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    Good Morning, I am happy to say that as I type this my husband is in his first online SA group...

    Good Morning, I am happy to say that as I type this my husband is in his first online SA group. We have already prayed together this morning and will be blessing the house when he's done. I know that we still have a lot of work ahead of us, but to know that he is finally choosing US is a great...
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    Holding the Fool (me) to Account

    I stumbled upon this trying to find something else. I am a wife of an addict and I would want to know. I would appreciate that my husband was honest with me and that he's working on it on his own without me having pushed him to do it. But I also have to appreciate that SimonM doesn't want to...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    Sorry, new here. How do I find the threads you mentioned???
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    I know exactly what you mean. I don't think that I could survive another blow.
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    My husband says that he isn't struggling that much. He is confused about it so he asked his counselor about it. He said it's because he doesn't have anymore secrets and doesn't need to medicate himself anymore. He is also starting, with the counselor, to figure out why it started in the first...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    Hi Blondie, My husband and I are different than you and your girlfriend. I see ours as, "It's a marriage and he made certain vows (promises) to me." I expected him to keep them, I did. That was not unrealistic. I have always viewed porn in any form as a form of adultery. He knew that long...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    We are also 5 months into our recovery and we are handling it much like you and your wife. My husband, now that he has a better understanding of what has been happening to him slowly over the last 45 years, is waking up to what he needs to do for himself, me and our 25 year marriage. It is such...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    We have had many discussions about what we each want and need. He is understanding now that he has to put in more effort if he truly wants to get better for himself and keep me at the same time. He has stepped up a lot in giving me what I need from him and I have stepped back from telling him...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    Thank you. I have since told him that he needs to put as much time and effort into fixing his addiction and keeping me as he did into his porn. Back when all I knew about was an occasional magazine, movies with sex scenes and his looking at every women while with me, I would ask him why he had...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    It sounds to me like you have a beautiful body and maybe you should start really looking at yourself. I have started to find positives to concentrate on and ignore what I may see as a flaw. Like that I'm 51, that's something that I have started to embrace. I am a woman, not a child. I have lived...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    I have been able to maintain the feelings of self worth and dedication to myself so far. I was praying they wouldn't wane like a lot of things in my life. I intentionally look at myself in the mirror now, especially naked. I used to avoid it at all cost. I am starting to truly see myself. I may...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    I don't know how to do what you said. I can't seem to understand how to navigate this site.
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    No, I haven't heard of that. We have started to just be intimate with talking and touching. He has no desire to be entered into physically and there's no way I would do that. That isn't something that would have any place in our relationship. My husband is not gay in any sense of the word. How...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    I just ordered that book. It must be good, I`ve seen it recommended many times. I talked to my husband about it when he called this morning on his break. He said it sounds like a great idea. Thank you for suggesting it. If I may ask, how are you and your husband doing and how long have you...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    He saw his first magazine at around 10 years old. That's when his problem began. He is finally physically responding to me. NO, he hasn't tried to be with another person to see if his penis would work! That's absolutely ridiculous. How could that possibly save our marriage?
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    We had a terrible couple of days, his disclosure turned out to not be full disclosure! Luckily, it still did not involve a real person, I don't know that we could survive that. Long story short, I told him I'm taking my life back, he stole enough, I`m the boss and if he doesn't like it, he is...
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    Why does his problem leave me feeling so worthless?

    Well, I got the names of his "favorites" on his porn sites. I called someone over and I looked them up. I wasn't sure how I was going to feel about it so I had her look first. She has known me for 13 years, so she is a decent judge for me. I looked at bios, not their pig pages. The bios did have...
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