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So I had posted a bit of this in my journal but I see this as a huge success and wanted to share it here as well for anyone who might appreciate this. It is a different kind of success but to me it is one of the biggest and most important! My husband has been in recovery for over 4 yrs. He has...

I saw a post in the main forum regarding this topic and thought I would start one here. How is quarantine effecting your recovery? Is it helping? Is it hurting? How so? For myself in some ways it?s helpful because on one hand we have more time together. On the other our time together always...

How to handle when your spouse relapses? I have been mulling this over quite a bit. He has gone almost 4 years without porn or porn subs. I feel like the past 4 years has been nothing short of a psychopathic roller-coaster of emotion. A lot of hurt but also a lot of growth on both our parts. I...

Well I am feeling supper triggered. I feel like I am having a mental battle with my mind and my emotions. This morning my husband and I had a conversation about social media. He doesn't have Facebook or instagram or anything because they were a big part of his addiction. He was viewing our...

So we have this neighbor. Over the course of our friendship (my husband and I with him and his wife) we have started a bible study and prayer group and have connected. My husband shared about his porn addiction. My neighbor admitted he had the same struggle. He was 4 months clean, which is...

I did post a bit about this in my journal but thought I would post here as well to hear other opinions about this. I am noticing things as my kids get older. The main things we have been dealing with is the fact that my 8 year old daughter is being tease for hairy legs. She is 8! Why do kids...

I have been writing and thinking about a few things. I have been slowly forming a small group of support for women/ partners. My husband is been participating in a group for men and the leader is stepping down so he is taking of that group. I was reading though my journal and think about this...

So my daughter is 8. She is in such a hurry to grow up. I keep trying to encourage her to live in the moment but I know she just loves the idea of being a grown up, lol. I started "needing" to wear a bra when I was 9. She recently asked for a bra. She likes it because it makes her feel more...

So I have been noticing something for a bit and have been mulling over these questions for some time. Shame and vulnerability. I talk a lot with my husband and I connect from time to time with men on here. I have noticed how much shame we attach to conversations about sex. Then one day the...

I just received a ridiculously stupid but a bit graphic message from a new member, Nestor Thomas. If anyone else get one just ignore him. Some people really need to get a life. I find it incredible sad that sending stupid messages to women from this site is their form of entertainment but...

I know most of the success stories here are from porn addicts but I think it is good as a partner to share milestones and success too. Shows how relationship can heal and achieve success too. My husband is just over a  year and a half porn free! I am in a year and a half of accepting this new...

So I wanted to start this thread so get thoughts and ideas on something. My parents are driving their motorhome out to visit and will be driving back home (across the country) at the end of May. My daughter is in a wedding in May. They are purposefully staying that long so they can drive our...

Well yesterday was women's day. I was really surprised by some of the things I saw on woman's day. I had numerous experiences where I observed women judging each other based on looks, clothing, ect. My take away form all of these things, just a feeling I had was a lack of support from women...

So I know this is a weird place to look for ideas and input but hey you never know, right? Lol. I try to be open-minded and I have found some pretty remarkable people here so I am asking for ideas and suggestions on how to help my son with a struggle that I am fearing will lead him down a...

I have been reading a lot, and writing in my journal a lot lately. The new year is always a time of reflection and setting goals, at least for me. One thing I noticed this year that felt different from past years, this year I really didn't do much reflecting, I feel like my mind has been so...

I have been in the works of organizing a group at our church for partners. A lot of work has been put into this. My church has done a lot to support as well. They have even ordered a bunch of books that I requested so that we could have them to work through together as well as resources for...

I am working on seeking support when I am feeling triggered rather than just trying to manage it on my own as t doesn't always work, lol. So I am coming on here and asking for support. I had a really weird experience this morning and just wanted some thoughts about how to process and handle this...

I just wanted to start a thread about the holidays. I know we are all in different places in our recoveries and the holidays can be great or very triggering. I just wanted to start a conversation about it. Where are at regarding the holidays? What support do you need? For me, I am in a much...

I have been doing some journaling on forgiveness and really pondering what forgiveness looks like. I feel like my husband and I are in a good place overall. There are still areas where I can feel the hurt well up but they are slowing becoming fewer and fewer and the hurt has less power over me...

This topic came up in a post I made in the partner's section seeking support. I thought it was an interesting topic and I can see that there are a lot of different perspectives on it so I thought I would give it it's own thread to discuss. I have posted this in the partner's forum but I also...