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Thanks for sharing. It puts a lot of context to the 90 days or more recovery period.

This is great advice. Thinking about being in a flatline for a certain period of time is counterproductive and will cause other issues like performance anxiety. Of course its easier said than done bc when the D is not working properly its a big issue. I’m struggling with the ups and downs of the...

The temptations to revert back to the old habit is coming back at least once per week. I need to put more of an effort with rewire to prevent my brain from going in the wrong direction. I put in too much time with my recovery to start over. The fact that I been recovering for over 6 months helps...

As long as you don’t go back down the rabbit hole than its more a slip than relapse. Listen to Dr. Trish on porn addiction. She mentioned relapse is when you go backwards and lose all the progress you did by PMO on a regular basis. One time incident than its a slip that you can learn from and...

The hardest thing to do was to admit to myself that I was addicted to porn. Reading others experiences as well as documenting my own made it easier to communicate to my wife. I waited till I was porn free for awhile before telling her about it. After I felt I had a good grasp with my addiction...

I would recommend telling your wife about the situation regardless of the outcome. I’m sure she is aware there is something going on and it will provide clarity that she is not the reason for the sexual challenges. I told my wife about my addiction to porn and the effects it has on my D. I lied...

I finally reviewed the list with my wife of different ways we can improve foreplay and intimacy. I let her know in more detail about the effects of porn and the importance of rewiring my brain through natural touch. I felt a huge weight was lifted off my shoulder and now we can work together to...

Day 173 no PMO. Rewiring my brain is more complicated than quitting porn. I don’t have the urges to watch porn anymore which is a accomplishment considering how many decades I watched consistently. Rewiring my brain takes commitment, overly communication, and frequent intimate time with my wife...

I’m fortunate to have my wife support with this process but at the same time its mentally exhausting not being cured from PIED. I want to be able to have a normal sex life but reality is its going to take longer than I anticipated. I have to continue with intimate time with my wife despite the...

I thought I had a good grasp of my porn addiction but was almost tempted to PMO. There was no trigger to cause it just my D getting a random erection something that was missing when I was addicted to porn. I noticed my horniness is starting to come back too since I’m not constantly emptying my...

Day 150. Feeling good about my recovery from porn. The urges and desire to watch porn is no longer dominating my thoughts. I have more time to do more productive things like working out in my home gym and spending time with my family. Phase 2 rewiring is taking longer than expected due to lack...

Great article. Its tempting to take the short cut for recovery but eventually you have to face what is at the end. I used it before going on this journey and it wasn’t consistent. I still get tempted at times thinking it would help after reading some people comments on this forum. The goal...

The pills are only a bandaid that are inconsistent since it doesn‘t address the underlying issue of porn related ED. Porn addiction changes the dopamine reaction to arousal which is part of the reason why getting an erection from human touch is difficult. I would focus on building intimacy with...

Based on what I read from other people post you should abstain from O for at least 90 days to allow your brain time to rewire. I wouldn’t avoid having sex with your wife as long as you don’t O. The connection with your wife helps speed up the recovery whether its sex or other forms of intimacy...

Day 142. Drafted list of varies ways my wife and I can connect to improve intimacy. Making the time has proven to be the next challenge with work and busy weekends. Staying strong mentally during this process is essential although I have my moments. Porn was a clutch when sex wasn’t available...

I’m glad your wife is supportive with your reboot. Viagra is a short term fix but doesn’t address the underlying issue. I get tempted to use it as well but don’t want to have to rely on it. You made the right decision and best of luck with the reboot.

The best time for change is when you hit rock bottom. When I wasn’t able to get an erection with my wife due to the countless hours of PMO it was my bottom. I’m committed to the reboot process and is now 138 days of no PMO. I feel like my wife and I are reconnecting even though I’m not fully...

Day 132. The pressure that I put on myself to have sex to end this sexless countdown is counterproductive. The thoughts of starting from the beginning and writing down other ways we can connect without penetration had my brain on overdrive to the point that I woke up with 100% morning wood...

Thanks Jonno for the support. It took awhile to come clean with her. Denied it for a long time but couldn’t hide not being able to have sex anymore. Need her support to speed up this recovery. This is by far the toughest challenge that I haven’t been able to resolve yet which brings a mix of...

129 days PMO hard mode. Getting frustrated with the lack of arousal from my D. Morning woods are sporadic which could be a result from lack of sleep or not fully recovered from orgasm a few weeks ago. Flatline is back after orgasm with wife. Getting tempted to try viagra to speed up the process...