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Hey man, it's been a bit. I hope you're doing alright. My advice as someone on the same journey who has also not yet accomplished his goals is this; 1. Don't look at your life as on hold before you quit porn. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Live your life, do everything you can to be...

I am no longer a student! Huzzah. I now have a Master's Degree which is pretty cool. I'm also on day 8 which is pretty cool. I'm doing really well right now. A lot of my stress came from being a student and the lifestyle that accompanies it, as well as being in quarantine. Breaking out...

Hey Nimbus, I know what you mean about the addictions supporting one another. I did something similar with weed and porn. If you're looking for a 12 step for porn and sex addiction, there is SAA, sex addicts anonymous, and I think there is another called sex and love addicts anonymous. It...

Today is day 2; yesterday really sucked, but I decided it would be better to call that half-relapse a relapse and just reset. It'll feel better to look at my number of days and feel like they're all genuinely clean, and I know another 17 days will pass in no time. I was pretty down all day...

Hi Andy, Everyone's road is their own, but I recommend also aiming to quit the recorded porn in addition to cams. I understand that cams are your central problem, but I also know from my own experience that if you dip into porn, it'll escalate back to where you were before. It's all together...

Today is day 17. I am looking down the barrel of a very busy and stressful week. I am alone in the house today and tomorrow, and things have been good leading up to now. This morning I started to relapse. I'm gonna call it a half relapse, because I used my girlfriend's laptop but I just...

Hey BDBD, I agree, abstinence alone is not the answer. I think the reason people are so transformed after a reboot is because they have changed significantly. This is because simply being away from porn is not enough, and simple abstinence won't work without other lifestyle changes and...

Hey Nimbus, welcome back! This is a good place to be. Moving forward is always better than staying still. As for telling your wife, nobody knows but you. I will say this is something which thrives in secrecy, and being honest and open and getting support from someone who loves and cares...

Try your reboot, it will only help you. I think it is important to think of the fetish as a totally normal and healthy thing, but that has been exacerbated and strengthened through porn. In all likelihood through rebooting you will still have your fetish, since it existed before porn, but it...

Today is day 11! Obviously I have not been keeping super up to date with things on the forum, but things are good. I have very little access, but even more than that, I am feeling good in life right now. My master's program is ending in a couple of weeks, and I am going to work a random job...

Hey Chris, keep pushing. I have incredible respect for you that despite the relapses, you never give up or quit. That attitude guarantees that you will find success. That being said, all I can suggest is keep trying to block access so it is not easily accessible, and put effort into...

Today is day 3! Going well, feeling good. I am looking forward to no longer being a student, getting out of the house more, living an actual life. That will all help in this journey, but until then and thereafter I have to help myself. I'm feeling pretty good. I'm still busy with classes...

Hey Chris, I know exactly what you mean. I have been there before, more times than I can count. Something that shouldn't be arousing is, and it's a terrible feeling, especially when you cannot simply turn it off. I can only imagine that goes along with the reboot though, that there is freedom...

I've been away from the forum for quite a while now, about four or five months I think. It haas had its ups and downs, but obviously I am still not clear yet considering I am returning. I had been clean for about a month, which was the longest I had gone. There were some stretches when I...

So I am 23 years old, I have been consuming porn regularly since I was 11.  I have known I've had a problem with porn at least somewhat over the past four years, but this past year has been exceptionally difficult, through a number of shameful and problematic behaviors that I cannot repeat. ...