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TLDR: I had sex with my wife over the weekend! It was spontaneous and felt great (for both). I did not have any performance issues. How that happened... On Saturday night, we showered together and I popped a boner. We waffled on whether to put it to use then and there, and instead got out of...

Thank you. I appreciate the honest feedback!

Hi Friends, It's been one month since I last wrote something on this forum, and I wanted to seek a little more advice and guidance. My wife's pregnancy has, in some ways, afforded me the chance to reboot more seriously since I'm not under pressure to deploy my swimmers every month :sneaky:. I...

Agreed! I am very affectionate with my wife (e.g. kissing, holding hands, snuggling, hugging). She even calls me Pepe Le Pew haha (the love-drunk skunk from Looney Tunes). But this affection is more so how I am as a person/husband and my love language as opposed to my means of creating a sexual...

Hi Blondie, You'd mentioned in a post above that when things are going smoothly and well for you, you tend to have sex with your girl several times a week. I'm wondering if you've reflected on whether there's a common set of circumstances or conditions that help you feel "in the mood" so...

Thanks for everyone's patience with me. I hope you'll indulge another question. Today, I saw an attractive woman wearing athletic workout gear. I noticed her sexy physique (from afar) and felt a small sexual urge/twinge. I recognize this situation might be straight, pure objectification and...

Ah. Makes sense. Thank you for that explanation!

I forget who said "Comparison is the thief of joy," but it's been difficult for me to hear from my close male friends that they still PMO and have sex with their wives without PIED or ED affecting them. It's isolating and confusing to wonder why they haven't been affected by porn but I have...

Thank you for the continued encouragement and kind words about my wife :)

Thank you, GBS and Androg. Your statement "your brain is hugely confused (understatement)" resonates tremendously. I feel so disconnected from my sexual nature at this moment. When my wife asked what she could do to help turn me on a few days ago, I was dumbfounded! I appreciate your advice and...

Thank you all for your words of reassurance and support. I appreciate it. I have not masturbated or consumed porn for 60 days or so. I've had several wet dreams, some of which involve me (in the dream) thinking about consuming porn. Some times I wake up and can't recall the dream being sexual...

Hi Friends, TLDR: I am married four years. My wife is pregnant with our first child, and we are beyond grateful and excited. Trying to conceive with PIED and DE was incredibly challenging, and at times I resorted to looking at porn when it was taking me too long to get hard. When trying to...

I’m writing to share another victory. I just had sex to orgasm with my wife (she wanted to because of her ovulation window). To be honest, I wasn’t in the mood and my penis looked like an acorn because it’s freezing where I live (northern US), but I got under the blankets with my wife and just...

I'm writing with a quick update as I approach 90 days. Nocturnal boners and morning wood are back! They're so frequent I sometimes have to readjust in the middle of the night to get back to sleep. I've been tempted to MO in the shower but have refrained because I don't want to mess with a...

I am writing to share another small win. Last night, Day 56, I had sex to O again with my wonderful bride! It wasn't easy! We're at her parents' house for the holidays, with my sister-in-law in the next room, and there was some pressure to make it happen this week (quietly) for purposes of...

Just had great sex to O on day 39 with my lovely wife! Came home from the gym (chest + back day) to my wife. She said she'd shower with me, but when she took off her clothes I offered her a massage. Once I started massaging her, I randomly got semi-hard, and we just kissed a bit and she touched...

This is normal. One of the mistakes we as men make is thinking we need to be sex machines every time we get in bed with our GF, wife, etc. Sometimes your body and mind are clear, relaxed and so in sync that boners are great. Other times, not so much. Go easy on yourself! My advice is to enjoy...

Thank you, Supreme! I am keeping the faith on this day 35. The road ahead still scares me, but I am seeing some positive developments. Nocturnal erections have reappeared some nights, especially on days that I lift weights. I don't feel urges to look at any kind of porn or arousing content...

To conclude what’s been a crazy week filled with highs and lows… Wife and I tried sex one more time on Saturday. It was fun, I gave her a massage, we kissed and she touched me. I got semi-hard but missed that final ZING to really enjoy intercourse. It was disappointing only in the sense that I...

I understand, Scorpio. I am one month out since last consuming porn. In the last 30 days, I have wanted to cry, not get out of bed, not eat. I even called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline this past Monday because I was feeling so terrible. I do attribute part of my symptoms to PAWS and...