself that I'm going to use porn just...

Hey @jonazo91, I feel moved by your sharing and can definitely relate to what you're going through. I loved the vision that you have for yourself: I agree with Blondie that opening up with your wife is key. However, I would not necessarily tell her about your relapse. I have found that while...

Gordon 7, you have proven that you believe by your actions. You may have heard this story before, but for those who have not: The amazing story of Charles Blondin, a famous French tightrope walker, is a wonderful illustration of what it means to truly believe. This story illustrates that true...

Sincerest condolences to you and your family, GBS.

Are you using the Sensate Focus program on your own or with the guidance of a therapist?

Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope with all of us!

4th Reboot, Day 325 I just finished the exercise from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People where I imagine in detail my own funeral and what would I want people to say about me. It helped me to understand that how I treat other people is the only legacy I leave in this material world. Because...

4th Reboot, Day 300 About a month ago I noticed that for any woman who comes into my field of view, I would glance at her body parts. For the past month, I've been making a conscious effort to not do this, and to keep my focus above the neck. While not 100% successful, I have still found that...

4th Reboot, Day 271 Yesterday, the best I could do was to say that I would avoid p*rn in any form for 24 hrs, and then go back to PMO tomorrow. I ended up binge-watching the last season of "Better Call Saul". Definitely not one of my best days, but it was far from being the worst. As it has...

Thanks for the encouragement, @Blondie. So true--wasting my life for something that's not real! Definitely not worth it.

4th Reboot, Day 270 My brilliant brain has hatched a plan this morning and I can't seem to shake it. My plan is to go to a chat room, but not look at any images. That way, I can get a dopamine hit and still call myself sober. Here's one problem. I've tried this many times before, but it has...

4th Reboot, Day 267 My 5th grade daughter is going on a school camping trip/science camp for three days on an island, and my 11th grade son is thinking about what college to go to. As I watch my children grow up, I desperately want to prevent them from making the same mistakes I made as a youth...