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  1. jberg

    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    3rd Reboot, Day 77 My doctor prescribed some exercise videos to rehabilitate my back muscles. After one glimpse of the woman in the video, I know that I will not be able to watch these without putting my sobriety at risk. Even as I write this, the image seared in my memory with that brief...
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    Cam Girl Addiction: From Financially Savvy to Buried in Debt

    FittyBands, This is great news! Keep it up. Now that you have stopped P, PMO, and other destructive habits, now is the time to replace them with constructive habits. For me, P and PMO was a way to medicate feelings of fear, anger, loneliness, and other resentments. For me, stopping was easy...
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    I know what I really want: intimacy & connection, not just an O

    GoblinJon, I have heard lust described as an attitude demanding that a natural instinct be used in an unnatural way. When I feel hungry, eating is the natural cure for hunger. However, if I binge on junk food when I feel loneliness or fear, the feeling of loneliness goes away but the cause is...
  4. jberg

    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    Prakash, in 2019, 2020, and 2021, because of my weakness of character, I gave in to a cycle of fear, anger, isolation, resentment and binging on PMO every couple of months or so, none of which brought me much joy or contentment. As a result, I damaged my relationships with my wife, children...
  5. jberg

    Porn is not an option

    The forum https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/ looks a lot like this one. How are they different?
  6. jberg

    Porn is not an option

    I loved the article! Thanks for linking to it here.
  7. jberg

    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    Thanks, Jerry. I appreciate the encouragement!
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    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    Drop my car off at the shop so I'm on the bus heading to work. A woman stepping on the bus started to trigger the usual reaction, so I quickly looked away and logged on to this forum on my phone.
  9. jberg

    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    3rd Reboot, Day 69 Just a quick check in to say that a brief thought flashed in my mind that it wouldn't hurt too much if I was to take a small hit of my drug from some non-P images. So I immediately logged on to this forum, read a few posts, and posted one reply. Connecting with my brothers...
  10. jberg

    Zander Reboot - Light at the end of the tunnel

    I think it's okay to say whatever is on your mind right now, and no need to wait to say something "positive." I am grateful for all that you have contributed to this forum! What I consider a success story is that a bunch of guys are finally being honest with themselves and with others, and are...
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    What you give is what you get (I went 580 days. Relapsed. Finally back on track.

    Emptyroom, I loved the chart with the 3 goals. I need something like that. Regarding the pain I feel after PMO (emptiness, shame, remorse), I was told (and used to think) it was my best friend that could help me avoid PMO in the future. But I have come to believe it is a false friend, because...
  12. jberg

    Keep trying till I taste freedom

    Congratulations, Yogi! You have taken all the right steps, and are connecting to your beautiful wife--I'm so happy for you. Do you call her every day? Call her every day and talk to the woman. Tell her about the things that you have done that day (even if they seem extremely mundane) and...
  13. jberg

    A new start

    Hannibal, I know what you're talking about! It seems to come out of nowhere. I sometimes wonder if men have hormonal cycles, too. But no matter the cause, by now I KNOW it's coming sooner or later, so I have to make sure my mind is right so that when it does come, I don't go spinning off the...
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    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    3rd Reboot, Day 61 Yesterday's reconnection provided some protection for me this morning. Here's what happened: My wife is super stressed by the morning routine of getting the kids ready for school (wake them up, make breakfast, prepare their lunches, get them dressed, etc...) I'm not there to...
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    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    3rd Reboot, Day 60 I have been relatively free of the obsession to PMO for this past week, skating along on momentum of the intense work I had been doing previously. And then some images on TV yesterday reminded me that I need to stay grounded in this program, that I am never standing still. I...
  16. jberg

    I know what I really want: intimacy & connection, not just an O

    I know what you're talking about! I was shocked when my wife told me that she is disgusted at the thought of a stranger thinking about her in that way. Unlike me, she has always had a very healthy attitude toward sexuality. As you said, one way to short-circuit my tendency to objectify is to...
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    What you give is what you get (I went 580 days. Relapsed. Finally back on track.

    Emptyroom, great to see that you are not giving up! To this day I don't know what made me return to this habit, over and over, while swearing I'd never do it again. I do know that willpower on its own doesn't have the horsepower to tackle this thing.
  18. jberg

    Journey to a better me

    Brilliant move! People say time is money, but time is really our very life. I just posted a related thought in my Journal about the gift precious time I give myself by avoiding these traps.
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    We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace

    3rd Reboot, Day 47 A one (maybe 1.5) second look at a clickbait image hit my brain and almost started the chain reaction of well-worn neural pathways. I quickly came here to write about it and I immediately felt the stress level drop and return to normal. I am forging new neural...
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    I know what I really want: intimacy & connection, not just an O

    Not having a good living situation sounds rough! I hope the move will help. In the meantime, is there anyone you trust (friend, relative, neighbor) that you can talk to about this? No need to reveal your issues regarding PMO, but just to talk about what to do instead of shutting yourself in...
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