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Just checking in. It was a good week of staying busy. Three main thoughts came up during the week. First, the seasonality of winter doldrums probably makes this process more difficult. Not as much daylight, fewer opportunities to be outdoors can make the process of engagement with others...

Just want to say I really appreciate being able to read all the other threads here. While there is a big common denominator for all of us here, each of our situations are different in a lot of ways. It is good to be able to read about the different challenges and approaches that we try and...

It really is a two-part process of taking PMO out of your life and a need to re-fill your life with other positive, affirming actions and experiences. @TakeActionNow says it well when noting we need to "learn to draw happiness and satisfaction in your daily life, however, small." For me it has...

It's been a weird few days. Feeling better but still have a nagging cough that has not gone away. Already had a doctor's appt scheduled for a physical/annual wellness check. This was the first appt with a new doctor as I moved to a new area earlier last year. Most of the appt was fine but he...

Finally feeling a bit better. I'm certainly experiencing and remembering more dreams lately. Not any more sex dreams like the one from the other night but seemingly a change in sleep patterns. Am curious to see where this will go. Can't comment yet on how I am feeling after sleep as I have a...

Well said Nico. I have long history of "everything will be better if I just ... ". Focusing on now has been, and continues to be, so helpful.

It has been a strange couple of days. Noticed a cough starting later on Christmas that had added congestion and some aches by Monday. Did take a test to confirm it is not covid ... but feeling pretty blah and tired for the moment. The other strange part was a dream on Sunday night that...

Being vulnerable is another form of being real to yourself. Something that can be greatly beneficial ... likely essential ... to recovery.

Following up on the post a couple of days ago on Harpoon's thread ... I've got a list of 4 actions I try to keep in mind in an effort to more proactive vs reactive during each day. The first is Play ... doing something that brings me joy. Knowing I need to find other things that generate...

I was actually going to post these thoughts on my thread, but your comments here just seemed like a good fit. I have been focusing on four actions in an effort to be more proactive in my life. One of them is "play" and your comments about what happened with the swim group fit this. I try to...

Thinking a lot about being proactive vs reactive. Especially being proactive in actions I want to take compared to reacting to what happens around me or to me. Winter seems to make that a little more challenging as being proactive for me often involves getting out to do something. Still doing...

It has been a good couple of days. One aspect of that has been taking the time to reach out and re-connect with people that I had not been in touch with for a long time. These are people that had been close to me or ones that I had more connected relationships with in the past ... whether that...

Thinking of @TakeActionNow and his recent comment that "The power to change comes from replacement. Just as we cannot exist within a vacuum, pleasure abstinence cannot exist without suitable replacement." Today was a day where there were a couple of times where little bits of pleasure came out...

In of the recent videos you posted, Dr. Leigh referred to it as "pushing the easy button". NOT pushing that button is serving as a good reference for me now.

I was out and about for a good part of the day today. Focus today was on genuine interactions with people. Even if it was very brief, trying to see the whole of a person and not objectify in any way. Our lives are often moving so quickly it can be hard to ... but this served as another way to...

I'm guessing a lot of us have felt that way too. Just know there are people here that want to support you too ... just like all of us look for support too. It's clear you put a lot of effort into trying to change your life. Hang in there and keep up the good work.

Coming to the end of the weekend. Chilly but good day outside today. Feeling pretty mellow and peaceful ... taking a slow approach to most things right now. I'm on the lookout for potential flatline but do not feel like this is that. Looking forward to what tomorrow may bring. Day 18 today...

Thoughtful day today. Spent time thinking about my other behaviors that I realize are my other "go to's" when needing that boost of dopamine. A few are good but others are not so good. It becomes clear that in most cases, I have pursued more of each over time to get that same feeling. Lots...

I like those ideas. I have been thinking about trying to learn to play guitar. I played a couple of instruments in school when I was young but have not tried to play anything since I was a kid. Helping people makes sense too. I recently connected with a group that puts on a large...

Hi Nacho. Just checking in. Has your sleep gotten any better? Biggest help for me is closing/shutting off any tv/computer at least an hour before going to sleep. I'll write a little bit to remind me of what I did well that day and have some relaxing music/sounds to play as I start to sleep...