Deuce26
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You have an interesting take on your situation. He seems to be quite the ass in requesting his take on what your "divorce" should look like. His life will change as much as yours will, there is no mistaking that.
Manopause.....mid life crisis....I've heard those terms before. I'm not sure if I believe in them so much as it is everyone's own life path and journey that shapes them.
I get a sporty car not because my life is in crisis, but because I can finally afford and enjoy one. And I don't think I am compensating for anything. And if my little guy doesn't meet expectations, I have hands and a mouth that can serve amicably in the mid to later innings when my staring pitcher isn't giving his best stuff. And maybe he is the same way, but he can't express his true self and intentions because he isn't there yet. Maybe he is suffering from menopause and trying to regain his youth to match his experience and wants. I think it's more that he can't man up to his changing self and to talk to someone about it.
Maybe he couldn't express himself when he was vulnerable as a child to his closest female influence, his mom. Or he was told that if he had a problem, that he needed to try to solve the problem himself and to not get all emotional because that wasn't becoming of a man.
Or maybe, just maybe, I am talking about me.....and my experience, and how watching porn meant I could get off without having to interact with a woman because that would mean feeling vulnerable, and that ain't no way to act with a woman. A man is supposed to be strong and have all of the answers and act in a behavior becoming to a man and can earn a woman's respect.
It doesn't always work that way, and being a man means being vulnerable to the one's he loves the most. And I am discovering that and finding that it makes me feel good even if it means others do not. At least the story is out there.
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Manopause.....mid life crisis....I've heard those terms before. I'm not sure if I believe in them so much as it is everyone's own life path and journey that shapes them.
I get a sporty car not because my life is in crisis, but because I can finally afford and enjoy one. And I don't think I am compensating for anything. And if my little guy doesn't meet expectations, I have hands and a mouth that can serve amicably in the mid to later innings when my staring pitcher isn't giving his best stuff. And maybe he is the same way, but he can't express his true self and intentions because he isn't there yet. Maybe he is suffering from menopause and trying to regain his youth to match his experience and wants. I think it's more that he can't man up to his changing self and to talk to someone about it.
Maybe he couldn't express himself when he was vulnerable as a child to his closest female influence, his mom. Or he was told that if he had a problem, that he needed to try to solve the problem himself and to not get all emotional because that wasn't becoming of a man.
Or maybe, just maybe, I am talking about me.....and my experience, and how watching porn meant I could get off without having to interact with a woman because that would mean feeling vulnerable, and that ain't no way to act with a woman. A man is supposed to be strong and have all of the answers and act in a behavior becoming to a man and can earn a woman's respect.
It doesn't always work that way, and being a man means being vulnerable to the one's he loves the most. And I am discovering that and finding that it makes me feel good even if it means others do not. At least the story is out there.
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