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  1. KetchupDrool

    Journey to Quit Porn

    It's rough at the start, but have faith. Take it one day at a time, don't look at the future, look at today and find success.
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    You Protect What You Love

    Just noticed we should move this to the "Journal" section. Can a moderator move this please to the 40+?
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    I am confused

    @BetterFuture P is a drug, 4x's more addictive than heroin. I know from the past while I used P, it would escalate to new types of genres, including homosexual P. Yes I'm straight, married, four children, but I needed something else, more taboo in my mind to excite me. After that wasn't enough...
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    Long Robooters Married Or In Relationships What Advice Can You Give

    It's pretty crazy to think about, I'm 43 and the amount of "junk" that I've accumulated is insane, as I'm sure you're well aware of. I don't remember where I read it, some book I own about P. The statistic says that it can take anywhere from 2 to 5 years for your brain's neuro pathways to...
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    You Protect What You Love

    The Importance of Social Connection About a year ago, while sitting in a substance abuse class that I attend regularly, we watched a video called “The Rat Park Addiction Experiment” by Bruce K. Alexander. If you’ve never seen it, I highly recommend that you watch it. It may just change your mind...
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    The Shame

    I, too, felt that after I had told her of all the affairs, P, drug, and alcohol use. I hated seeing her so distant and feeling worthless because of my actions. I had the feeling of regret for telling her. Furthermore, I knew that all the damage I had done to her self-respect, self-image were...
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    Long Robooters Married Or In Relationships What Advice Can You Give

    Wow, did I ever struggle with shame and guilt. I always thought I was a bad person (shame) for things I had done in the military and to my family. It took some time and counseling for me to change the shame to guilt (I did something bad). Once my perspective changed to guilt, it was easier to...
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    Long Robooters Married Or In Relationships What Advice Can You Give

    Yeah, CL was pretty crazy. I, too, went outside my natural tendencies because the adrenaline was what I craved.
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    You Protect What You Love

    Yes it is DaybyDay, one of the best investments I have ever made.
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    You Protect What You Love

    The wife and I went to a counseling center in Colorado called Heart to Heart. It's a three day or five day intensive where you go to SA meetings and counseling twelve hours a day. It utterly saved our marriage. Her trust is slowly building, it's been a little over a year and a half of sobriety...
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    You Protect What You Love

    Timeline of my Addictions Here I was, a new husband and father of two beautiful children, soon to be three, and I didn’t have a clue what I was doing, but I was ready to take it all head-on. I stayed home as my beautiful wife worked and attended graduate school. I had all day to ponder how I...
  12. KetchupDrool

    Seeing Spouse Differently…

    Good morning ImBroken. I used to run a website called LustCause.org. I used it as a blog about my experience with addiction, especially SA. I had my wife write me a letter about how she felt, and it opened my eyes. Maybe you could do the same for your partner? I've changed the names ;)
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    The Shame

    I'm a little late to the conversation however, I am an addict of all sorts. Sex, P, drugs, alcohol, tobacco, etc. Like you originally posted, all other forms of addiction except for P are socially acceptable. I can't tell you why we chose P over our partners, there are a multitude of reasons...
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    Long Robooters Married Or In Relationships What Advice Can You Give

    DaybyDay, yes, it increased with more extreme forms of pornography. I'm not sure how descriptive we can be here. I never did the child thing. However, it got pretty crazy, regular P just wouldn't do it for me anymore. I used to solicit myself on Craigslist just to get my fix. It's like a drug...
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    Long Robooters Married Or In Relationships What Advice Can You Give

    From experience, I've been married for fourteen years, and in those fourteen years I've had pied multiple times. We even got prescribed Viagra to help, and only one position would make me reach orgasm. My wife thought my pied was because of a brain injury I suffered from active duty. I knew it...
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    You Protect What You Love

    You Protect What You Love That was the line I heard from Dr. Doug Weiss. A licensed psychologist and the Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center. I had to protect my family, which I hadn't been doing for 13 years. I let porn and a sex addiction almost destroy my marriage. So...
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