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    Start Over at 55 or wait it out? Confused and Angst Ridden

    If you ever want to message—-feel free! It’s really comforting to see another gay man on this forum—and I’m sorry we have to go through it For me, him recognizing there’s a problem and really putting in the work is enough…for now. I want to see this relationship through bc outside of this lil...
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    Start Over at 55 or wait it out? Confused and Angst Ridden

    Love these boundaries!!! You just did my homework for me LOL
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    Post therapy

    I don’t think I enable his porn addiction but I do think I enable him if I set hard boundaries and when/if he crosses them I do nothing. I never knew the depths of his addiction…I don’t think he did either. In a way we found it out together. We’re in our late twenties and in the gay community so...
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    Seeking guidance

    This was so helpful THANK YOU for these words. I’m learning a lot about boundaries and trying to figure out what mine are. Our therapist told us to abstain from sexual activity for 30 days. We are going to work on finding that emotional intimacy without relying on the sex for now.
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    Post therapy

    My boyfriend and I had couples therapy on Tuesday and it was…insightful. I left the session feeling hopeful for the future and I think my boyfriend did too. I had one of the best nights I’ve had with him in a long time. Great morning too. Today, he returned to work after two days off and he...
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    Seeking guidance

    Hi Beautiful—-we are both in individual therapy. Totally necessary. I’ve been with my counsellor for years so she’s really getting her moneys worth lol I am hopeful the secrets and lies have ended for me and my bf but as for your gorgeous man—I have hopes that he’ll see this through. You’re so...
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    Seeking guidance

    Thank you, GBS. I know we’re both eager to see these changes. I just wish he wasn’t so sad through it all. I’m guessing whatever he’s going through internally is necessary if he wants to get better. I wouldn’t be chipper either. You and your wife are lucky to have each other. My boyfriend is...
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    Seeking guidance

    Hey all— This isn’t something I share with even my close friends bc I want to respect my boyfriend’s privacy. I know he feels ashamed and I don’t want to embarrass him. I have one friend who knows everything and she loves him and (of course) loves me but I don’t want to involve her too much...
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