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    Nick 2.0

    Day 7 and making today all about the basics - specifically breathing to ground me and bring me back to being fully present. Feeling gratitude.
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    This has to stop. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength

    Hey Jerry ... it's been a while and just wanted to share that I continue to see parallels in our respective journeys - "new day / new battle - but one we can win", "rough weekend but feeling good", and "moving forward not looking back" ... all resonate. Stay strong bro.
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    Nick 2.0

    Just a quick check in to reconnect ... and establish a fresh 40-day goal. I would say that overall these past several months have been an A- in terms of my "escape from porn prison" - better than probably any fall I have had in decades ... but with still some unfinished work to really get me...
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    Nick 2.0

    Back on line ... after 6 weeks of pretty much flat out work. And now I am in the home stretch and coming up for air. As I reflect on the last month and a half, I would definitely say that it has been my best fall (probably) ever. I will confess that I did have a few slips (minor) that brought...
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    Nick 2.0

    A quick check in as it has been a week .. this is my super busy time of the year at work where it's a marathon of working pretty much 7 days a week right into December so my check-ins will be a bit spotty for a while. Overall I would chalk this week up to a very strong week ... a fair bit of...
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    Nick 2.0

    A quick weekend check in ... feeling very grounded and balanced. From September through December is incredibly busy for me at work, so lots of high pressure, temptations and opportunities to slip up. So far I am doing so much better than any year since ... forever. Really dialed into making...
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    Nick 2.0

    Day 4 and feeling solid today. It was nice to re-establish my mindfulness routine yesterday - not much more to add for today, ill stay the course and continue to build my habit of being present.
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    Nick 2.0

    Day 3 of my next 40 day mini challenge and I'm feeling super chill as I get re-grounded at home after being away for 10 days. Buoyed by my recent success in traveling abroad, I am feeling better about myself and also finding that I am starting to look more outwards and less inwards...
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    My journey to be a better man.

    Hey Guitar so glad to hear of your recent success and new found freedom ... to grow into the next, better you! I wish you the best for your relationship with your wife - however things turn out. But I am guessing that you are on the right path - first address yourself, embrace the new you, so...
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    Nick 2.0

    Stepped away for a bit there as I got fully consumed by a 10 day work trip to LA. This is my first real "post COVID" work trip so I was eager / anxious to see how I would cope with the return to my former "on the road" lifestyle. Overall I was quite pleased with how things unfolded...
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    Nick 2.0

    Hey Jerry - great to hear you are brining in some very positive new habits. I agree this is key to replace the old ones (particularly when you begin to realize just how much time you free up when you aren't wasting your life aware in the porn universe). Your new lifestyle is an inspiration -...
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    This has to stop. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength

    Hey Jerry - no need to apologize. I guarantee we all have a version of your story wrapped up in ours. Great job on being candid and trying to move your relationship to a better place.
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    Nick 2.0

    Day 8 ... on my mini challenge to take my mindfulness habit to the next level. Yesterday was pretty busy and stressful and it did lead to a few moments of negative distracted porn based thinking, but I am happy to note that despite this, I found myself each time reached for my calming /...
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    This has to stop. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength

    Hey Jerry - I have been mostly off the grid these last few weeks and so am just catching up a bit, but wanted to reaffirm the comments of Phin and Guitar re the realization of just how far you have come on your journey and not being defined (or derailed) by a brief "lapse" in focus. Dude, you...
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    Nick 2.0

    Yes Guitar you described it well - that's exactly how I am trying to use the practice of mindfulness as well. It is simply a skill that I am trying to master (by breathing and letting go of being overly attached either to my emotions or thinking in the moment) that allows me to reset and get...
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    Nick 2.0

    Hey Guitar, yes setting an alarm - that's exactly what I have just started to do (because otherwise I too just get carried away in the moment). I set 6 of them yesterday for various times of the day and I found it really did help me to step out of the moment and rebalance. I am going to let...
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    Nick 2.0

    Thanks Jerry T! I appreciate your thoughts as well as your ongoing journal (so similar to mine). Day 5 today and yesterday was a mixed bag as I tried to dial in more consistently mini "time out" session in my day to step back, breathe, and be present and grounded. I must admit I found it...
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    Nick 2.0

    Well day 3 is here ... and I feel extra dialed into my 40 day challenge. In essence, I am trying to make a step change in being balanced and fully present throughout the day - so I can better let go of stress and related triggers when they come (even before they come). Practically speaking I...
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    My journey to be a better man.

    Hey Guitar, so awesome to hear you are experiencing a tangible difference in how you are thinking and what you are focusing on! As you have mentioned before, I also see many similarities between your journey and mine - still bumps on the road to deal with ... but they are becoming fewer and...
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    Nick 2.0

    Hey Phineas thanks as always for your encouragement. I am on Day 2 of my next level 40 day mini-challenge and it feels pretty great. I like the idea of having a mini 40 day sprint to focus on 1 particular area of improvement (vs. trying to boil the ocean) because it helps me keep things...
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