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  1. doneatlast

    Thoughts and observations

    Yeah, when you're trying to quit porn then EVERYTHING around you is a porn trigger. You have seen so many naked bodies that you can very easily see the girls at the gym and imagine, probably to a very high accuracy, what they'd look like naked and in some sort of sex act. Before you know it...
  2. doneatlast

    Wondering About my progress

    Your progress isn't lost. Each time you've been able to say "no" to porn helps you build the skill of saying "no" when you are triggered. Those streaks are pretty darn good and you should be proud of them. You have worked hard to get this far. Resetting your counter is up to you - you make...
  3. doneatlast

    Boredom

    Finding things to do that don't have internet connections help, too. If you're online then you're just a "new tab" click away from peeking. You aren't going to get dopamine highs comparable to porn. The goal is to let your brain down regulate its dopamine and get used to things that give much...
  4. doneatlast

    Cam Girl Addiction: From Financially Savvy to Buried in Debt

    No it isn't true, it is just a broad generalization and not meant to be taken too literally. I simply mean that it is scratching a different sort of itch in those brain reward circuits than just regular hardcore porn, but tapping into the parts that seek relationship building and bonding.
  5. doneatlast

    Cam Girl Addiction: From Financially Savvy to Buried in Debt

    Hi FittyBands, Thanks for sharing your story. I know the camgirls are super addictive, but I don't hear people talk about it enough. When I was still hooked on porn I watched a lot of cam girls but I didn't enter the chats or tip, I just lurked. It did give me a lot of time to observe those...
  6. doneatlast

    You've all heard about Jeffrey Toobin at this point

    Yeah, this could touch on politics and turn into a heckin' romp like the rest of the internet, but there is plenty to talk about besides politics. If you haven't heard, Jeffrey Toobin is a writer/journalist/political wonk, recently associated with CNN and The New Yorker.  He was on a Zoom call...
  7. doneatlast

    Enlighten me. What does porn addiction look like for women?

    If this thread gets many replies, it may end up full of triggers!  Fair warning! Or, what does porn consumption by women look like?  What I mean isn't what do non-porn viewing women think of men looking at porn, but what is it look like for women who consume porn? I ask because I was looking...
  8. doneatlast

    New video worth watching - Tedx - Escaping Porn Addiction - Eli Nash

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYWKVAeu6Y About 19 minutes long, probably will be one of the "must watch" videos for rebooting.  I particularly like that he spends a bit of time talking about trauma, wounds and escape from those wounds.  It is classical addiction psychology that sometimes...
  9. doneatlast

    self improvement and usage of time

    It is a bit of a tangent, but these sorts of things pique a lot of interest around here.  We're all trying to discover better ways of spending our time and finding ways of sticking to it, and this video rings true with that.  Specifically, about reading, being a better reader, and getting...
  10. doneatlast

    One year. It feels good.

    Hello all.  Today, the 16th, marks the one year anniversary of my last PMO.  Tomorrow, the 17th, marks the anniversary of my first day clean of a streak one year and counting.  I didn't share my PMO struggles with many people, so while I want to share this joy and celebrate, there are few I can...
  11. doneatlast

    Why is Gary feeding the trolls?

    Consider yourself well fed, I guess. I'm not even sure what your grievance is. Because he had a two hour video and talked about something that didn't interest you...? Moreover, it is an important discussion to many whether it is properly categorized as an addiction, and if it doesn't matter...
  12. doneatlast

    Are there porn addicts without fetishes/escalations?

    This is just a thought experiment.  If I were to meet someone with a porn addiction and say to them "you are addicted to porn, and you also have a particular kind that you are obsessed with, but also find disturbing", how often would I be right?  100% of the time?  50/50?  Rarely?
  13. doneatlast

    Hotness vs. Beauty

    Hello all, I stumbled on an interesting video this morning and it seemed like many here could benefit from it.  I don't agree with 100% of it, but it does say a lot of things we say here on the boards very often, but in a clearer, different language.  Check it out if you have 11 minutes to...
  14. doneatlast

    O Felix Culpa!

    Happy Easter everyone. I just came back from the Easter Vigil, and as some of you may know, part of it is a long chanted prayer called the Exultet.  It is absolutely beautiful, and when I heard one of my favorite lines, I thought of all of you.  It is "O necessary sin of Adam, which brought the...
  15. doneatlast

    New(ish) podcast - Love People Use Things, Matt Fradd

    Thought I'd share this with you guys.  I've only listened to one episode so far ("Here's the main reason you watch porn"), but am deeply impressed. Matt Fradd has been writing/speaking about porn for a while now, largely in Catholic circles.  He is Catholic himself.  He has been, as of late...
  16. doneatlast

    A success story

    Hello everyone, It has been a long time since I've posted.  I know this place, while very valuable, can also be a bit dark, because people usually post at their most desperate hour.  This is good, those are the times to talk all of this through and look for help, but it also makes it seem...
  17. doneatlast

    Daniel Amen - Genius or Quack?

    Hello everyone, After seeing a Ted Talk with Daniel Amen I did some research and grabbed one of his books off of Amazon.  His basic schtick is that for his treatment he heavily uses brain imaging.  His main hook is that the psychiatric field is the only field that is reluctant to look at the...
  18. doneatlast

    Reboot side effects mimicking UTI or enlarged prostate

    I have done a bit of reading and it seems this is fairly common.  During my own reboot (28 days as of this post and going strong) I've had this come up, and wanted to start a thread since I can't get clear answers, only isolate patterns. So, the first thing is semen in my urine.  If you're...
  19. doneatlast

    My first flatline... not that bad

    I'm glad I have read enough posts here because I know what is going on right now.  After quitting a couple weeks ago, I think I have my most successful reboot to date.  Not because it is my longest, but because I don't miss porn at all.  I wrote about that in another thread, and I feel extremely...
  20. doneatlast

    If you aren't already disgusted with porn, check this out...

    I just finished watching a movie on Netflix called Mardaani.  It is a fictional movie and not about porn, but hear me out.  If you've seen Taken (yeah, the one where Liam Neeson talks in the creepy voice), then you have a rough idea what this movie is about.  Except, the realities of human...
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