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    The Final Thread continues

    I was in a shop the other day and noticed one of Anna Lembke's books. I think it was the Workbook for Dopamine Nation. I didn't buy the book but I did some research and listened to a podcast with her. She's into the science around dopamine and talks about addiction a lot. Somewhat surprisingly...
  2. new reality

    The Final Thread continues

    Hello again lol. I still haven't fully solved this issue. One of these days, eh? More soon.
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    Free At Last

    Welcome back. Have you tried blockers and generally making it harder to relapse or "peek" and so on? Maybe old ideas could help then! I'm referring to old interests you may have that you might want to revive. You might have better things to think about then.
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    The Final Thread continues

    Maybe The Freedom Model isn't the silver bullet, by itself. At least not for me. It's probably helped a fair bit though. At the moment I'm doing well. I've done some things to make resetting much harder, decent blocks and all that. Also I've disabled Wi-Fi on an old laptop (opened the laptop...
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    Unbusting my balls

    Shame, blame.. fear is another one. Maybe these things had a place once, in microdoses. It's probably better to think about the situation in a more relaxed, curious way.
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    Free At Last

    Try listening to the Freedom Model podcasts.. and keep listening to them. You don't have to do it every day, but listen fairly often. That seemed to work for me eventually! There may be more efficient ways, but I really feel like something has properly clicked now (it happened seven or so days...
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    The Final Thread continues

    It's amazing. It might not click straight away, at least not fully, but it's definitely worth persisting with it, even if you're just mostly listening to the podcasts like me. I feel like I've finally reached a kind of Zen enlightenment about it all lol (actually I think the Zen guys have...
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    The Final Thread continues

    It's been a while since I've updated this journal! I've certainly had slips since my last update, but maybe I'm onto something now.. I haven't been obsessing over the Freedom Model, but I've listened to the podcasts now and then, things like that. The Freedom Model is obviously appealing since...
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    I've heard that lifting weights can help with testosterone, but do your research to avoid...

    I've heard that lifting weights can help with testosterone, but do your research to avoid injury. The machines in gyms may be safer than using free weights.
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    Porn is not an option

    Arr, me hearties! Feeling a bit like a pirateat the moment. I started a journal on a certain forum which sounds a bit like "low nap", and was quickly banned for being a spammer, allegedly. It was almost certainly because I mentioned the Freedom Model, even though I didn't only talk about it in...
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    Porn is not an option

    I'm talking more about the podcast. I'll approach it from a different angle. The hosts are coming from a Twelve Steps background, as in Alcoholics Anonymous and similar groups, and indeed the Twelve Steps mentality has had a massive influence elsewhere, as we've mentioned. The hosts often push...
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    Porn is not an option

    Good posts, Blondie. A few quick thoughts even though I don't have time right now. I mentioned briefly that I had a reservation or two about what The Freedom Model says about trauma (or what I've gathered from the podcast, mainly, since I haven't fully read the book). My reservation was more...
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    The Final Thread continues

    I posted this on your thread Blondie, but I'm posting it here also for future reference.
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    Porn is not an option

    Nice work Blondie. I've been busy with various things lately, plus I get a bit "bored" sometimes of subjects like "addiction" and mental health (even though those things have / had relevance to my life). I'd rather focus on other stuff if I can! Anyway I found a nice summary of The Freedom Model:
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    Porn is not an option

    A couple of random thoughts to add. Another aspect of recovery is being careful of "rationalisations" such as "I'll just have a quick look", "One last look" and so on and so forth. Going back to my story of quitting sugar, did I suffer from such rationalisations? Not really. The closest might...
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    Porn is not an option

    Then relapses shouldn't be such a big deal in recovery circles? "I relapsed, but what do you expect? I'm weak and powerless and all that." This aspect of recovery groups gets a lot of criticism in The Freedom Model. People relapse and it's like the end of the world, then they go on a binge...
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    Porn is not an option

    Quite a lot to think about. You almost certainly know more about The Freedom Model than I do, since you actually finished the book, although I've probably listened to more of the podcasts. Maybe I'll start here. Several years ago on a similar forum to this one, I wrote a post about how I once...
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    The Final Thread continues

    Okay it's been on my mind to reply but I haven't got round to it. It might take a few posts to get some points across. That book and podcast is "The Freedom Model". One way to understand The Freedom Model is the opposite of the Twelve Steps! By Twelve Steps I mean the method used in Alcoholics...
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    The Final Thread continues

    Yeah, much better. A couple of times recently it's been challenging when I have a lot of time to myself (even though there are always a lot of things I could be doing with that time), but the situation is a hell of a lot better than it used to be. That said, it could be better, and has been...
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    The Final Thread continues

    Another reason that my alcohol use increased in recent years was the following. I get a buzz from things like martial arts, working out, jogging and so on. Unfortunately I seem to be a bit prone to getting injured while doing those things. So when I couldn't get a buzz from exercise or P, there...
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