Succes finally after 3 years of struggle!

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Blenderhead

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Si said:
Just read all this again.

Blenderhead, you're the king!!!

I'm almost 2 years no pmo, 4 month hardmode (had a gf b4).

Mw and libido is insane, confidence is great and anxiety lessened.

I feel a bit scared to try sex though, incase I flat line again or my confidence and drive diminishes. It's a very dark place and I'm happy to be out of it, but I need some sex soon... But don't want to risk my progress.

What's a man with his new found erections to do?
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Hi SI,

Thanks so much! I just decided to look at this site again and share my experiences. When I was rebooting (now it's a lifestyle for me, so I don't count days anymore) I was extremely depressed too and failed many times. I also thought my dick would never work again.

At the moment my libido has improved even more. I have a girlfriend now who is also in her thirties, and we have sex a lot. I orgasm too often these days perhaps, but my libido is still there every day. We have sex 4-6 times per week and sometimes for hours. I have started practicing more tantra, so I do not orgasm and when we have sex we take breaks when I am close to orgasm and I am getting better at massage. We have a great sex life at the moment! I don't think my libido has been better, because all my sexual energy is directed toward my girlfriend. I don't watch porn - I have accidentally watched a few mins.

Here are my tips:

1) Spend your energy on working out or other productive things
2) Go out more and talk with women and try to direct your sexdrive to real life interactions
3) Try day gaming (hit on women during the day)

I met many interesting girls this way and my girlfriend is impressed at my sexual experience. But I got much of this experience in just a few years.

And thanks! I'm really happy about this progress too. If I had not rebooted I fear my life would never have been fixed. Now I am focusing more on my career. It took me 3 years before I finally stopped having problems with PIED and now It's just a thing of the past, totally.

Best regards!

 
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misc person 86

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Blenderhead said:
Si said:
Just read all this again.

Blenderhead, you're the king!!!

I'm almost 2 years no pmo, 4 month hardmode (had a gf b4).

Mw and libido is insane, confidence is great and anxiety lessened.

I feel a bit scared to try sex though, incase I flat line again or my confidence and drive diminishes. It's a very dark place and I'm happy to be out of it, but I need some sex soon... But don't want to risk my progress.

What's a man with his new found erections to do?
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Hi SI,

Thanks so much! I just decided to look at this site again and share my experiences. When I was rebooting (now it's a lifestyle for me, so I don't count days anymore) I was extremely depressed too and failed many times. I also thought my dick would never work again.

At the moment my libido has improved even more. I have a girlfriend now who is also in her thirties, and we have sex a lot. I orgasm too often these days perhaps, but my libido is still there every day. We have sex 4-6 times per week and sometimes for hours. I have started practicing more tantra, so I do not orgasm and when we have sex we take breaks when I am close to orgasm and I am getting better at massage. We have a great sex life at the moment! I don't think my libido has been better, because all my sexual energy is directed toward my girlfriend. I don't watch porn - I have accidentally watched a few mins.

Here are my tips:

1) Spend your energy on working out or other productive things
2) Go out more and talk with women and try to direct your sexdrive to real life interactions
3) Try day gaming (hit on women during the day)

I met many interesting girls this way and my girlfriend is impressed at my sexual experience. But I got much of this experience in just a few years.

And thanks! I'm really happy about this progress too. If I had not rebooted I fear my life would never have been fixed. Now I am focusing more on my career. It took me 3 years before I finally stopped having problems with PIED and now It's just a thing of the past, totally.

Best regards!
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This is what I like to hear man!!! 4-6 times a week would do me fine. Or just every time I wanted it to work it would.

Great tips. I've been working out since I quit and interact more with women, but still struggling with a consistent libido. When it works though, it works well. When it doesn't, I'm no longer plagued by social anxiety like I was for so many years.

S'all good, it's all progress.

Thanks for updating!
 
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Blenderhead

Member
DepressedAndOut said:
Blenderhead,

When did you lose your virginity? How much  sexual contact did you have with girls before losing your virginity?

I'm nearly 34 and I'm a virgin - I never had one intimate moment with a woman and I'm constantly sick and worried that my PIED will not cure.

Your help would be much appreciated.
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Hey dude!

I really understand your pain. I had my first sexual experience at age 21 (a few times) but basically I had no sexual experience when I was around age 31 when I started my reboot (5 years ago) at age 31. So I was essentially a virgin with no sexual experience like you. You really need to turn your ship around. I can imagine that you - like me - almost have reached the point where you are considering suicide! But you can really turn it around. There are so many beautiful women in their thirties and also fourties but you need to get more experience!

1) Start working out if you don't!
2) Start going out every weekend to get more experience talking with women - even if you are an introvert (I went out alone many times! But gradually I got more friends)
3) Stop watching porn and stop masturbating (or at least reduce MO to max once per week! I suggest in your case you stop completely because this will really fire up your motivation to go out!)
4) Eat healthy (stop eating cakes, chips, fast-food, don't drink soda at all etc.)
5) Get some nice clothes and do your best to look good (maybe get some pro photos taken for social media once your are in shape)
6) Change your negative thought patterns and focus on the positive things in your life - let go of the past!

In the beginning I got so many rejections and girls would not talk with me. However, if you practice (look up RSD on youtube for tips) you can really learn to become more attractive. I have been with many different girls now even as young as 19. So you are still in your prime man! You can do it, although it is really going to be tough for you!

In the end I was really a new man. So it's not too late for you!

I suggest your look for some community near your place for men who enjoy going out. You can learn much from these men! Some of them are really awesome with women! In return you can learn them about the benifits of no-fap and no-porn. One of my favorite PUAs is BADBOY who essentially went from a wheelchair and being the most unattractive guy to becoming a king with women. RSD Tyler is also great.

Good luck!  8) 8) 8) ;D ;D ;D





 
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Relentless Observer

Active Member
Blenderhead,
I have abstained from porn for about 2 years now.
Hearing your long journey and continued improvement gives me hope.
If you see this message I hope you can give further updates.
I am in my mid twenties now and it seems like I am hopeless at times.  I have committed myself to recovery regardless how long it takes... but it is tough.  Maybe it will be another year...or longer, but I hope to post a success story here in the future.
 
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Maglue

Active Member
Wow thanks guys im 24 days in after a long time of abuse...
And now stopping edging aswell... ...
Geeze what a journey eah its gonna be so worth it
 
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