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  1. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Thanks. I appreciate your thoughts and comments.
  2. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Still plugging away. I am off for the summer and my wife is working so I have lots of time by myself. Can be a challenge but I am working on it. Hope all are doing well and steering clear of temptation. Peace
  3. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Sometimes I wonder why this is so difficult... I know the reasons. Its an addiction. The pathways in our minds have been formed over time through visual stimulus has been reinforced by the intense pleasure of orgasm. That habits are hard to break. That it's tied to past trauma All I know is...
  4. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Crazy as it sounds, I have been viewing porn (just a peek that lasts for longer) without masturbating. Pointless, stupid, dangerous, I know. Playing with fire. Makes me feel ashamed. That is why I am here. Writing this instead of doing right now what I did yesterday and the day before. Reminds...
  5. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Morning folks, Struggling today for purpose and understanding of the challenges I face. These in itself takes me closer to the "edge." I know I must continue to reinvent myself but sometimes it's difficult. Peace
  6. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Good morning, I was thinking back on my progress. Am I as successful as I think? Am I moving forward and away from those compulsive thoughts? How about the actions related to those thoughts? Well, the thoughts are still there; but... I keep a journal of my activities. Nothing much, just an...
  7. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Thank you Guitar. Sometimes I write and I are never sure if anyone reads any of it. I just hope folks realize that this process is possible. Gracie, always good to hear from you and the perspective you represent. Your support with this site is amazing.
  8. bob

    Question for partners of rebooters

    Express to her your desire to cherish and love her but you are scared of your previous challenges. Open up to her as much as is prudent and be there for her as much as you can. Gracie has some great thoughts. Maybe take sex off the table; at least for you. Show her love and respect but stress...
  9. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Thank you Danger. It seems it is a continual process. But, I know this process works! If you want to change your lifes habits it is possible. RebootNation played a big role in allowing me to grow. I have been here since early 2015, and I have come a long way. I have gone without porn and...
  10. bob

    3 weeks in after discovering my ED was from porn

    Please hang in there. It does get better. Keep loving her and putting her first. Peace
  11. bob

    I don't want to be Done....

    Patience, I am so sorry that you have to endure this. No one should have to deal with a partner that isn't appreciative of their spouse or significant other. That's what love is supposed to be about. Sometimes we are off track, get sideways, and find ourselves lost but its important to realize...
  12. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Doing a lot better with my time but I continue to obsess about this process. It's always on my mind.
  13. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Update to say that at the end of the April, I slipped and found myself on-line in places that were not productive. I mention this not to lament, or profess my anger at my inability to automatically stay away pmo or mo. I want others to know that if this happens, you are not starting over. You...
  14. bob

    Ogling, an ingrained male trait?

    The word in question is Ogle Ogle, verb: To stare at in a lecherous manner. As in, "he was ogling her breasts" Synonyms: To leer at, To stare at, To make eyes at, To check out, This has been on my mind a lot lately. I hope writing will help clarify this typically male characteristic...
  15. bob

    Accountability partners

    Greetings, I am curious if anyone has any comments regarding anonymity with AP. I have a potential AP that is really worried about anonymity. He has a lot of trust issues and really doesn't what to reveal much about his personal life. I too am concerned about revealing too much information...
  16. bob

    Yes I Can!

    1qq1, No truer words were spoken. As I said, I thought MO was fine. But since eliminating PMO it became the new P. Sounds kind of strange but MO needs to go. I remember when I was really young. I had a "trigger alert" a fantasy regarding MO. I would be on a raised bed grinding against a pillow...
  17. bob

    Yes I Can!

    Its been a while since I have been posting regularly. I really miss it and feel that I do better when I feel connected to others that are walking the same journey. I feel I have hit a plateau; where I feel like I am doing ok but that I still have the urges and desires to just give it a peek. I...
  18. bob

    Yes I Can!

    This is it. While not entirely new to this I am now back! 60+ years old and I have not gone without pmo or mo for more than 24 hours, over the past 45 years. It wasn't everyday. When I started (at 8 years old?) but I made up for it later. I started with magazines and progressed through all...
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