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Hi, Ezel! One thing you can do to build up your will power, or confidence in your will power is to make small promises or goals for yourself, and they don't have to be anything related to 'the struggle'. It can be, 'clean my office', or whatever, and that can help when bigger decisions need to...

Hi Orbiter, sorry to hear about the shingles. I know from experience how much that sux, and how long it takes to heal... (and how painful it is). Of course your brain did what it thought was best for you in that challenging time, offering you relief through acting out. That's what brains do, it...

It's actually a combination of the two, a 'silver bullet' and a daily [non-] focus. The 'silver bullet' will be different for everyone, but it's that 'aha moment', that revelatory... or moment of realization. It may take a few silver bullets or moments of realization (about ourselves, about our...

Others may disagree with me here, but I think it will resonate nonetheless: It's a big ask of any (or most) females, no matter how you slice it. Most women don't understand our struggles as men- though they certainly have their own, and increasing numbers of women have their own battles with...

I have faith that you will, bro. Your story is not over, it’s only in the early chapters.

P.S. Congrats on the 45 days free of drinking recently!

@Escapeandnevercomeback Bottom line, this is 'Your' journal, and you use it however you want to aid in your recovery. None of our journeys have been a straight line, or a 'black-or-white' proposition of pass or fail. And, who's to say what actual 'recovery' looks like? Of course the question...

Hi, Orbiter. Wish to add to your latest comments. You nailed it on the head by mentioning 'cues', emotional or otherwise. This is going to sound simplistic, but the end of our addiction/habit comes when we stop responding to the urges. First there's a cue (or 'trigger'), and it doesn't...

I like this. "The Emporer has no clothes", stripping this thing of 'objective' power that it doesn't have, so important. But why do we still 'need' it? These are perspectives and questions worth exploring.

Happy birthday, Orbiter! I'm always rooting for you and hoping the best for you. I know I'm not around as often as before, but you're always topmost in my mind. Good job on disrupting old patterns, even if they went in ways you may not prefer. I know for me, I'll take a win where I can get...

Jonazo, very proud of your 9 days! You now have a challenge to beat, 9 days clean! And I also really appreciate the self-awareness expressed in your latest post. Be patient with yourself. Nothing can take from you your recent streak, just expand on it. Be that trnasformed person.

Very proud of you, Escape, for taking that step! Stick to it, and eventually you'll see the benefits. It sounds like she knows what she's doing.

You got this, brother! Keep in mind, none of your progress is lost and to lapse is part of the journey. This is most of our experience. How fast you bounce back will be determined by how much meaning you put into the lapse. And, in the bigger picture, this lapse is meaningless. What is...

And it’s also true, to your point, that it may take several different approaches at different times, and often at the same time, to combat this insidious addiction. You may be right, and it seems to be the one thing that Escape has NOT tried yet, is some kind of support group or a ‘sponsor’, at...

And you're giving the best X-mas gift to yourself, Blondie! Good job and inspirational!

Escape said it well, it will return one to their current baseline. You may disagree if you like, but my take is for someone to start where they're currently at. Fighting the urges in a tug-o-war definitely doesn't help as most of us know by experience. You know what I disagree with...

Yes, you can make it to 1 week and more, even 50 something days! Remember? But 'resisting' is the wrong answer anyway. If it's happening, a binge, just let it be. Eventually you'll be done, and you'll come back down to a place of 'baseline', equanimity, or normalcy. You're brain right now is...

It's funny (not really) how porn robs us of dopamine which gives us excitement and anticipation, and then presents itself as the answer! Stick in there, Guitar, you're doing it!

There is no one-size-fits-all time period. It will vary for each of us. But even given lengthy periods of time, there is hope for change. I know this to be true. Habit change outwardly and mindset changes inwardly will win out the day. I like the optimism you expressed April 12, that’s key to...

Exactly, brother! It's really good news, it's exciting, and scary at the same time, lol...! There were days where, if one went by stats, I shoud've been down in the dumps, plotting and scheming on how to 'break out of prison', but instead, there was no problem! And isn't it true that in the...