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  1. TryingHarder

    ..and now I'm not sure what to do with my hands

    Welcome to the forum. What should you do with your hands now? Build birdhouses. Build a model airplane. Toss a ball around with your kids. Do some push ups. Arrange your fridge in alphabetical order. In other words, anything but porn!
  2. TryingHarder


    Welcome G-Herp. It's very important that you stop the addiction now when you're young. Otherwise, it's going to be a negative thing in your life for many years. Good luck with your reboot!
  3. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    It was a bit like something out of a science fiction movie, where the hero gets his mind probed by evil aliens. I won't share what I my image search was, but in that 2 seconds with the safe search off, I glimpsed 2 or 3 of my favourite porn girls. Talk about triggering... o_O This is exactly...
  4. TryingHarder

    Let's do this

    When and if you relapse, try to learn something from it. Why did it happen? How were you feeling? What were you doing? That way, you can take steps to avoid the same circumstances next time.
  5. TryingHarder

    Chasing My Dreams

    Good work, DreamChaser. Whenever you relapse, take some time to reflect: why did it happen? How were you feeling? What were you thinking? What were you doing? That way, you can take steps to do something different next time and avoid porn.
  6. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    Wow, I almost relapsed last night. :mad: Some unexpected anxiety and stress was getting to me, and the fog of depression closed in. I think I'll do a Google image search of something sexy. Hey, that feels good. Oh, let's turn off "safe search" on Google. And there it was: suddenly, I had a page...
  7. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    More reflections on what I'm going through at the moment and what has been my situation for many years under the shadow of a porn addiction... I have unfortunately been single and mostly celibate for most of my adult life. Poor mental health led me to a porn addiction - what I really needed was...
  8. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    Let me clarify: while sexual urges are (or should be) natural, what I'm experiencing is stress and anxiety that manifests itself in sexual ideas. Friendly chat with a sexy waitress + sexual thoughts + masturbation (or, better yet, actual sex) = good Feelings of loneliness, bad day at work +...
  9. TryingHarder

    The dark lake

    And that's the sinister allure of porn. I certainly have reflected about the "wonderland" of porn and how the addiction promised me that PMO would solve my problems and was the only thing that would make me feel better when life was tough. Ultimately, I realized I'm just a troubled, middle-aged...
  10. TryingHarder

    Holding the Fool (me) to Account

    Well done, Simon! Keep up the good work.
  11. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    Day 105 (no PMO), day 2 (no MO). Still feel like I'm on thin ice, since yesterday I once again found myself doing some image searches that I should really stay away from. Interesting, @Blondie, since, as mentioned, I felt my resolve was stronger at the 30 - 45 day point in the reboot...
  12. TryingHarder

    Another story - probably the same as everyone else

    153 days is a great achievement, GBS!
  13. TryingHarder

    New and hopefull

    Welcome, Lucy 18. If you don't consider yourself addicted to porn, that's great - be sure to keep it that way! :) You have little to lose and a lot to gain by cutting porn out of your life completely.
  14. TryingHarder

    The dark lake

    Welcome, Lady Voldemort. This forum is a valuable resource while you're trying to stop a porn addiction. I'm 100+ days into a reboot and doing well, although I'm certainly not out of the woods yet.
  15. TryingHarder

    I finally decided I am going to take help from here. Please help me.

    Welcome to the forum. It's full of people just like you - people who want to stop looking at porn. And you have to realize - it's not just a "bad habit", it's an addiction. You will need to learn more about addiction and treat it seriously. You need to start with a reboot - 90 days without...
  16. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    Had some time to reflect on the incident - in a reasonable way, not in a negative, obsessive way. The porn addiction saw me having intense sexual fantasies as a result of poor mental health. It always led to PMO. Now that I'm 100+ days clean, those fantasies and urges are fading, but often make...
  17. TryingHarder

    Crawling from the wreckage

    Day 103 (no PMO), day 0 (no MO). :mad: Damn it, I gave in. Angry with myself because it was a digital trigger - a photo that I stumbled across online that turned me on yesterday. So certainly not a PMO or porn substitute relapse, but I feel like I'm on thin ice all of a sudden. Time to reset...
  18. TryingHarder

    Taking the High Road

    Welcome to the forum Sho0fl. Sounds like you're doing well in life otherwise, you just need to get rid of the porn addiction. That means you have a real advantage over some of us, whose poor mental health led us to a porn addiction (that was my experience). Read all of the threads in this forum...
  19. TryingHarder

    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    Recovering from a porn addiction is going to look a little different for everyone, and it will certainly look different from the partner's point of view. The bottom line is: the man with the addiction has to decide that he's done with porn and find the strength to free himself from the addiction.
  20. TryingHarder

    You guys want to see the real struggle I’m dealing with?

    It's actually an easy choice, Gcity11: choose your life. Porn will only waste your time, and make you weak and stupid. Delete the bookmarks. Uninstall the browser and choose a new one. Fuck porn. Get it out of your life.