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Thanks to @GBS for promoting @Blondie's great post the other day, which is here: https://forum.rebootnation.org/index.php?threads/21504/page-163#post-282543 I think I mostly agree with this: our attraction to porn is, at its heart, an attraction to women. And that is not a shameful thing: men...

Not exactly porn, but too many sexy girls yesterday and I need to rein that in today. I don't post as much as I should when it's going well, which then leads to it not going well. My kids have been trading colds around and now I have it: when I feel cruddy my willpower is much lower and I...

I would say this is 99% true. With porn, you can indulge whatever and exactly whatever kind of fantasy is in your head right this moment: that's the part of the draw. But even so it's still not better, but might be more attractive in the moment, if that makes sense. Kind of the same way that...

Saturday I looked at a few gifs, mildly erotic, and then closed the tab and went on my way. One thing I've found helps a little is making a post to ChatGPT whenever I feel the urge. It responds to the user's tone, so if I'm clearly trying to resist temptation and not wanting to give in, it...

Still going. Doing a lot more (clean) creative writing lately, and that gives my mind something to do that is actually good for it, and a good place to redirect when a porn thought happens by.

It's a long, long struggle. I get you. Your particular problem (just like my particular problem) is all tangled up in layers of your personality, your environment, your upbringing, your desires, your trauma (or lack thereof). We're all similar, but exactly what works or doesn't for each of us...

Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday went pretty well (including Tuesday, my work-from-home day). Trying to continue to focus on those small battles. That focus works well and then I get complacent and don't think about it and allow those small distractions to distract me, etc etc.

I lapsed on Saturday, for about a half hour (or a whole hour, if you count the time spent looking for something, before the actual lapse). No excuse: I gave in to a temptation that's been hovering around for days. On the plus side, it did take days, and it was only an hour, and it didn't...

I liked what you and @Phineas 808 said. I doubt the neural pathways ever quite go away, but the brain does change (not as fast as we'd like, but...). I can tell a change after only a week or two away, and even more when it's been longer. So, again, we're not a slave to our past decisions and...

I ought to be feeling frustrated this morning, because my wife and I planned time together last night and then the kids (unintentionally) conspired to make that not happen. And I am. On the other hand, it's a warm spring day and I started it at 6am with coffee on the back deck, looking out...

I have erotic stories on my mind, and I'm feeling enormous temptation to imagine them out and write them down. I know perfectly well that I'll be disappointed at the end, because there's never much plot, plus it's just written porn and the guilt and shame afterwards will be greater than the fun...

It does, it really does. It feels fun in the moment, and (sometimes) even like it's not so bad. But it always leads to more, and that always leads to hopelessness. Which is why what we are doing here is so freeing. Keep at it!

I am far from any kind of expert, but I wonder if some of this is due to anxiety. They say the brain is the biggest sex organ (or something like that) so how hard you are thinking about it does have some effect on how hard you can get (or not). I've certainly experienced that myself, but when...

Tuesday went okay, albeit with some minor straying, but not into porn. This is my reminder to myself to keep being aware: it's those small things that are pretty-okay in and of themselves that lead eventually to the crash.

Keep at it, @GBS!

Didn't post yesterday, but I only had maybe 15 minutes online all day, none of which was used for porn. My wife got back yesterday afternoon and we got some time together. Only she had to work last night, and is scheduled to work tonight and Tuesday night. We're both sad about not getting to...

Saturday post: no porn. Not much temptation either, but the thought did occur to me a few times, so I'm glad for this place.

My wife and youngest daughter are leaving this afternoon and will be gone until Sunday afternoon, to a mother-daughter retreat sort of thing. I hope and expect it'll be a great experience for them. Meanwhile, I'll be home with the other kids doing the single-parent thing and missing her. So...

Progress! Keep going!

So far so good. Didn't really even think about it yesterday. I work at a university, and it helps that the students have gone home now: the co-eds can frequently be very distracting, even though they're all young enough to be my daughters any more.