Five year no PMO journey

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i89rt5

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jj,

Thank you for continuing to come back to update your amazing progress. Your long streak of more than three and a half years serves a powerful motivation for me, and I believe for many other of us as well. I admire your achievement. I have to say you are a role model for me

Given your age, your recovery is so incredible. I'm so happy for you that the improvement gets back your "married life like it once was".

At this point of your recovery, how often do you wake up in the middle of the night with a raging hardon?

Enjoy the summer!
 
ShadeTrenicin

ShadeTrenicin

Well-Known Member
Hi jjacks,

I somehow loved reading your latest post although I have not followed your journey. It shows that age is not an influence on the recovery proces and that anyone can make a change, despite your age. Thank you for sharing this with us and congratulation on your amazing streak of 1350 days!!! I hope that you and your wife will continue to have that married life like it once was!


Good luck
 
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jjacks

Active Member
I appreciate your comments, thanks.

@i89 -- it's not about the frequency, rather, it is about being a man once again. i started getting morning woods a few month into the reboot. Now, well over 3 years later, I still celebrate it, whether daily or once in a week. At my age, that is a cause for celebration.

Oh, I also write about my experience. Writing a journal here, chronicling your thoughts and feelings as you go through the reboot process,  is one of the best things you can do. I come back to this site from time to time because I need a reminder once in a while of what I endured to get here today and to let others know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you stick with the program.

Cheers,

-jj
 
Andrew1973

Andrew1973

Active Member
Great to see you doing so well JJ. I have wondered what the stories are behind all the accounts that are not updated frequently. Are these all success stories that have ridden off into the sunset with a smile on their face, or all failures who have been sucked back into the addiction. Clearly the answer is somewhere between the two extremes, and it's really great to see one of the former in evidence who takes the time to come and check in and by doing so inspire the rest of us. All the best!
 
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i89rt5

Member
jjacks, I hope you will come back here to update us on your latest experience and share with us your thoughts and reflections on your journey, when you reach 4 years no PMO in 3 weeks from now.
 
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jjacks

Active Member
It was 4 years ago that I cancelled my sex webcam accounts and deleted the collection of videos and photos I had assembled over years. I remember thinking at the time that I was losing my ?friends?, but in retrospect, I find this really pitiful (calling a photo of a naked stranger a friend), because my real friend -- my wife --  was the one who had been losing throughout. PIED had fully set in and I was a limp excuse for a husband and lover.

So I got rid of the triggers, I moved my home office to a less private location, and began counting days and logging my thoughts and feelings in this forum on a regular basis.  That is the formula ? pretty simple. Along the way, I engaged with many others who were in similar situations and had the opportunity for dialogue with them to learn and for mutual support.

It took me just a few months to see some early results ?morning woods after a couple of months for example ? but it would be misleading to give a generic timetable to undo PIED, I am sure we are all different that way. The interim positive signs were encouraging, however, and the resulting self-confidence a contributing factor to the healing.

At first I had to fight to resist the urge, but it became easier over time. After a year in this program, I had eradicated any urge to PMO and regain a sexual ardor I had long thought impossible (and, apparently, re-awakened my wife after menopause and chemotherapy had slowed our conjugal life to a lifeless crawl). It is hard to compare the present to the past after all the life changes and our own aging bodies in the interim. However, looking back, 4 years later, I never expected that sex would be this good, or even possible, at 71 years old.

I have been a regular visitor to this forum to remind myself never to slip back ? you have to be vigilant with addiction -- as well as to provide support to others when I can. So, my friends, thanks again to those who helped along the way. To all readers, please stick with the program. It works. As per our friend lyon03 ? ?porn is not an option!?
 
LetItGoAlready

LetItGoAlready

Active Member
Great advice on sticking with the program. You're living proof that the programs works, and that in itself is super inspiring! Congrats on 4 years, jjacks!
 
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jjacks

Active Member
I just celebrated 5 years no PMO! Everything I said a year ago applies. I will be 73 years old in a few months, and am still celebrating being all the man I want to be with a partner who rediscovered her libido at the same time.

Guys: follow the program. Delete your porn accounts, log your feelings, count your days, admit setbacks and strive for better. It is tough but it works and the payback is extraordinary. Porn is not an option (thanks, lyon03).
 
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LettingPornGo

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jjacks said:
I just celebrated 5 years no PMO! Everything I said a year ago applies. I will be 73 years old in a few months, and am still celebrating being all the man I want to be with a partner who rediscovered her libido at the same time.

Guys: follow the program. Delete your porn accounts, log your feelings, count your days, admit setbacks and strive for better. It is tough but it works and the payback is extraordinary. Porn is not an option (thanks, lyon03).
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Congratulations...well done. A great inspiration for others with this addiction.
 
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