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Hello Phineas, I haven't been present much in your journal and couldn't support you. However I have this feeling that I also will miss you. You have helped me and countless others giving insight and help, being supportive, persistent and be there for us. It takes energy, time and many other...

Yes a holistic thing thank you. During my battles with porn in the past I never took care of myself on many levels. Now I do. I agree. I should not blame events, situations or finding excuses but take full responsibility that I chose to lapse. Thank you. I like Marcus Aurelius quotes and other...

Thank you very much Phineas! I still have a long way to go. You are doing great looking at your progress so far! I'm starting to learn to let it go more for myself a lapse instead of making it a big deal. I feel like it makes it easier as fear and disappointment are also triggers for me. I...

I like this one you wrote. This reminds me of that quote ''Death smiles at us and all we can do is smile back'' Marcus Aurelius.

Hello Phineas 808, Yes that is right, you explained it exactly what I mean and you go even further in detail! Thank you. For many of us the issue go deeper than just stopping a habit indeed and it so happen we use porn to try to meet those needs. You understand it correctly yes. :) Self...

You are welcome :) I am also glad reading your message thank you! Thank you for asking about my experience. Unfortunate I got stuck in a loop going back and forth having difficulty going beyond 22 days. I think it isn't the struggle by urges anymore that keeps me down but the unhappiness and...

Hello Escapeandnevercomeback, I have a question for you. Do you do things on a daily basis which makes you happy? Are there things you love doing but you don't do because of porn or other reasons? Any hobbies? I find when I do things I want to do, love doing, it makes it easier for me to not...

Well done Phineas reaching 50 days and beyond!

May I share with you Earthwalker the following which kept me stuck in a loop? I have done the same thing in my experience just like you. Avoiding porn but searching things like massage therepist, tantra, searching pictures of women I know. Looking at women in sport, instagram or in real life...

These looks to me just normal withdrawal symptoms. Hold on, endure and do not give in. Watch your thoughts and emotions and when they turn negative, turn them back in positive. Just thinking like I just feel a bit down today but man am I happy to finally get rid of this addiction for good...

Hello Tryinghere, Thank you for your message. My apologize for my late respond. I think attraction to women is a good thing, not a bad thing. I meant we can find a women beautiful without the need to fantasize sexual about her like looking at her body parts, stare, get an erection and get...

Hello H&M, May I share with you the following. There is a difference I learned in looking at a women and find her hot or beautiful. The difference is lust or real love and only one of them creates withdrawal pangs, urges and cravings. While the other not. Perhaps you look at them without lust...

Hello H&M, Thank you for your post. I can understand why this sounds exaggerated and pointless to you because I was thinking the same like you back in 2015. There are addicts like me who are a quite sever case. The battle is not only behind a computer screen but can also be in real life, IF...

Hello Phineas, Thank you for writing back. Reading your post it reminds me of how helpful counting days was. Perhaps only counting days in the beginning might be beneficial until the habit has changed and then the right approach could be to forgot about porn all together. This was my idea to do...

An extra part of my experience with reading Rational Recovery and my mistakes I have changed the steps in the treat. After reading Rational Recovery, I mis-understood the instructions and I thought I had to feel the beast (the addictive voice) in order to learn to recognize it. Because I...

Step 7 The no arousal method continues part 2 As Easypeasy book explained here: ''For up to three weeks after your last session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate but distinct factors: 1. Dopamine withdrawal pangs. An empty, insecure feeling similar...

Hello Phineas, First of all I wish you and everyone a Happy New Year! And second, well done having an amazing streak. :) What happened to you and to me on 24th is the reason why I finally figured out for myself also I should stop counting days. The thing is, when I count days, I have the...

This is one of those post just like williams to be read by many and put on top visible for new and old visitors if you ask me. Well done Phineas thank you for this!

You can do this because this time you have Rational Recovery! The animal part has been exposed to you. Take care

Hello Phineas 808, I didn't know you read the book Rational Recovery! Nice to know :) I should have read your 18 Principles earlier. I haven't finished reading yet as I am reading very careful and slow. I read your 18 Principles and I like it a lot! I didn't know about Kathryn Hansen's work...