Wolfman
Active Member
Sorry to hear about that DepressedAndOut. You did muster the courage to make a pass, and that's commendable, but to be fair, it was also inappropriate, especially touching someone just like that. I'm no flirting expert by a long shot, but unless there are "signs" (she either looks at you with intent, or is curious about you, etc.), then you really have no indication that they're interested in you, and so you should proceed (if you still want to) with the absolute minimum: only verbally, tell them you find them attractive and you want to ask them out. If they refuse, then you've given your emotions a fair shot and you can put it behind you. I also think the circumstances make it extra hard: she's at her place of work, not at a club, so she's not looking to flirt. Thanks for telling us about this--it was no doubt difficult the first time and then have to recount it in words must've made it more despairing.
The times are especially hard now for meeting people and doing group activities, which is what I would normally recommend if you'd want to potentially meet somebody, so alleviate the loneliness with social contact with friends and family, or join live discussions groups online about stuff (book club? physics club? chess club?).
I hope you'll get better days soon. The bad days will come but they will also go, and on good days try to use the energy to set new patterns and practical changes. I wish you the best!
The times are especially hard now for meeting people and doing group activities, which is what I would normally recommend if you'd want to potentially meet somebody, so alleviate the loneliness with social contact with friends and family, or join live discussions groups online about stuff (book club? physics club? chess club?).
I hope you'll get better days soon. The bad days will come but they will also go, and on good days try to use the energy to set new patterns and practical changes. I wish you the best!