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Looking at some journals. Women and men. My husband and I recently talked about the fact that he was exposed to porn and ejaculation by a neighbor that had magazines. I learned about such things at 9 from a man down the street with 5 kids. We lived near The ocean. He started discussing a...

700 days! Great going.. I read back through the years on here and read some of our interactions. I always learn some thing from them. Congrats to you.

Too bad we do not have an “I understand “ emoji.

Sorry to read about the loss of four pawed family member. It is always so hard. Had our feline family member put to sleep earlier this summer. A rescue lived 16 years with feline virus. He was our Mr. Personality our door greeter. Always hard. I still cry. They are our furry angels.

Congrats on 600! To answer did I consider it cheating. I would have to say yes. Why? He made a decision about our sex life and I did not have a vote. Second he hid it for so long. It was years. Worse than an affair? What I told him was I did not know if one or the other was worse. But...

Blonde, I really appreciate you taking the time to take the “porn cube”. ( I need visuals) and turning it slightly and giving a whole new way to look at it. I do want explain my counting is earlier post. I was so gutted that I would count hours that I would not cry. Then a day and another...

I have really enjoyed reading through this. It is a lot! To me, and I am not a recoverer, the difficulty with porn is when it impacts your life and relationships. So in the being simplistic, why does the viewer of porn use it consistently, and if it is disruptive look at the why, and use a...

You sir win the award for patience hands down.

I think one of the hardest parts of exploring underlying issues is that we have to shed our comfy old bedroom slippers that are worn and stretched in the right places and put on new ones that are a little to tight and are not broke in. We tend to get comfortable and try to stay in the comfort...

Wow! You have a lot going on! Sorry about loss of parents. I think unless someone as a counselor has a lot of experience in counseling the partners of the porn addict, they can’t possibly understand what we have dealt with and how the betrayal of our trust has upended our lives. They do not...

If you read through stories here, the majority have had imperfect and sometimes cruel childhoods. When we are children, we do not have ways or words to deal with what we went through whether it is physical, emotional or sexual. So we self soothe when we are young. As we get older it self...

Hoopvol, So good to hear from you. I think many men do not realize that our gut and 6th sense are buzzing long before D day. I know for me I can remember working in the garden and thinking when we get older is this it? We are some sort of roommates going about our own business? We see little...

GBS, congratulations on your continued success! Hopefully your wife will one day recognize your change, commitment, and achievement . I just wanted to say this above, sums up most men in their path. Most do not recognize the ignoring of their wife. Both in having conversations and intimacy...

There are no grandchildren thank goodness. It just pisses me off that men can just decide that hey this is better than you. I know, I know, they just are doing something that has nothing to do for their love of us. Yeah, yeah I get it but I don’t. Choosing porn and hiding it and making a...

Well it is absolutely official, my grand girl is divorcing her husband. So porn wins once again. Why, is it necessary to watch? Why is it acceptable to creep around watching, all the while telling a wife you are the only one!? I will never be able to figure it out. Haha if I could I would...

So grand girl is still in the cycle of what to do about the situation. Unfortunately, it appears to be divorce. So another marriage bites the dust due to porn use by a husband. I am devastated that this is happening . I don’t understand how the pixel parade can be preferred over a human...

Well was able to talk to grand girl. She is feeling the pain of, was it my body, was it me, what did I do, now I cannot trust him. So sad to me. I would do anything to spare her the pain and confusion that comes with this. She is ashamed and is right now using withdrawal to deal with it. So...

As I sit and write this, I am so pissed. The porn addiction crap has now reared its ugly head in my grad girl’s life. Her husband shared, finally, with her he is a porn addict. She like her grandma, me, by the way, was thinking of suicide. WTF? Why, why, why porn? What is so much better than...

I just want to say remember as you wait for the wife to heal, or deal with what has happened, you must remember you need to forgive yourself as you take your steps forward. If you don’t, I think the shame can be overwhelming. My husband had to work on this. So if there is something that...

Congratulations 🥳🎉😎 on the three years! You are an inspiration to many, which is a good thing. You have shown that you can indeed change priorities in life. I have appreciated your patience with your wife. I know that is difficult. Some women just have a tough time working through the swamp...