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who's living in his own skin and can't stand the company" -Bruce Springsteen "Every nerve in my body is so naked and numb I can't even remember what it was I came here to get away from Don't even hear the murmur of a prayer It's not dark yet, but it's getting there"- Dylan One of those days I...

Just read another interesting metaphor. I suspect most of us PAs have other emotional/mental issues. Many of us have sought help from therapists to varying degrees of success. I've been reading about physical manifestations of adverse childhood experiences, and that "Trying to cure the heart...

Can someone post the link to creating a tracker? I've looked through the forums but can't seem to find it.

I just read a couple of interesting metaphors for addiction: 1. It is like licking honey off of the edge of a razor blade. 2. It is like drinking salt water to quench your thirst. I'm finding these two images helpful in resisting my constant cravings. Can you think of any other metaphors for...

In another post I admitted I wasn't sure why I awoke so fully this time to the reality of my PA and my determination to recover. I reread a passage last night from a text that seems to explain what is different this time. It is from a Buddhist text but I offer it as psychology/philosophy, not...

In another post I admitted I wasn't sure why I awoke so fully this time to the reality of my PA and my determination to recover. I reread a passage last night from a text that seems to explain what is different this time. It is from a Buddhist text but I offer it as psychology/philosophy, not...

I posted this in the PA forum, but I wanted to share it with partners since the issue was recently raised as to the possibility that a partner might be partly to blame for a PA's actions: "Last night my wife and I had an argument about something minor and stupid. I was prepared to discuss the...

Last night my wife and I had an argument about something minor and stupid. I was prepared to discuss the situation calmly but she wasn't. She stopped talking to me. Then I didn't feel so calm! She always goes to bed a couple of hours later than I do. The old voices piped up: "I'm angry. I'm...

Who are the flesh and blood women whom we call upon to satisfy our lust? We use them like the tissues we discard after M, and with a click of the mouse they are gone. I've found it easier to resist the lure of P when I think of these women whom society has deemed disposable. Well, I think, the...

From another Eve Decker song: "Old habits keep arising In those grooves deep in my head Like a dusty broken record I?d like a new on in it?s stead With patience as my guide I can see the light of day I?m gonna keep on keeping on, there is no turning away."

Just came across a song titled "Energy" by Eve Decker. Thought these excerpts might be of help to those engaged in the struggle: "There are times when I?m completely shut down Want nobody around, least of all myself... I do what it takes to tune out But addictions only increase my afflictions...

As a PA seeking advice to help my partner, I hope I have not sabotaged this safe zone for partners or contributed to the recent posts regarding signing off. I will limit myself to the PA arena from now on. I apologize if I have been part of the problem, and wish everyone the best!

I've received much support on this forum for telling my wife. I'm thinking of writing a letter to her- not to avoid face to face (I would be present while she reads it), but to set out what I want to say how I want to say it, going into as much detail as possible and assuring her that none of...

Take it if you can use this or leave it if you can't. It's a Buddhist mindfulness training but applies to all of us.: "Aware of the suffering caused by sexual misconduct, I am committed to cultivating responsibility and learning ways to protect the safety and integrity of individuals, couples...

Last night around 9:00 pm I got the familiar anticipation itch to PMO. When I went to bed I tried MO but could not get an erection. I tried P but with no results. What I?ve read about the torturous life of women in porn might have turned me off, or my decision to abstain from P might have left...

Today is only day 6 for me (the tracker app isn't taking new counters for some reason), but I am seeing some results. I haven't really had significant withdrawal symptoms (do these start later in the process?). I feel more love and affection for my wife. Last night I gave her an hour-long...

Is there a book, website, or video that addresses what really goes on behind the scenes in the porn industry? I'm not looking for something to get my jollies- I think it would be helpful to learn more about what is really going on with the women in porn- to help stop viewing them as objects and...

Someone recently posted a question about whether to tell a new partner about his PIED. My situation is different. I have been married for twenty years. My wife and I have not had sex in over a year or so (a fact I've used to rationalize my use of P). She is going through menopause, and I've...

I'm trying to set up my tracker but the website seems to be down. Does anybody else have this problem? Has it happened in the past? How long do outages usually last, if so?

I just started reading Your Brain On Porn Sunday the 23rd. I used porn right after I bought it-before I started reading it! I guess that's like an alcoholic having one last drunk before going AA. I have been porn-free since Monday the 24th. Starting this Monday I have begun keeping a journal on...