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I think if internet communities like that existed when I was a teenager/early 20s, I would have probably ended up being an 'incel' too - I was very angry and upset that I was always single, all my friends had girlfriends and I didn't, poor me, it's not fair, etc. etc...but since I didn't have...

Except for creatine, all of those supplements are worthless - if your diet is good, you are just wasting your money. So if you want my advice I would leave those out...but congrats on the 5 months clean! That's super awesome. I am the same age as you and know how hard this can be.

Are you currently working on giving up porn? Because anhedonia is a common withdrawal symptom. It's also a symptom of porn use, too - withdrawal tends to make addiction symptoms worse before they get better (don't ask me why I have no idea). If you are currently rebooting, it's different for...

Welcome Josh. It looks like you're taking all the right steps. Stick with it, and 6-12 months from now you won't even recognise yourself (in a good way!)

Gary's work completely turned my life around, literally a night & day difference. No work has been more influential or life-changing to me than YBOP (the book, presentation and website). I was deeply saddened to hear of his passing (and at such a relatively young age, too!)

I feel like that's like an alcoholic switching to light beer. Not a good idea. Plus, just being honest here I think the motive for men to look at pictures of beautiful women is ALWAYS sexual. Just because you're not getting a boner and fapping to it doesn't mean it isn't arousing (if it wasn't...

I think knowledge is essential in that it shows you what kind of actions are actually useful and tells you that they do actually work, which gives you the confidence to press on through a very difficult challenge (which giving up an addiction always is). You're absolutely right though that you...

Hi Timidnight...unfortunately what you're describing is pretty normal for a lot of guys, especially for younger guys growing up with modern high-speed internet. flatlines of a couple of months unfortunately are not uncommon. If I recall, Gabe Deem (guy who runs this place) went through a flat...

I have been addicted to porn since I was 12. I am 36 in a few months. A quick bit of math shows that means my porn addiction is older than you. I'm not saying this to try and minimise what you're going through, but as an encouragement: I would *kill* to have had the information, support groups...

This is like asking 'how long does it take to lose weight?'. It depends on the person. It can take a while, maybe a few months of rebooting. But keep going! You WILL get better over time.

I'm turning 35 in November and my current streak is 16 days and going strong. So, your story is very encouraging to me! I don't have PIED but definitely have killed libido (sex feels more like a chore than something that's enjoyable), so I hope to see a resurgence soon. I have been using porn...

I think lube will be your friend here. Don't skimp, use as much as you have to (on you and in her), I think you'll find it very useful (and try a few different brands, I have found some work better than others).

Unfortunately what you're describing is not uncommon. Withdrawal symptoms (including the flatline) come and go, but it does get better over time. So yes, be encouraged, what you are describing is quite normal and usual, keep on keeping on with your reboot and things WILL keep getting better over...

My wife really loves it when I do anything for her that shows I've put real thought into it and honestly done my best to come up with something that I think she'll really enjoy. Even on the occasions that it doesn't turn out being that great (maybe the restaurant doesn't end up being as good as...

When it comes to rebooting from pornography, the answer generally given to the question of 'but what about [thing I like], is that still ok?' is 'if you have to ask, the answer is no'. It's sort of like an alcoholic trying to switch to just drinking on weekends - not a good idea. You say that...

HOCD can 100% be cured with nofap. Escalating to porn that is outside your normal tastes or preferences (even to content that you once would have found shocking or horrifying) is actually a very common symptom of porn use. You are not alone, and just like thousands (probably hundreds of...

Hello MissGuided and welcome to the forum. You are correct that most people on here (including myself) are guys, but you certainly are not the only woman affected by this, and you are certainly welcome here in any case. You might be interested to know that Gary Wilson (the founder of Your Brain...

I find it's really helpful to have a plan in place, so that you're not struggling of things to do in the moment, but rather you already have an activity or something that you'll go to: leave the house, listen to music, go for a walk, read a book, have a hot shower, do pushups, whatever it takes...

Hi Mark, Don't be too hard on yourself! Falling once after 9 months is like someone trying to lose weight eating clean for 9 months, then giving in one night and eating a pepperoni pizza with a bottle of coke for dinner...they aren't going to be morbidly obese again the next morning! One bad...

I obviously can't prove this is related to rebooting of course, but I've noticed in the past few months my concentration has started improving. I never used to be able to listen to non-fiction audiobook (my mind would wander and I would miss large sections of what I was trying to listen to), now...