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    Just Another Journal

    Phineas—thank you! I appreciate the insight, and encouragement. Can’t do this alone. much love and respect, john
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    Angry at wife after 2 weeks of reboot

    Hi Stizzì, Welcome to RN. There are lots of great people and resources here. i'm pretty new here also, but a few things that have helped me are Gabe Deems and Gary Wilson videos, as well as postings by William https://forum.rebootnation.org/index.php?threads/1256/ regarding the anger, for me...
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    Carl Smith - Living Free

    Carl--your heart was in the right place, that's all that matters, you only meant good, so don't even let any thoughts of shame, etc even try to sap your energy. i guess there are rules here to keep others from taking advantage. So glad to hear about your 4th month--hopefully that is what...
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    Just Another Journal

    Hi all, some wicked cravings today, and i know why. I had something to do yesterday which actually went very well, but my inner critic only sees the shortcomings. Whenever i have a big presentation, or something where i do public speaking, and it goes well (i.e., I get good feedback), for some...
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    This has to stop. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength

    Jerry we‘re right there with you in this fight, remember you are not who you were. You are being made into a new man! Phil 1:6 much love and respect to you, john
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    Just Another Journal

    Thanks so much Jerry. one thing I love about Reboot Nation is that we are actually using the internet as a force for good, to connect with one another—instead of for ill, enslavement to P. i know that God is at work here. And He is in your own life also. much love and respect, john
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    Carl Smith - Living Free

    Carl—great post. I think for me, it is helping to just look at today. Today I am not going to do porn. I don’t have grace yet for tomorrow, so looking at future what if’s with apprehension (my default posture!) just wouldn’t help me. When tomorrow comes, I know I will have the grace I need. And...
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    What you give is what you get (I went 580 days. Relapsed. Finally back on track.

    Josef—wow, really honest post. That is awesome. any Day you don’t look at porn is a victory. john
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    How Shall We Escape?

    Phineas— I really like the IMPACT filter for your social media choices. I think we all need a structure for how we’re going to engage this, if at all. i think this or something like it can keep us from blundering into an unhealthy place. regarding your earlier post on counting days, i think you...
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    Just Another Journal

    Carl, I’d be honored to do that. And I absolutely agree about the guilt, I think guilt is kind of like an alarm clock, it’s good to wake you up out of a sound sleep, but once you’re up it’s not very helpful. looking forward to reading the guide. God bless you my brother. john
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    Just Another Journal

    Carl— thanks so much for reading my post. Regarding the withdrawal and craving duration, I am curious about that also. My age (54) may actually be working in my favor, which is ironic—I’ve been using porn for decades, but since I didn’t grow up on high speed internet porn (HSIP) my brain may be...
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    Just Another Journal

    Day 48. Actually a very Heavy week work-wise, the old me would have been sorely tempted to relieve some stress and feelings of inadequacy by turning to my old poison. I did have some thoughts a few times, but was able to quash them by reminding myself of how crappy I would feel afterwards if I...
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    Rebooting my life and saving my marriage

    Mildsnacks—good for you for resisting the “just Look” lie. thats the equivalent of “just drink a little poison”. Glad you saw thru that. try to remind yourself that the urges are a sign that your brain is desperately wanting a dopamine hit, and is actually a great sign that healing has begun...
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    Curing PIED and PE to have a normal sex life with my wife

    Big Dog—more power to you, you are leaving this poison behind. Every day you don’t go back is a victory, and makes you stronger. Btw, same thing happens to me in the gym, i spend a lot of time looking at the floor! I also try to remind myself to look at eyes and faces and not asses, etc. i...
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    What you give is what you get (I went 580 days. Relapsed. Finally back on track.

    Josef— I know in my own life, dealing with negative feelings like anger, boredom, fear, etc without turning to PMO for comfort is a great sign of healing. I also love what you said earlier about being destined to succeed, not fail. That is a great mindset to have, since porn no longer defines...
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    Just Another Journal

    Quote of the day: We all have to choose between two pains, the pain of self control or the pain of regret.
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    Ive— that is fantastic. Keep going brother! every day free is a day of healing for your brain...

    Ive— that is fantastic. Keep going brother! every day free is a day of healing for your brain and psyche.
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    Rebooting my life and saving my marriage

    Mildsnacks—it sounds to me that you are doing great. every time you say No to an urge, you take a step towards healing your brain. It’s worth the discomfort. regarding your wife, what is her ‘love language’, I.e., what really speaks to her heart? Is it gifts, words, taking care of her car...
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    Just Another Journal

    Phineas—thank you for taking precious time to read this, and for your solid wisdom. I too have done the same in the past, and I’ve regretted it. As my wife said once, she didn’t want to be my policeman. I think that’s fair. But it also means I really need brothers beside me to help support and...
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    Just Another Journal

    Day 40. Tired today. Not feeling great these past weeks and wondering how much of that is because of kicking this habit. Gonna try to get a walk in later, eventually get up to 2 or 3 fast 20 min walks a day. I really don’t miss the feelings of guilt and shame, and having to live with the...
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